Worst Greek date experience
 

I have a story!!!! :D
I brought this guy with me to my date function who was pledging XYZ fraternity. A lot of my sisters brought guys from XYZ on the date function.
The whole time all the older brothers decided to do their pledge stuff with him. My date was so drunk that he wasn't even aware of what was going on. The guys would be like, "Hey Pledge! Stand here and watch my food for about hour. Make sure no one touches it." And he would do it! So, I just left him and hung out with my sisters. He finally caught up with me an hour later when another brother was like, "Hey Pledge! You need to watch my food now." He was such a wimp that he didn't have the guts to say no. So, I turned to the brother and said, "This is my date function! You are not doing your little pledge stuff here! Not on my time!" I dragged my date away. My date wouldn't talk to me for the rest of the night because he said that I embarrassed him in front of his brothers because he needed a girl to stick up for him. :rolleyes: We ignored each other for the rest of the night and never spoke again.

One time, at formal....
 

This actually happened to a friend of mine, but I'll share anyways.

We had pledged together the fall of our sophomore year. So when it was time for Spring Formal, we were all excited to get to go. I took a friend of mine, who happened to be friends with a lot of the people in Phi Beta. My friend, we'll call her Sara, had been quasi-dating this guy from Quebec for months, so she took him.

We got to the place and had dinner, and then it was time to dance. Well, Sara's date wouldn't dance at all. (My date, on the other hand, danced with everyone :rolleyes: ... good thing he's my friend!) So she was just sitting at the table with him. About 10 or 10:30p.m. he says he's tired and wants to go upstairs to bed!!! So, he LEAVES SARA at the party, and goes up to their room. Of course, she's upset and tells me and a few other friends, so we all go upstairs and wake him up. He never did come back down to the party I don't think. Ugh.. stupid Quebec boys :D

OK, I've got one. This past semester, I invited my out-of-state boyfriend to our Fall Formal, and he was thrilled about going. He was having a friend drive him down (because he's an international student who has no car) and everything was all sorted, so I spent all evening getting ready. He was supposed to pick me up at 7:30, but when he was a little late I didn't worry because I knew the drive was a couple hours long and a few minutes wasn't going to make a big difference. Then at 8 o'clock, I get a phone call: my boyfriend couldn't make it because the guy who was to drive him down got in trouble and was forbidden to take the car. He said he'd been trying for hours to find someone else to give him a ride, but everyone had refused. I know it wasn't really his fault, but I was really upset because I had been looking forward to it all semester and I looked really nice, if I do say so myself. I cried and cried and cried...for two and a half hours, to be exact. Knowing that he was sitting in his dorm room all dressed up but with no ride frustrated me more than anything! But my roommate was absolutely awesome--she hadn't been planning to go to formal, but as soon as she heard what happened she ran down the hall to borrow a dress so that I wouldn't have to go alone. :) So now I joke that even though Cinderella had to go to the ball without her prince, she still had a (nice) sister to keep her company!

This is a true story that did not happen to me, but it's a classic so I'll share. Several of my friends and sorority sisters reported it to me so I know that it's true. A nameless fraternity had their Spring Formal. At the table where some of my sisters were sitting, one of the brothers and his girlfriend were bickering and then it got into arguing and then he got nasty. He told her to shut up and some other equally rude things. She got mad and not your normal mad, but 'this is the last straw we're over' mad. He had told her to shut up and other rude things so she told him it was over, walks up to the d.j. and says something to him. Next thing you know the formal is over because the d.j. is going home with this brother's date.

ok here goes. this just happened to me and i am still a little bitter. we were having our winter formal in ocean city maryland and my friend matt said he would go with me (he volunteered!!). four days before hand i reminded him that the party was that friday night and he said no problem. the day of, my friend heather and i went and got our hair done and i drove home to NJ from our school in Delaware so that the boy wouldn't get lost. it is a four hour drive from my house to maryland and we were leaving at 3:30pm. at 2 i called matt and asked him if he was ready. he said to me and this i quote "that's tonight? i'm going hunting so i guess i can't go" (he went hunting all week, what was one day gonna do?!) so an hour and a half before we had to leave i was dateless. i was sooo pissed and called all my other guy friends, but they couldn't go because they had to work. as a last resort, i called my friend melissa and she said she would go. bless her little heart. i haven't let matt off the hook yet, i won't return his phone calls or talk to him...yet.

