Real or Fake
 

Do you prefer real breasts or fake?
I really would like to get implants, but am worried that I will meet a guy that is great, but hates fake breats. I am really insecure about my flat chest.
I have met guys who said they like the way real breasts feel, but they like to stare at fake breasts bc they look good. i must admit that fake breasts have become so common i too think they look a lot better than the real ones/
Another thing which is kind of embarressing, but I'll say it anyway my boobs are far apart. I hate it!!!

well...it goes back to the question of what is real? Is something real because it exists? Your breast implants,hypothetically would exist, and so, one agrument holds, they're real. See, my philosophy major isn't completly useless.

don't do it
 

I read an article in Mademoiselle about this woman who got implants and ended up going under the knife again to get them out cause she hated them so much. She said they made her feel weird, asexual and unnatural. Ugh, don't do it. You really want packets of silicone in your chest for the rest of your life? Besides, girls with smaller chests have it a lot easier. You can sleep on your stomach and run without a bra and it's lots easier for you to look skinny when you want to. Just my $0.02. :)

Lana,
If you really want it, go for it. Just know the risks before undergoing the operation. Weigh the pros and cons. Ask yourself if you would honestly feel better about yourself if you were to get breast implants.

I wish you the best of luck and peace of mind for whatever you decide... :)

Not to be an a-hole and pass judgement, but you sound kind of insecure with yourself, your chest is merely an extension of that. You kind of remind me of an ex, who would CONSTANTLY whine and moan about how flat she was, about how she didn't feel like a woman because she was small, about how she couldn't fill out dresses, blah blah blah. All of the time i was holding her, kissing her and reassuring her that she was beautiful. Boobs, real, fake, are only a part of a woman. I won't bullshit, a very beautiful and fun part of a woman but trust me, if you're worried whether or not the guy will like fake breasts or real ones, if he's at the stage where he is close enough to examine? it doesn't matter, because it's you he's interested in, not what victria's secret happens to be cupping.

That being said, if you really want this for YOURSELF and it will make you feel better and more confident, then this is an instance where surgery like that can be a good thing. However, from a guys perspective, it isn't that big of a deal really, you have an entire body to touch and explore, not just your chest.

Breasts are breasts... real or not, I lick.. oops I meant like em all:p
Dont get them just to get a guy.... If you sincerely want them, go for it. But like suggested, do some research and know what your getting into.

I kinda like small and perkies though :)

Just think long and hard about it--do you really want to give up being able to go braless and being able to wear those cute little tight shirts without looking like you're going to fall out any minute?? (I wouldn't, so that's why I'm glad I'm the size I am!) Would Audrey Hepburn have looked as stunning in that beautiful black and white strapless Givenchy gown if she'd been bigger up top? Nope. And do you really want to volunteer for (from what I hear) is a painful surgery, with the possiblity of having to go back and have it redone periodically? If Jenny McCarthy regets it, I'd say that's a clue that you should think twice.

And if it's a guy giving you grief, just tell him sweetly that yes, you will get implants...when he, ahem, gets one too.

I don't whine or bitch about them unless I'm at home and I definately don't tell a guy the way I feel about my boobs. Enough to cause embarressment.
Well If I do get implants it won't be for a long time since Ineed the funds to do it and My parents would kill me if I decided to get implants and was paying for my education.

My younger sister always carried on about how flat she was and finally got implants. Unfortunately, they developed tiny leaks and spread whatever was in them into her body. She's a relatively young woman and will probably always have health problems related to her implants. She even lost a good deal of her memory and our sister-in-law was so horrified that she had her own much-desired implants removed.

Before you do it, find out what would happen if they leaked--I mean the worst-case scenario. My sister was assured by one of Houston's best surgeons that there would be no problems and obviously, she didn't get the truth from him!

I know this thread is probably supposed to be replied to by guys...but as an owner of large (natural) breasts...let me just give you my point of view before you get implants. If I had a choice, I would be flat chested anytime. Guys stare at them....and it make me uncomfortable...probably as uncomfortable as you feel with smaller breasts. I hate buying shirts, bc they are either too revealing...or too matronley. I am constantly aware of them and that people stare at them and it really makes me hate them even more. If I was flat chested I would love it because I could wear shirts without a bra...especially those backless ones...or tank tops. Fake breasts are just that...they look ridiciulous to me...bc they sit right under your face and just look like cantaloupes.
Just think of this as you consider it. Big breasts get attention....but after the initial thrill of that attention wears off...you will quickly realize exactly the quality of attention you are getting...the kinda guys that care about chest size are the same guys that dont care whats coming out of your mouth...flowing from your mind...but how long it will take you to take your top off.

