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OK, lately there has been a little hostility in response to some of the posts. Come on guys, we're all (or at least most of us are) college age or older. If someone posts something you think is stupid, don't jump down their throat -- just ignore them! If no one responds, the stupid post in question will quickly move to one of the back pages and be forgotten. Why argue when you don't have to? http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

I'm sorry, I just had to rant about that http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Exactly, because, if there are no new posts then what does Greekchat become? A random place to chat? Then the new people will piss us all off even more because they mistakenly thought this was a greek oriented chat room? Lets all just be nice!

***** AMEN *****
AND WELL SAID!!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Ahem, I'm one of those "rude" people. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/rolleyes.gif

And I'll continue to be that way as long as people keep on posting "stupid somethings".

To earn one's respect one must also give respect, and I won't miss that opportunity to let people know that. I'll steer newcomers to what they're looking for. Oh, and Laura, I don't believe in starting new topics when it's been covered in 500 other ones. It does get exhausting when we have to answer the same questions many times.

Sorry...but that's how I work.

And if YOU don't like what I post, then YOU can drive forward. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif It'll take more than one post to change my attitude.

Gee -- I wonder if I could be one of the hostile ones....nah!

Yep - I am sarcastic 100% to the core - I know that the new people have things to share too, but I think that when there has been 4 million topics on the exclusive/elite groups, the racial issues, the hazing issues, the initiation rituals, etc...that someone should step in and say "S-E-A-R-C-H" and if 900 other members come in to back me (or whomever up) then it goes to show that more than one person thinks its ridiculous.

I am not believing that anyone has a "paper" to do involving frats/soros that haze, segregates, whatever --- that is leftover residue (to put it nicely) from another forum that has since met its doom (for EXACTLY the reasons why most of us don't want it over here!)

Hey, I know, lets have some censorship going on! I'll run right over and delete my post on GC regulars worst nightmare (even though it flamed in record time with people agreeing with me) -- because I would *hate* to sound rude to someone (especially a "somethinstupid" someone who has repeatedly plagued the board) who might actually have nothing to say. It is bad enough that Greeks get a bad rep from outsiders -- we don't need them invading our board and our space to dog us here too.

Dang I hate that I will be out for awhile with this surgery mess -- I will surely miss out on the drama!

OohTeenyWahine - you are my girl! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

I agree completely that maybe, there has been an abundance of sarcasm sprouting up everywhere, and perhaps, some rudeness. I usually don't even like to post in the greek life forum anymore because either the threads were getting somewhat repetative, or a bit too controversial for me to decide to take a side on.

BUT, i also agree with OTW. Maybe jumping down new posters' throats about doing searches before hand has gotten a little out of hand. But responding negatively, or even harshly to threads, posts and posters who are so obviously either ignorant or trying to stir up heated arguments, is justified. Ignorance is no excuse. How much brain power does it take to realize that asking if we greeks are all for, oh, i dunno, let's say, dirty rushing, is dumb. And i'll say so because unlike the saying, there IS such a thing as a stupid question.


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Hi OohTeenyWahine! I just wanted to let you know that I don't think you are rude at all. You took the time to write out a really, really helpful reply to a post that I put up in the "Rush" forum even though you have probably been faced with similar questions on many occasions! I'm only a high school student so you probably don't care, but I think you rock!

LOL Luv2Cheer. I have my good days...and then you all will know when I have my bad days. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Whenever possible, I will try to help any high school student interested in a NPC sorority, provided that she will also make an effort to do a search on a topic. If she hasn't searched yet, I'll do my best to steer her toward the information she wants.

But sometimes there are days when you come across someone on these boards...and you can't help but just want to take off your letters and tell them what's really on your mind http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif.

So, Luv2Cheer, sometimes I don't show it, but I do care. After all, it's you and your generation that'll carry on the torch after we leave college.

I usually stay out of these debates on subjects about posting...and anything else for that matter. If I agree with something I may post a small statement and move on like I did above. However, I would like to share my humble opinion on this matter.

I understand that the "regulars" get tired of answering the same questions. What I don't understand is that if you are all so tired of answering them, why do you even take the time to do so? I agree that the poster could do a search and may find what he/she is looking for. I don't agree that it should take several posts answering the same way..."DO A SEARCH!!!" http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/mad.gif What I see happening is that the problem has reversed. Now we not only have the same questions being asked, but we have them being answered the same way, by several people. Some of the posters asking these repetitive questions may be genuinely interested in the given subject. When there are so many people telling them to do a search it just seems a little mean. This could even scare some of our new members away. Couldn't just one person tell them to do a search?