I would say that I had a better time at my functions(either formal, semi-formal, or date party) than any of the sorority functions I've been too. I think most of it had to do with the fact that when I went to a girls function she spent most of her time with her sisters and in those situations I found it not enjoyable. Plus it was pretty tough when I went to a function and the girls there werent very social with me. However, I guess there were certin aspects of going to a girls function that were pretty cool.

Okay, Spring Formal, I had just been initiated, superpsyched because I had a kickin' dress. I took my friend Matt, who was still pledging ATO at the time. We went with my best friend and her boyfriend to dinner beforehand at a really nice restaurant in Georgetown. On the cab ride over, Matt is on his cell phone THE WHOLE WAY with his parents in NJ, who want him to depledge because he keeps complaining about how tired and worn out he is from pledging. He's literally screaming into the phone at them. Umm, ok....

Then we get to the restarant, a really nice Italian place. Matt keeps complaining how tired he is, so he PUTS HIS HEAD DOWN ON THE TABLE AND SHUTS HIS EYES. I couldn't believe it. Just when I thought I couldn't get any more embarassed (when I came back from the bathroom, he didn't even get up from his chair, just scooted it in so I could squeeze past), he spilled half a dish of olive oil from the bread on my lap... ruining my dress. I thought I was going to kill him. Decided to go to formal anyways, figuring hey, I can still have fun, right? Wrong.

He got WASTED within half an hour and spilled his *full* drink all over me. Spent the whole time with his pledge brothers who were there, and said probably 2 words to me. Those words were "I'm sorry" when he stepped on and BROKE my toe on the dance floor. Decided I'd had absolutely ENOUGH and peaced out, took a cab home at 11:45 pm. GoodNIGHT.

Then , he has the nerve to complain to our mutual friends the next day, saying what a horrible date I was. WTF???

:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

AlphaChiS2K,
I think your story takes the cake for being the worst Greek date function! :)

Oh my! That's horrible AlphaChiS2k! Well mine isn't THAT bad, but it was probably one of the most stressful times of my life. I was almost ready for my spring formal when my date called, literally 20 minutes before he was supposed to pick me up! Well he had the nerve to tell me that he couldn't go to my formal because he was too sick and had been throwing up all day. I was totally stressing and decided to call this guy I had taken to my dated party, who I kind of liked. But he tells me that he's going to my formal with another one of my sisters! Ahhh! Luckily, my guy friend in XYZ (who's in the same house as the guy who cancelled on me), who already had plans for that night, cancelled them so he could take me. Though all of his brothers assured me that he had been really really sick, I was still pissed at him and haven't seen him since. But thankfully, my friend came to the rescue and I had a great time, despite being stood up 20 min. before I left for my formal!!!

Then you probably deserved it ;)

LOL :D :D :D ROTFLMAO

what was your best date?

Every formal or semi formal I have gone alone or brought a friend.
But here is my story from this years date party.
A guy I had just started dating in XYZ already had plans to go to another sorority semi formal that same night(before we were seeing eachother) Apparently she was younger and in "love" with him, and he made it clear he wanted to be friends. He wanted to cancel on her but I felt bad and told him not to, and that we could meet up later. We all ended up at the same bar after and he immediately came over to me complaining that she was drunk and tried kissing him all night, etc.
So, I could see her looking at us whenever he was talking to me. She kept swearing at him and whatever, so we decided to leave.
She called his phone 30 times that night, and IM him all these nasty IM's.
He wanted to never talk to her again, but I made him be friends with her(her sor sister and mine live together)
I mean I felt really bad for her, and I knew she had her freshmen "love'' for him, but she knew he was dating me, and if it were not for me he would have ditched her. Even so I still fell bad.
Ok that was my most exciting/most drama filled date party yet!
One more to go