To be flip:

If your old breasts are fine . . . keep them.

If I can touch them they are real enough for me.


But seriously: If your breast shape/size is a big thing to you in your mind, then changing them will probably make a big difference in your life. It would enhenace self esteem etc, and that will actually make you more attractive than anything else.

Also, there are guys that are really into breasts and guys that can take it or leave it, but we ALL are stimulated by them and like them because they are sexual triggers.

In the meantime invest in some of the better bras (I am sure some of the other ladies can help you out here). Enginners have made extreme strides in bra design that enhances the hell out of what women have . .. I mean just last night, well never mind ;).

There really should be a nobel prize for bra design . . . it makes such a difference.

Last thing: If you do go through with it, make sure you get upgraded two cup sizes. Women that do one to be conservative usually go back and get them enlarged.

Do whatever you feel comfortable with. But do think carefully about undergoing surgery.

I saw a news article a few months ago, about a type of implant where a woman can have the size of the implant adjusted for about 6 months after the surgery is actually done. They just insert a needle and add or remove material as necessary. Might be worth looking into.

This may sound bad, but I definatley wanted to get to a 36 C or even D. I look young for 20 and no guy wants to date me. I just think that boobs can change this and stop treating me like I am 12 just bc I look young. God did not bless me with very many things qualities both inner and outer.

Do what makes you happy. If you are going to worry about your breasts all your life maybe you should get them. Get them for you, not for what any guy may think. Breasts implants may give you the confidance to make the rest of your life a little less stressful,or maybe not. People make many mistakes in their lives and getting breast implants may be one of them, or maybe it is the best thing you ever did. Just make sure if you do get them, that you will not end up worring about another feature. In your heart you know if you REALLY want them. If a guy likes breast implants should not matter because there are tons of guys out there. Some like them, some don't. You will basically be in the same boat you are in having smaller breasts. Thats why I say get them if you know in your heart you really want them 100%.

in my own humble opinion, confidence comes from accepting yourself how you are, thinking youre beautiful or smart or fun to be around. once you accept that in your mind, i think that shines outwardly.
if you don't think you can ever be happy with yourself the way you are, i don't know what to tell you - sure implants might make you look older or more attractive to guys but you really have to determine who you would be doing it for - them or you. is it a false sense of confidence?

i hope before you decided to get them or not you look around you - you have sisters who love you, a family that loves you, youre young and you have so much to live for. God has blessed you with a lot - and even though i don't know you, i'm sure youre a beautiful person inside and out. good luck

Lana sweetie -

God HAS blessed you with many things, perhaps they just haven't been utilized to the fullest, but don't put yourself down, cause you don't deserve it. ;)

I used to have a MAJOR boob fixation (probably the result of having the 2 biggest busted girls in my junior high in my gym class) and always worried that I was too flat chested - until I met guys who liked legs, butts and (gasp!) personality and humor more than boobs. Just make sure you are doing it for YOU and not to attract some dingaling.

My only concern is - I heard that once you get implants, your breasts have no feeling in them. :eek: AGGH!! I mean, what's the point??!? :p

Lana babe, the fact that you said "God did not bless me with very many things qualities both inner and outer", means that there's something esle going on besides the breast issue. I have no doubt that you have tons of great qualities. The thing is you have to find them and play on them. Never put yourself down like this ;)
I have to agree with Volgirl, having a chest is not always what its cracked up to be. I started developing the summer of 5th grade was one of the only girls in the class to. Needless to say we all know how fifth grade boys can act. It wasnt the funnest of years. By ninth grade I graduated to a C and now im a damn D and HATE IT!(doesnt help that im only 5'2 too)
When you run it can be a pain. Not just cuz if you're not wearing thr right bra, they go everywhere, but also b/c ppl tend to stare at you more. Buying shirts like Volgirl said is a complete pain in the a**. While you would normally wear a medium, you have to get a large of XL. While there are some shirts that you need boobs for, there are plenty more cute shirts that boobs look ridiculous in. I will say however, that I can sleep on my stomach w/o a bra just fine though. And the backless thing is true too, while you can sometimes pull it off, 95% of the time you cant. You become the butt of peoples jokes and after awhile it gets annoying. A secretary where I work tells me they're the first thing she sees whenever I walk in. One "friend" even wrote in my HS yearbook, "Hey this summer maybe you can pick us up some guys with those things." For the love of God woman im trying to shrink mine!
But you need to do what you feel is best. If your going to do it, I personally wouldnt recommend going to a D and like everyone said read more into the surgery and its risk. Especially if you plan on having children and breastfeeding one day. I believe that I read somewhere that toxins from the implants can get into the breastmilk and pass to the children. Hope things work out.