I don't understand why there is all this fuss over posting. Let people ask what they want. If you don't want to answer the question then don't. Most of you regulars know I don't post that much. However, I check this message board often. When there is a subject I am interested in or that I feel I can contribute to, then I post. If it doesn't interest me or I have nothing to add, then I move on, or I don't even open it to begin with.

Really, what is so difficult about this?

This is obviously a post that interested me. Actually, I hope that my opinion can contribute to this matter in a positive way. Just let people be. There are bigger things to worry about. I know that is almost contradicting myself since I took the time to post about the matter, but some of the comments made throughout GC regarding posting and searching have made me so uncomfortable and upset that I just had to speak out.

Please try and see my point of view. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

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Hey OTW - remember what I told you- the line from the movie Misery!!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

But- We have to be patient with people new to the G.C. forum. It took me awhile to clue in that you should "search" before posting a new topic.



[This message has been edited by Symphony (edited April 24, 2001).]

Yes, I remember the line quite well! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

My problem isn't really with people who don't perform searches. I do realize that we were all new to the boards at one point. Much of my negativity is directed to individuals who make it a point to ask "stupid" questions. Read "sorority snatch-a-girl" if you don't know what I'm talking about. I could take the easy way and just ignore the post...but that wouldn't be me. You can bet money on the fact that I'll tell them what I think.

A GC user (who shall remain nameless) even had the NERVE to email me and tell me to check my attitude and leave it at the door. Sorry honey, if you read my post above, you'll know that I won't readjust myself to accommodate the select few that don't agree with my actions.

P.S. If you don't mind me asking, how come you changed your name?

This is an idea, but maybe on the first page that pops up on our screen when we log on, there could be a first time users FAQ or tips page. I know that personally, I didn't know and still don't know where the search function is! And I've been on here for a while now. Maybe instead of just yelling at new people and, as a result, chasing possible potentials or Greeks who have just returned to Greek Life away and looking at us negatively, we offer solutions and guidance...I always believe you have no right to complain unless you are going to offer a solution to go with it!

The thing is, if you were wearing/carrying letters and someone came up to you and asked a question about the greek system, would you walk away, not answering them and telling THEM to do a search?

I thought not.

People on the internet deserve the same respect.

Actually, I would and have done it. Interestingly, those women who I told, in person, to do research not only thanked me for it, but also became members of my sorority. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

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This board shows how diversified greeks are, some are nice, mean, good, bad, etc.

I agree with Kappagirl, as greeks , a lot of people will ask questions, they deserve the same respect as if they are asking in person. Plus a lot of new comers don't really know all the functions of greekchat, and I am pretty sure they are not asking just to annoy us, but to learn for future references, like I am sure we all did at one point and time, and somethingstupid is right as well, this board really shows the diversity of greeks, some are nice and some aren't http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif
DGPhoney~

Well I cannot answer for YA'ALL, but I cannot be on 54 hr.a day! I totally enjoy seeing these comments! Everything is new each time someone posts something! I will always remember Mrs. Cortright my 4 th grade teach who said the dumbest question is the one never asked. But she would beat hell out of me! I wasn't bad but boy was I mischevous!!! Hers was usually the 1 st of the 5 I go that day all the way down the line at least 4 days a week!! Hve heart all of you TRUE BELEIVERS!!
For all of the ones who have fun on this site, there is a thing called tounge in cheek, but be careful do not bight of the toungh!!



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Tom Earp LX Z#1
Pittsburg State U. (Kansas)

Would ya'll seriously turn someone away who asked you a question about being Greek? I'm not trying to attack anyone; I was genuinely surprised to read that. Maybe ya'll meant that you would say that to someone who asked intentionally stupid questions like "why would you buy your friends?" or "what kind of hazing does your GLO do?" ? In that case, I misunderstood. Or were ya'll saying that you would tell someone who was honestly interested in Greek life to go research it themselves? That seems out of character for everyone here so I'm hoping I misunderstood. I think most Greeks are more than happy to share info about how great all our organizations are, no matter redundant people's questions may be. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

You know I kinda think this is a lose-lose situation. Here's how I see it: If we (GC regs) tell peeps repeatedly to do a search, we're seen as mean/rude or whatever, right? HOWEVER, I'm not seeing how it could be better if we ignore stupid or redundant posts. Don't ya'll think that's STILL mean/rude to not answer a post at all!? I know if I were new and posted something (not knowing it was asked 1 million times already) and NO ONE answered, I'd be upset and probably wouldn't come back (I'm not one to keep asking stuff if I know SOMEONE on this board could have answered it...I mean, geez, people answered other posts, why not mine?).

