re-pledging...is this a thing?
 

Hey all,

So my story is a little bit complicated but I will try to keep it brief. Due to some internal issues, after already becoming a sister of a sorority, I had to resign from the sorority. Let me explain a little bit. I was recruited, became a sister, I was even secretary for a while. Unfortunately due to some personal issues, I had to put sorority life on the back burner and certain people didn't like it.
I turned in my badge and formally resigned. Now I am back on my own two feet and REALLY missing my sisters and the feeling of sisterhood. Is it possible for me to go back to my sorority or will I have to pledge again all over? I'm willing to re-pledge but there's so much involved (big sister choice even though I already had one) and other issues internally.
Have any of you left your sorority and RE-joined?

If you were a member of an NPC sorority then you may be out of luck. Some NPC groups allow for re-instatement after resignation after graduation, some allow for re-instatement while still in school, some do not allow for re-instatement at all.
If you were an initiated member of an NPC, you cannot pledge another NPC at any time.

My advice to you is to contact your (Inter)National headquarters and ask what your options are. If you are allowed to re-instate, there will probably be a re-instatement fee.

Even if it is possible per the national policies of your sorority, your chapter sisters would certinaly have to vote to allow you to be reinstated. You say that "certain people" didn't like what you did. I am only reading what you wrote, but it sounds like reinstatement (you would not pledge again) might not be an option.

As others have said it really depends on your org. OP I would suggest contacting your group's HQ to see if this a possibility. Each org has their own policies on issues such as this.

The OP posted this in the thread about disabilities:

I think, based on the user name, the OP may be a member of an NPC sorority. So I would agree that contacting the headquarters is the best way to go.

Wait, are you trying to pledge a local on your campus now? I thought you wanted to try to reaffiliate with DZ.

If this is an NPC group, you should NOT be attending a recruitment event as a PNM. You are not and will not ever be a PNM again. You were a member and resigned your membership. You need to contact your HQ about procedures to be re-instated. You CANNOT be repledged to your group nor any other NPC group - no matter what style recruitment your campus has. What you are doing is very misguided and I urge you not to go to this event.

"Organization of your choice"... What the hell does that mean? are you even bothering to read ANY of the advice being given to you here?

You have no business going to the recruitment event, especially if it is for your former chapter. It would be weird and awkward and just detract from the purpose of the event: for the active members to focus on meeting PNMS and attracting new members. Your presence is unfair to both the sisters and rushees. Plus, what kind of message would it send to the rushees: "hey, don't bother putting in the time, effort, and money to become a member! You can just hang around for free! Have you met our former sister, the Comeback Kid?"

The leadership of your former chapter likely has no say in whether you can be reinstated or not. You are focusing your efforts on the wrong party. You need to contact your IHQ.

Does anyone else feel like they are shouting into the wind?

It doesn't matter if you were asked to resign from your sorority or you made the decision on your own. You are NOT a member of your sorority. You are not an alumna, either. You should not be attending recruitment events. It is really simple.... You are not eligible to rush. Period.

And depending on your sorority's rules, you may or may not be eligible for membership reinstatement. It may not even be up to the chapter to allow or deny.

and now I'll listen as the wind swooshes past......

I won't pretend to know the reinstatement procedures for any NPC other than my own, but I'm willing to bet that all of them would not leave this decision solely up to the chapter into which you were initiated. YOU NEED TO CONTACT YOUR (INTER)NATIONAL HQ before you do anything. So many people have said this to you, and yet your thought is: 1) Attend recruitment event, 2) Talk to the president of the chapter, and 3) Become an active sister again.

THIS IS NOT HOW IT WORKS.

It doesn't matter why you left. You left. You are no longer a sister.

Bringing this up to the Chapter Director AT the recruitment event is NOT the way to go about this. It's completely inappropriate. The recruitment event is held to get to know potential members, NOT to talk to you about your problems.

Just because the president invited you does not mean that she is right in doing so. You may show up and other sisters could be pissed. As others have pointed out, you're now getting for free what other sisters are paying for. That's not fair to anyone. Why put yourself in that position?

If your (inter)national organization decides that you can be reinstated and your chapter still loves you as much as you claim, then you'll have no problem going back to them. However, you're going about this all backwards. You need to be patient and go through the proper channels to get this done. Don't make the chapter think that everything is fixed before it actually is, only to have them find out later that you're trying to "sneak" back in the wrong way (especially when we're telling you what the correct way is). Be respectful!

She has never responded to our question regarding whether this is an NPC group. If it is, and someone can figure which campus and which NPC group, I would be more than willing to advise their HQ about what's going on.

In her intro, she said she was a DZ at Gallaudet.

You are overreacting. Please step away from the keyboard. People here were trying to help. Youu got great advice right away. Now it seems that you didn't hear what you wanted to hear; you persisted in justifying your position, and that is why people became irritated.

I wish you good luck. I know that for my organization, the reinstatement process is difficult and few succeed. But you are in a different organization and that may not be the case.

What is a CCD?

And I hope the part in bold was intended to be sarcasm.

You came here looking for advice. We told you your next steps. You ignored us and said you were going to one of the chapter's recruitment parties. We told you that you shouldn't go. You said you were going anyway.

You said your chapter president is newly appointed, which means she still knows very little about being president, and probably knows nothing about reinstatements and how they're handled (assuming your sorority even allows them).

Just contact headquarters and go from there. All of the knowledgeable, well-experienced NPC members on this site are going to tell you the same thing.

Wow, you are setting yourself up for more heartache. There is a 0.00000001% chance that you will be able to rejoin your sorority. Posting on GC with that organization in your name when you relinquished your letters is inappropriate as is crashing their recruitment parties. You ARE NOT eligible to be recruited. I'm sure you do feel a hole in your heart. It's called regret. Unfortunately, there aren't always ways to fix things you regret. Now is the time for you to sit back and see what, if anything, the organization has to offer you. It is not the time to force yourself. What can you do? Be a friend to those sisters you left behind. Just because you aren't a member doesn't mean you can't still be friends.

OP (dz.lys), this breakdown may be helpful to you:

1. If the recruitment event is for a local sorority (and not for either DZ or an NPC group), then local Panhellenic rules control and you could seek membership in the local.

2. If instead you are seeking to be reinstated in DZ, eligibility for reinstatement is determined at the International HQ level. If HQ determines that you are eligible, it will tell you if it is as an alumna or as a collegian. ONLY if you are eligible as a collegian, does the collegiate chapter have a say on the matter.

3. No, not all NPC groups are the same on reinstatement policy. DZ's policy may be very different from that for other NPC groups. Only DZ's policy governs or matters. This is why everyone is advising you to contact DZ International HQ.

4. The one unanimous position for all of the NPC groups is that once you are initiated into one NPC group, you may never join a different NPC group. Local, yes; NPC, no.

Not looking for any fight here, but from personal experience: persons who are deaf do not always understand things as we in the hearing world understand them, even when those things are carefully explained. They sometimes become stubborn in wanting their own way.

IMO the OP was posting/reacting as some deaf persons I know react, with emotion and heart and not head.