sometimes date functions just don't work out. my first semi-formal my friend who was supposed to come couldn't come at the last second.... so i ended up taking my friends friend... but it worked out okay.
my valentines function i took a guy who we were, "more than friends." the night went perfect up till the after party. we went to this one frat house and it wasn't his frat and he didn't know anyone. i guess i didn't pay enough attention to him.... he wasn't really having fun. then when he was ready to go i still wanted to stay, so that really pissed him off. he made sure he told my answering machine how he felt that night.
my semi formal this year i took one of my good friends. we had a great time. he was definately that guy... he had drank all day watching football.... at dinner he was hammered, but it was fine. his friend went with one of my sisters, and he was hammered too.
sometimes the frat guy is not the best date, and a friend is much better. :)

I think I'd be a good date, now that i know what NOT to do. Anyway, whats up with XYZ? They seem like a bunch of jerks. ;) jk

Okay, I have two:

In college I had a long-distance relationship, and if my boyfriend wasn't able to come to any of the major functions, I'd usually just go with my friends (and have more fun if you ask me), rather than getting set up with some random guy for the sake of having a date. Well... one year a sister of mine wanted to set me up with this "nice" guy in one of her classes named Wolfgang (funny enough as it is) and I reluctantly agreed. Mind you, he knew I had a boyfriend and I thought everything was cool... Dinner was fine, he bought me a corsage which was kind of funny b/c it's not really a formal thing - more a high school prom thing. Regardless he proceeded to get more and more drunk. I wanted him to have fun, so I didn't complain, but then it just started to get sloppy. He could barely stand, and was literally drooling by the end of the night. I hadn't danced with him all evening, so he insisted on one dance, and I felt I had to oblige. Well, it was to that song "Lady in Red", and as we're dancing he starts singing at the top of the lungs the chorus, but it was NOT a joke - dead serious and severely off-key. It was so embarrassing - everyone was staring at us and moving away as if we had some sort of disease. I immediately exited the dance floor after the song, and decided it was time to go. In the elevator I hear some clinking noise and ask him what it was. With this huge grin he opens his tux and it's STUFFED full of empty cocktail glasses from the party. He thought it was hilarious, and all I could think was what a complete dork he was and that I couldn't wait to get home... never spoke to the guy again...

Next story: my boyfriend was actually able to come out and attend our Fall Casual one semester. Normally, my boyfriend doesn't drink very much, but this time he decided to booze it up a bit - something he's not used to. At our Casual, he's SLOSHED. I mean, shirt untucked, stains from falling down, the works. I'm already pretty embarrassed, but am dealing, and then I hear screams from the bathroom - he accidentally tried to use the girl's instead of the guys, and my best friend's boyfriend is dragging him out. Again, embarrassed but attempting to deal. THEN my best friend's boyfriend, who is also sloshed, starts SWING dancing with my boyfriend as a joke, and flips him out and my boyfriend nails, I mean NAILS a pole. I'm surprised he didn't have a concussion. Luckily at this point the buses were ready to leave, so I quickly round up the mess I called a boyfriend and tried to get him out. NOW, he's overly apologetic because of his state, and starts CRYING. I'm outside trying to talk to him, and he turns around because he has to vomit, and just spews. So, now I have a drunk, crying, vomiting boyfriend at my party. Needless to say, we got home and had a serious long talk the next day. Point of the story is there's a reason why he doesn't drink...

Ok, I don't think my 2nd year in the sorority was a good year for greek events that required dates:


October 1997: POP (Pride of Panhellenic - All-Sorority Semi-formal)

I arrange a limo with some of my sisters and so shelled out some extra money so that my date and I could enjoy a limo ride. The venue was right across from a sports bar so my date decided to go in their 1st - we were almost late for the photos... then I proceeded to buy him and drinks after which point he decided to go for a walk around downtown Vancouver and disapeared for 3 hours - he said he went to find a bank machine - hello it doesn't take 3 hours to find a bank machine in d/t vancouver - then if that wasn't bad enough, on the limo ride home my date and another guy in the limo decided to remove all their clothing and my date rolls down the window and moons all the passerbys...