To me, it seems that either way, we could potentially lose new users b/c we either: answered in a mean/rude way OR were mean/rude by ignoring their post!

Sheesh! What is the answer to all this madness?!! LOL! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif I think if we could get that FAQ sheet to pop up when you come to GC, that would be sweet.

ZChi4Life...

I agree that we could potentially lose new members either way http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif...answering the question rudely or ignoring it. I should have clarified myself a little better. I didn't mean for everyone to ignore the post. I just meant for those who are tired of answering the same questions to ignore the post. There are some people on GC who are willing to answer their questions, so I figure let's leave it to those who wouldn't mind. One person might suggest a search be done and that could/should be the end of it. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

I'm having trouble saying what I really want to say for fear of starting trouble. I don't want to upset anyone, but it just seems that some members have taken it upon themselves to decide what can and can't be asked and what should and shouldn't be answered. We are all equal members on this message board. We all have the right to ask whatever question we want to. We just need to respect each other. I understand that there are situations where some people ask really ugly questions, but honestly they are few and far between.

Come on GreekChatters, we are better than this...where's the Greek Love???!!!LOL http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

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Well, you thought wrong. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif It has been done before. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Thanks for clarifying shopgirl! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif I understand what you're saying now.

It not that we don't want to answer questions,it just that many times some of the questions asked can't be properly answered by GC's. Now before everybody gets their pants all twisted, let me explain:

There have be a recent rash of recent post like: what is XYZ/ABC/PBS like at your school? Well people who don't go to school A will answer what they have heard/seen/experienced(even though they don't go to that school) Well somebody who does go to that school who happens to be in the chapter of the sorority being discussed will get on, see all the negative things people are saying about her chapter and get all upset. Next thing you know, there's a flame war that's out of control.

I know that there are lots of prospectives out there who have never been exposed to sororites,but I think that if they did a little independed research(like calling the Greek Affairs office of the school(s) they are interested in), then there won't be so many hurt feelings when people come on here posting what is XYZ like at your school

As a prospective, I TOTALLY agree with shopgirl. There have been some fellow prospectives who have e-mailed Newbie and me, asking us if some members are always telling us to "USE THE SEARCH BUTTON."

I'm sorry BUT...not everything can be found with the Serach. As for my post about Theta--I SEARCHED...I read every single thread that emerged from the Search..that's right, about a hundered (or more?) of them...and the ones about Theta's exclusivity/eliteness etc. were HTTP 404 FORBIDDEN. So I did use the Search button. And personally--I find some of the recent rudeness very disappointing and unwelcoming.

As shopgirl so eloquently put it (THANK YOU for your post shopgirl, I'm sure all prospectives like me agree with you!), we all should be equals here. But I don't feel like we are.

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And now, my homage to David "Significant Sig" Letterman....

TOP 5 QUESTIONS THAT WILL PROBABLY P$$$ OLD POSTERS OFF (ESPECIALLY THIS OLD POSTER)

5. What is rush/open bids/rho chi/any other term that can be found on the lovely Rush FAQ?
4. Does your chapter haze?
3. What is this website all about? The address is www.psychoswithnothingbettertodo.com
2. What is the most popular sorority/fraternity on your campus?

AND THE NUMBER ONE QUESTION GUARANTEED TO P$$$ OLD POSTERS OFF:

1. WHAT IS ALPHA BETA GAMMA DELTA LIKE AT YOUR SCHOOL??

(This post is meant in humor and jest, just to clarify http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif)

I agree, prospectives deserve respect. Remember, when they come here for the first month or so..they probably no virtually NOTHING about greek life. So you can either choose to educate them about how great Greeks are, and how great Greek Life is, or say "Search" and let them think that us Greeks are a bunch of mean people.

Read Bubbles' post again--she is a prospective, and at least she isn't scared away--but it's sad b/c other prospectives have e-mailed her about this animosity. Do you really want prospectives to have a bad image of us just from a messageboard? Many of them have no access to Greeks...don't know any Greeks...only have heard about them...so perhaps a Messageboard is their ONLY way of communicating with Greeks. Do you want them to change their minds about Greek Life after seeing some rude posters?