I am convinced that boobs are just like anything else; they go in and out of style. Back when I first got mine (sorry, didn't really know how else to phrase that!), they were out of style. All the top models were skinny Aryan-looking women with chests like ironing boards. So, a dark haired, brown-eyed girl with a chest such as myself was definitely not in fashion at the time. Now, however, my body type is "in", but who's to say what will be considered the "ideal look" next year??

What I'm trying to say, Lana, is that before you consider making a permanent change, make sure that you are doing it so that you can look in the mirror and be happy with what you see. For YOU. Don't do it because you think guys will like it or other women will see and be envious. Think to yourself, when pancake chests are back in style, will you still be happy with the implants?

If, after much thought, the answer is "yes", then I say to go for it. I honestly see nothing wrong with plastic surgery, just as long as you're doing it to make yourself happy.

Lana,

I liked what Carnation, Aephi, Iowahawkeye, and Killarney Rose :) said.

Your just going to have to decide for yourself if thats going to be enough to make you happy. Its your body and nobody can make that decision but you. I personally could care less how big a girls chest is. I think it really depends on the girl like makeup. Like some girls look great with lots of makeup and some dont. Maybe thats not a good analogy LOL But what I'm trying to say is......If a guy isnt interested in you unless your chest is a certin size theres something wrong there. He should love you for you and not love you just because you have a certin sized chest. I hope that made sense. Just remember the only person you should be doing this for is yourself. If it was me I would really question it mainly because from my experience I had a cornea transplant where I had 8 months of recovery time where I had to get used to this boys cornea being in my body. It was really tough. I'm fine now but that was not a optional procedure. I just know that from what I know about implants if I was a girl I would never get one.

Kevin

Kevin did you word your quote wrong? You wrote," If a guy doesn't love you for how big your chest is than something is wrong there."
Or maybe you meant that?????

lol, I think he meant "If a guy loves you for the size of your chest, then there is something wrong there"
lol

Thanks Nina! :) I reworded it as soon as you posted that. LOL

lol Kevin, how many times do people reword their posts all weird? I'm so guilty of that!

I know Nina. LOL I'm so guilty of rewording and rephrasing more than once. :)

Gee Kevin, I think it was a Freudian slip.

You know, writing this after a night out I was looking back in my memory and mentally reviewing a lot of the girls I have been with and recalled that 36 C was a really nice size to hang out with lol. Not to say that I wasn't pleased with the myriads of other samples that were offered, they just stuck out in my memory, and since this is an odd Thread I thought I would share it.

Look, you obviously want them, if you can get the cash get them. There is no philosophical difference between Breast Augmentation and a 16 year old nose job, face lift, eye tuck, or other plastic surgery. And since some women sre getting face lifts until their ears meet (and they need them), I see no problem with breasts being modified.

ITs only about 3 grand so do it.

On as serious a note as 3 long island ice teas will allow me, There was a book Called Psychocybernetics that started the self help book craze, by Maltz. He was a polastic surgeoun that developed his theories after watching people's changes after plastic surgery. He would find that some people would get some small almost not noticeable alteration and within three weeks their entire personality would change. Other people would get drastic changes and come out a classical beauty but would still be self conscious and inhibited. He developed his theories on Self image from this. As someone with a degree in physch I would say hius findings are a of a lot more ueslful than other theories that I ahve come across.


Go get your new breasts you'll probably be happier, but se some good bras first to test te reaction of people around you. Especially if you go to places where people don;t already know you.

Have you considered doing a "trial run" with something like a Water Bra? Those things are damn amazing. :)

I'm a 36C, but even I have trouble buying shirts sometimes. Those cute button-down rugby shirts that were in style this year pull terribly on me at the buttons. It leaves you 2 choices, leave it unbuttoned fairly low (thus giving a view) or leave it buttoned to where you are comfortable and have the buttons pull and give a "peek-a-boo" view.

