Outfit help needed!
 

I'm getting my pin tomorrow night, and I'm trying to decide what to wear. I wasn't told to dress in any particular fashion, but I do want to look nice. What do you suggest I wear?

I was thinking of wearing this:

http://www.golivewire.com/forums/img.cgi?i=163872

With a blue cardigan, black leggings, and flats. I would wear it with tights, but I accidentally left my tights at home, and I don't want to go bare-legged because it's kind of chilly here.

How's that?

Seriously -- many of the questions you're asking are best answered by members of the sorority. Ask them what is appropriate.

Agreed. Or ask the girls in your hall...This is a cute outfit, but I know nothing about your pin ceremony, etc. For this information, you need to talk to your own friends who know what is expected of you on your campus and in your organization.

Unlike every other event, the sisters said nothing about attire for this. That's why I'm thinking I should look nice, but nothing too fancy or formal.

"What is the appropriate dress code for this event?" works well.

We could tell you what works in OUR organizations, but that's irrelevant for this GLO. You need to be having these conversations with actives.

Good luck.

I just feel bad asking the actives so many questions.

I'm sure if I had an idea of what would be appropriate for your organizations, I could go off that because there is no specific dress code for this event -- if there was, I would have been told.

So if I told you that we wore black cloaks to our initiation ceremonies, would you go out and buy one?

Again, you need to ask the actives these questions.

No.

And as I said, there was no specific dress code given, so in all honesty, I could probably go in jeans and a hoodie and be fine...but I want to look nicer than that.

Going off k_s, many of the NPC women would say that you need a plain white dress that covers the shoulders, chest and thighs. Honestly, this is one of those situations where asking the actives is your best bet.

@ justgo_withit - The OP is not pursuing an NPC organization.

@ HopefulInterest - YOU NEED TO ASK THE ACTIVES THESE QUESTIONS. PERIOD. IT DOESN'T MATTER IF YOU ASK THEM A LOT OF QUESTIONS. YOU ARE NOT EXPECTED TO KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT THE ORGANIZATION. ASK THEM.

Don't feel bad. That's why they are there. Just shoot an email to the recruitment chair.

For a lot of our organizations, pin attire is business attire or your "Sunday best" clothing. Bare shoulders are discouraged, so your idea to wear a cardigan over spaghetti straps is a good idea. However, you should contact an active to confirm.

Yes, I realize that and it's part my point. What we wear to our pledge in ceremonies is probably not applicable and she should ask the actives. :)

We. Don't. Know.

There is no way on earth to judge whether or not that outfit is appropriate. Why? We don't know where you are, what you look like (body size, type, etc), what is expected or customary for your organization, what the weather is like where you're at, etc. NO, do NOT tell us.

We really can't help you any more.

And, IMO, you are coming across as quite insecure, instead of an "excited newby". And you are, like it or not, responding to every single post with a counter-post that is bordering on argumentation.

Ahhh. Got it :)

I'm not trying to sound insecure. I'm definitely just really excited. And I hate being bothersome, and I've already texted the sister who is in charge of recruitment a bunch of times about various things, so I feel bad asking more questions.

Don't feel bad about asking questions, ever. Maybe they will learn in the years to come that they need to be a little more specific about what to wear and such, to avoid the multitudes of questions. If they are fairly new (as a chapter or in general) they may not have had to deal with that previously and realizing "oh crap, we should have told the pledges x, y and z" will help them out.

They aren't that new. They've been on campus for 10 years, and the org has been around for much longer than that. The sister in charge of recruitment is new though. She just crossed last semester, so it's her first time doing recruitment.

But she's the only one who has the actual answers. Maybe she'll start to get wise to that fact that she needs to be more forthcoming. If you absolutely don't want to ask her, you can ask any member of your organization what they wore to their pinning ceremony and what their advice is. Ask one of them to go shopping with you. Etc.

Just ask if there's anything specific you're supposed to wear. If she's new at her job your recruitment chair won't be sick of questions. If you don't get an answer or get a vague one, just wear something that is not revealing or tight and that you feel comfortable in.

If they haven't asked you to wear something specific, it may be because it isn't important/relevant to the ceremony, or because they forgot to tell you; in either case they can't possibly be upset if you don't wear what they expected.

I didn't end up getting my pin tonight. The sister who was supposed to bring it had an emergency conflict, but it was very casual, so I was dressed fine.

Really random question..
So you became an official interest on the 22nd and are becoming initiated as a sister (I hope that's the right terminology) on the 24th? Or are you getting an official interest pin?

I think she meant she's being invited to pledge.

I'm getting an official interest pin :)