Dec 1997: Christmas Dinner

Every year my sorority holds a christmas dinner during the last week of classes - I asked a good friend of mine (who at the time was a Sigma Chi pledge) to go with me, he said ok but his magister wouldn't let him go, not even for 1/2 an hour... I was totally ticked with this guy for not even letting my friend go for a measley 30 minutes and I gave him a piece of my mind ;) - that was 4 years ago: that magister has been my boyfriend for the past 31/2 years - and I still bug him about that whole situation :p

February 1998: DPhiE Formal - the mother of all horrible greek date experiences.

I was all set to go to my 2nd formal; had the dress, the limo, etc. Well 3 days before formal my date backs out - he has a rugby game on the Island and wouldn't make it back in time - I'm sure he had more than 3 days notice about this game. So I have 3 days and I am trying desparately to find a date - but 3 days isn't much notice and doesn't help that there are usually 2 sorority formals going on on the same day. All my GDI friends have made plans for the weekend. It's friday night I'm desparate - I ask this one guy - he can't make it - ok; my friend hooks my up with this guy I know, so I have a date phew. 5:50pm sat, I am suppossed to pick up my date in 10 mins can't get a hold of him, finally get a hold of someone at his fraternity - so and so has had something come up - he's terribly sorry - we have suited up another guy for you: yes those were the exact words we have suited up another guy for you. Now admidst all this rejection I have just been laid off from work this week as well, so I'm completely over the edge now. I get to formal trying to be a good date, but I'm completely pissed off - then who shows up, but one of the guys I had asked the night before - I spent half my formal locked in a bathroom stall - none of my sisters knew what was happening until they realized I was hiding and depressed - which is totally uncharacteristic for me - I guess the silver lining to all this is that they pulled me through it. And here's the funny bit the guy who said he couldn't go with me on the friday and showed up at my formal - I now work with him; boy was he ever uncomfortable.;)

This story starts out horribly.........but has a happy ending! (oh and it's kinda long)

So for Formal this year, my then boyfriend, an SAE from Florida (as well as my high school sweetheart) was supposed to fly out to come with me to formal. Anywho, sorority organization being what it is, the formal got rescheduled for a later date and my bf couldn't come out. He got really mad at me (like it was my fault) and said that this was the last straw, yada yada yada. So we broke up.

My friend Milton (Delta Chi) came to the rescue and said that he would love to go with me. I was excited, despite having broke up with my bf, because I knew that Milton and I would have a good time. Three days before formal, Milton pulls me aside at a concert and tells me that he can't go because he was running for fraternity president, and it wouldn't look good if he missed part of initiation weekend.

So it is now three days before formal and I am dateless. So I head over to my campus SAE house to hang out with some of my friends. I tell my friend Scott, who was just elected to Sigma Kappa's Pearl Court, my situation (he is going with my best friend Laura), and he brings his little bro Chris over and tells him that he's going with me to formal. Works for me, I have a date, he's cute and fun. Or so I thought.

The morning of formal. Laura gets told by our exec. vice pres. and advisors that she can't go to formal because she didn't make grades. She comes over and starts bawling. While I am trying to comfort her, Chris calls and says that he has a pledge thing that he can't get out of and can't go with me.

So Laura calls Scott and tells him that he is now going with me. Fine. At this point I don't even want to go to formal. But, Laura convinces me to go, and when Scott picks me up to pre-party, he shows up with 8 different ties, because he wants to match my dress. That got me out of my bad mood.

When we show up to formal, there is a bouquet of pink roses sitting at my table. Turns out that Scott had a thing for me for a long time, but didn't do anything about it because I had a boyfriend.

Needless to say, Scott is now my boyfriend, and what started out as my worst formal ever turned into my best one.

lilsnakeyk...
 

Now THAT is a good story. So glad to hear that things worked out for you! :)

Our dated party this past semester was definitly interesting. My original date cancelled the day before, but he had a legitimate excuse, so I wasn't too upset. I decided to invite one of my friends who had told me that he really wanted to go. Well, he was wasted before we even got to the place, he started a fight with every guy there from a certain other fraternity, and things got even better when we got back. First he tried to pass out on the couch in our chapter room. When I finally go him up, he walked outside, stared at the bushes for a few minutes, then decided to pass out there. It took myself and three of his brothers to get him up. Then he proceeded to puke on my shoes. What a classy guy.

bump :p

I will not tell the whole story, but here are the high points:


KD Grab-a-date
He showed up with 2 of his brothers that were also dates BUT THEY WERE ALL DRESSED IN THE SAME THING: Kakis, A&F shirt, Polo Shirt over(unbuttoned), and A & F hat. LIKE THAT WASN"T BAD ENOUGH!