There are good sides and bad sides to both ends of the spectrum. I wouldn't put my body under the knife for something that can be achieved with some Victoria's Secret magic.

Girl you are alive! Believe me that is a blessing in and of itself.

Your post makes me want to feel very sad for you, but suspicious at the same time. I feel suspicious becase I have known people who said the same kinds of things, all because they wanted attention, and found that playing for sympathy worked.

I don't know you or your posts well enough to judge what kind of person you are, but your post here makes me feel very sad for you regardless. I think that breast implants for you would not be a great idea. What you need is to believe in yourself and go after a better breed of man, not bigger breasts.

Good luck!

lol, I have that peek-a-boo problem with some of my button ups!

Sleeping on my stomach is a joke - its like if I do I almost look like Im sleeping on a ramp lol - so uncomfortable! I would like to add - I am considering a reduction, so I wont look like a porno star anymore...but I see the surgery for that and it freaks me out even more.

I am very small in the chest area, but I don't have a problem with it! I like being able to sleep on my stomach and all those other things everyone else mentioned. If a guy won't date you unless you've got big breasts, then the guy isn't worth dating. And as far as enhancement just for your own confidence, you can get padded bras, wonderbras, air bras (I have one of these, it's great!) or water bras (though I have heard funny horror stories about these leaking... lol). Be happy with who you are! If you have confidence in yourself, other people will be attracted to that, no matter what your cup size! :)

Volgirl, im thinking one the lines of reduction too, I just hate that it cost so much unless you claim its a medical strain. But first, I want to see if I can shrink em by exercising more than I am, and so far i think its kind of working !

There isa body fat component to breast size . . . so getting a lower percentage of body fat than low average will see serioius breast reduction.

been there done that - I understand what you are saying James about exercise - but mine are...well they look like implants although they arent.

funny thing is I really dont have alot of body fat.

no dont do it.. there should be a law against reductions..

Be flat/small chested and proud. Having big knockers suck and get in the way!

I can donate you my boobs. :p

I would suggest talking to women who have done it. I have heard great things and not so great things. My concern would be shelf life. Do they last forever or is there implant upkeep?

There are so many plastic surgens go have a consultation.

Good Luck.

there are so many little things I want to respond to...

1st: I agree that getting implants won't help your self-esteem much. You have to realize that you are great person for who you are first. Talk to your sisters and friends, they'll shower you with all kinds of positive things that will help turn your perspective around.

2cd: I will have to join volgirl & UMgirl with the porno-sized boobs .. and I hate them... I always have. Clothes and even bra shopping can be such a pain, because it's rare to find something made with the chest in mind (so you're either busting out at the chest, or the shirt is too big everywhere but the chest). And there just aren't many cute bras in size D. Even at Victoria's Secret. Then you get into the whole running thing, etc. They're just inconvienent. I, too, have been considering a reduction. But I am also resuming working out, so hopefully that will shrink them down a little at least. (*my fingers are crossed*) The cost is the only deterrent.

Finally, James (I think) mentioned that his favorite size is 36C. I very recently read a study that said that was the ideal breast size...MEANING: People, men and women, respect women with 36C size breasts more than any other size. They are taken more seriously, sometimes even succeed further in work, etc.! If I can remember where I read it, I'll post it. But it was an actual academic study. So, if you are 36C, consider yourself a little more lucky today!

My dream girl is a 38DD.

I know for a fact that if you are unhappy with them you probably always will be....but don't be unhappy with them because of how you think guys react. If you truly hate them because YOU don't like how they are, that's fine.

I have hated my breasts since they sprouted. They are plenty big, but from the moment they began to bud my mom gave me this apologetic sigh and said "Oh honey, looks like you got the family droopy-boobs!" I have never been perky, even when I was 15 and weighed 100 pounds. And having two children has only made it worse. Like I said, I am plenty big but I want to change the shape of them and I am afraid that having a lift would leave me with hideous scars above my breasts. So I figure small implants is the only way to go. Brent isn't super enthusiastic about it but if it will make me feel better about myself he is supportive. He also would like to see me in tighter, more revealing shirts!!!!! So I don't know, it has bothered me for 17 or 18 years now and hasn't gotten any better.