C'mon people--be more respectful of them and say more than "Search." or "I'm sick of these questions." For example, DZRose93 has been EXCELLENT in responding to those types of posts. She has said something like 'I don't think this will be answered here' or 'You should go into Rush with an open mind' etc. She does not just say "Search." Really--please be nicer. It would make us Greeks look a LOT BETTER.

We were all once HS students, or prospectives...and most of us knew very little about Greek Life...so put yourself in THEIR SHOES...you and I were just as "clueless" as them once upon a time...

Jacqueline

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bubbles17...

I'm glad that I came across in a good way. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif I try very hard to watch how I put things so that I don't offend anyone. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/tongue.gif

Thank you for your kinds words. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

33girl...

You are out of control!!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Hey carrot,

Thanks for the compliment! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

We all sit and b*tch about those "What's ABC Sorority like at your school?", but they have sooooooooo many posts on them! So evidently, some people want to talk about it. I don't, but others do.

I posted a question a week or so back about why do women choose to go greek (what they are looking for and such), and it got 3 or 4 responses. So maybe people are not looking to talk about serious issues...

Totally agree shadokat. The "Most popular" and "Poll Time" threads are already numbering in the 200s. I for one am someone who appreciates the serious issues. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif


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"Talk doesn't cook rice."--Someone smart

Visit Alpha Gamma Delta-Delta Sigma chapter and help some sisters out!

I have to say that as a prospective I just observed Greek Chat. I bet I didn't even reply to a post for over a month & it was probably three months before I started a thread.
To the youngin's- http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif We don't mean to sound rude, we just get frustrated sometimes. Please understand from our side.
To the regs- Maybe we should think about how we felt as prospectives & try to answer as we would have liked to have been answered.
This doesn't have to be so serious. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif Let's all just chill out.
Heidi

I must have missed that one, but I'm gonna run *SEARCH* for it right now -- sounds interesting! Between vacation and now this surgery mess, there is a lot to catch up on!

About sounding rude -- being sarcastic and being flat out rude *can* be two different things. I will be first in line to say that heck yeah I have been both on purpose, but some of the things posted have been pure sarcasm (ie, the worst nightmare thread)...I flat out refuse to add the byline

"this is just a bit of sarcasm not intended to hurt any feelings, real or fictional, or in any way damage the spirit of love, harmony, and happy happy, joy joy"

to every post simply because *someone* might take it the wrong way.

Amen to the Dave Letterman bit - too funny http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

I agree with Bubbles. Unfortunately, many prospectives like myself have e-mailed me, in disbelief of the treatment that they have received. They are afraid to ask any questions regarding Greek Life, in fear that they will be shot down!!!!

I have to agree as well. I start posts regarding more in-depth conversations (my most recent was about diversity)...But a few people posted and then it died out...Is it that no one knows how to answer because they have never really been challenged to think about what Greek Life entails these days outside of letters and bis sis/little sis activities? Or is it that you really have nothing better to talk about than popularity??? Makes me wonder!!

AMEN sigmagrrl! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

I thought the point of this board, and conversation in general, is to learn about stuff, or think through things that you might not have thought of before.

Hello all. I just wanted to say that people that come to this web page have a right to post whatever questions they want, how many ever times they want. Just because you may have been here longer than them doesn't give you the right to go off on them about searching or whatever. Obviously they see the Search Button but they may not know how to navigate this web site. It took myself a while to learn how to but I'll be damned if I'm gonna have people being rude to me because I am learning. It's okay to direct them but minus the rudeness or sarcasticness. That is plain unnecessary. Keep in mind that this is not YOUR website this is a community website and we must all get along together, new or old. 'Nuff said.

Hello all. I just wanted to say that people that come to this web page have a right to post whatever questions they want, how many ever times they want. Just because you may have been here longer than them doesn't give you the right to go off on them about searching or whatever. Obviously they see the Search Button but they may not know how to navigate this web site. It took myself a while to learn how to but I'll be damned if I'm gonna have people being rude to me because I am learning. It's okay to direct them but minus the rudeness or sarcasticness. That is plain unnecessary. Keep in mind that this is not YOUR website this is a community website and we must all get along together, new or old. 'Nuff said.

laughing in my boots... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif everybody play nice and quit throwing sand at each other http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Is everything ok? Lot of negativity on that page.