They proceded to sit at the bar, next to the keg, keeping their cups to how just how much they can drink.

My date had is hand up one of my so called sister's skirts half the night, only taking it out when the party pic guy would come around, then he would hop over to me and smile for the camera.

Skipping to the end: I finally lost him; then got a phone call from the sister who was keeping my date's hands warm. She was deserted with him at a party and needed a ride.

I got the DD from another fraternity to drive me there and found my date; passed out, wet, with no shirt. Apparently he hit his head on the step as he finished a keg stand and no one helped him.

So, the moral of the story; no matter how cute, some men are really 12 year old boys no matter how much potental they start off with.

Thursday at the mixer when I saw one of the guys I pledged with dancing with the girl I like.

Last year, I was president of my fraternity and had just broken up with my girlfriend about a month before our Founder's Day dance. I wasn't seeing anyone at the time, so a friend set me up on a blind date for the Founder's Day dance. That poor girl. I totally flubbed my speech and got yelled at all night by my alumni so I couldn't really spend too much time with her. And to make matters worse, my ex-girlfriend was there. My ex followed my date into the bathroom and yelled at her saying things like she was out of line and I was her man and I'd be going home with her that night. Well, when I found out about it, I confronted my ex and that just made her madder, and then she tracked down my date and tried to fight her! By the end of the night, things had calmed down a little bit and my date and I had finally gotten a chance to talk to each other a little bit. But on the bus ride home, we're sitting there talking, and my ex is sitting behind us, twirling her fingers through my date's hair the whole trip home! My date was too freaked out to know what to do, so she ignored it and just kept up the conversation the whole trip home. I didn't find out about that for a couple of days. Needless to say, I wasn't happy when I found out. I was so embaressed for my date, we never talked again.

This one didn't happen to me, but it involved my pledge sister and my roommate.

For our dated partys second semester we were going to a nice little establishment in Georgetown. It wasn't themed so we were all wearing cute black dresses. My boyfriend cancelled the night before so I was set up with a hottie from the house we did greek week with (sidebar: he went to formal with another sister of mine. Oh did I mention he went home with her that night too?).

My sister "Ann" ended up taking my roommate "Bob". Well, Bob was kinda coming out of the closet at the time. He didn't want us (other roomie and I) to tell anyone and since he was friends with Ann, decided to go and have a good time. Some of his brothers would be there too. Well, Ann decides that she wants to go home with Bob and hook up with him. Imagine us trying to stop this from happening without telling her why!

Needless to say, words were said and some of his brothers heard. Not a good night for Ann or Bob.

ugh.
 

My first formal was last year, and I was desiganted the 'sober monitor.' Not a big deal to me, i wasn't old enough anyways, so i decide to ask my boyfriend (who else?) and he is all, i hate greeks but ok. So the night of formal he is all ok fine you are dragging me to this thing i won't have a good time even if you try. I ended up buying his drinks, him being 21 just a few months before. So he is all getting drunk and crabby, and decides to get into an argument over why i am a greek and how they are lame, and I am just all over embarrassed from him not even attempting to talk to anyone or have a good time. I didn't even have a good time because he kept being so crabby.
At least my parents had fun :)
So moral of my story, i won't bring him this year, and i am going to ask a friend instead.

The ATO's had their Christmas dance at a hall with ... get this... porta potties. Yes, honest truth.

My dates last name was Wurst and it was the worst night ever.

We had just begun dating and obviously the guy never drank before because within the first hour- he was totally drunk, dancing like a jackass and then he pins me.... yes pins me. I'm tipsy so I go along with it- big mistake - because then all his brothers are having a fit that he pins me on our 2nd date. (Nothing against me but it showed little value for your pin to give it away so easily... I think).

Then the next a.m.... going to his suite and giving the pin back to him and breaking up with him- just a horrible 24 hours!

I have not had the worst....
 

:rolleyes:

I have not had the worst. I date a Sigma and I am a Zeta. It can get hard at times but I guess the thing to do is to realize that buisness is buisness and never to mix the two. That is what we do in our relationship. Sometimes I think that there is too much emphasis being put on being Greek. YOU WERE NOT BORN GREEK. so the issue about dating a greek is obsolete. It is about the person. If you do not get along with the person, it would not matter if they were a Sigma, Zeta, Q or a Delta... that is just how I feel:D :D :D

Blue_Passion_01

"The Spirit of Zeta will forever burn in my Heart."

Re: I have not had the worst....
 

It seems that there is always an especially intimate and difficult nature to those frat/soror relationships. But lord the amount of blue that would be in you guys wedding..... lol

bump, interesting thread.

EDITED because I thought better of posting this... what if someone who was there read it!

OMG, AlphaChi girl, you take the cake. What an asshole!!!!
I hope your next formal you go with a true gentleman who wants to have a blast with you.

-Michelle

The worst ever!
 

My date backed over me with his car! I guess he was in a hurry to leave.......

This is hilarious!

Re: The worst ever!
 

Or he didn't want you to get away...that guy sounds like a keeper!

almost killed by date.....
 

First, on our FIRST date he talked about me meeting hsi family and how we should babysit his nephews together sometime (This was a blind date-no history with this person)and he kept asking me if I thought our "relationship" would work out. Then afterward-I swear to God he almost backed into me with his car! I got out and had to walk behind it and he started backing up and I was walking backward really fast trying to get out of the way and banging on the truck screamin STOP!He finally stopped and I said, "hey you have my number right?" and said all excited "yes" and I said "LOSE IT". I am so mean but damn, he almost took a leg......

My boyfriend of two and half years was in a fraternity... We had a Toga Dance the week after homecoming last year. Well last homecoming we did it with Phi Delt and his fraternity did it with Phi Mu (which is kind of our rival, but not really) anyway... I was asked to Phi Delts homecoming but said no, and then the next day my boyfriend and I broke up. He ended up taking TWO dates to homecoming that he just met that week. And it was my last homecoming!! SO some Sig Ep friends of mine told me to come with them tailgating and then go to their dance. So I went down there and ended up getting stung by a bee (which I am highly allergic to!) and had to take medicines all night while my sisters nursed me to keep me from just about dying. So the guy that had been my boyfriend had promised to go to my dance with me still, even though we weren't together. The day of the dance he tells me that Phi Mu is having a party and he wants to go there instead because he hates our date functions, he never has fun and he would rather be with the girls who "Sweat his sack". So I am furious... I told him that even though he had only been to ONE of our date functions TWO YEARS before he had no right to judge them all and informed him that I would never EVER take him to another one of my sorority dances because of how much trash he talked about my sisterhood. I called my big brother and he went with me (although one of my sisters had a crush on him and had called him to go with her two nights before and he never called her back to answer so she was mad!). I ended up hanging out with him all night and we had a blast!! It was so much fun. So we get the shirts for the dance three days later and by then I was back with my boyfriend. He wanted the shirt cause they were really cool (They said TOGA!!! on the front and had Jim Bulushi from Animal House with a Toga on and a beer and said TOGA TOGA TOGA on the back they were awesome!) and I said no and made him go with me to take it to my big brothers place.

Fast forward five months to our formal. He is all excited about three weeks before and we were having problems again. It was my last formal and I wanted to have fun and I still remembered him ditching me for the Phi Mu party (which he apologized for like three months solid over and turned out they didn't want him there so he went home alone and early from!). I remembered him complaining about my sorority functions so I asked a guy friend of mine. He was mad, but I told him that when he ditched me in October I told him I would NEVER invite him to an AGD function again. I was true to my word. My date at formal got so drunk that we had a $92 bar tab!! It was an okay night, but better than if I had taken my boyfriend! BTW We broke up for good in July, so no more dates/formals/homecomings with him.