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greekchic17 07-31-2012 08:35 PM
HELP!: THINKING OF GOING THROUGH RECRUITMENT FOR A SECOND TIME AS A SOPHOMORE
 
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Titchou 07-31-2012 08:43 PM
We have no way to know what will happen or what your chances are since we don't know your campus and we aren't in the chapters at your school. That being said, do they have a separate upperclass quota? If so, that might be your only hope....though that's no guarantee either. Recs will go a long way towards helping. Get them sent in now so the cahpters willbe on the lookout for you this fall.

als463 07-31-2012 08:56 PM
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Originally Posted by greekchic17 (Post 2163147)
I know there are threads out there about sophomore recruitment, but I haven't yet been able to find any with my unique circumstance.

So here it is: I went through recruitment at my school as a freshmen in the spring, since my school has deferred recruitment. This past year, there was a record number of girls going through recruitment, almost all of the freshmen girls went through recruitment at my school, plus I think about 50ish sophomores. There are 9 sororities at my school.

As a freshmen, my grades were okay. They could've been a little better, compared to my past performances in school, but they were solid compared to others. I think at the time of recruitment my GPA was around a 3.1 or 3.2. I wasn't really that involved my freshman year that much because it took me a long while to get adjusted to college life.

After the first round of recruitment, I was only invited back to 4 houses. Two of which were my top two so it didn't bother me that much that half cut me. After philanthropy round, which was next, I was invited back to all 4 for sisterhood round and was thrilled. However, for pref round, I was invited back to my bottom 2 and was heartbroken.

I had a gut instinct that I fit in with the girls at my top 2 houses and was told by several people that they saw me in those houses. I had zero connection whatsoever during the week with my bottom 2. I knew I didn't belong in either one of them. My pi chi convinced me to go through pref round, and I did, but since I was so hurt and had no connection whatsoever with either of those 2 houses, I dropped out of recruitment.

I've been thinking of going through recruitment again as a sophomore. This fall, I've applied and been accepted to work and be involved with 2 very prestigious student organizations. On top of that, I've been working hard and have a game plan to get my GPA up so that it'll be noticeably better than it was during recruitment. Also, I'm working on getting recommendations this time, because I didn't think of getting them the first time around.

With those new circumstances, do you think in a way I might stand a better chance going through recruitment, since I'll know what to expect, know how to act, be more confident, and involved on campus, even though I'll be a sophomore?
translation: I think I am much prettier/ smarter/ thinner/ have more money/ much more fun/ etc. than the "BOTTOM" chapters. I am delusional and think that I belong in a BETTER house than those BOTTOM-Feeder chapters because I.AM.AWESOME! To top it off, I am a special snowflake with a super unique story. No one has ever come on this website with my circumstances. How could they? Didn't you hear me? I.AM.AWESOME! Do you (GCers) think that by joining the "prestigious" organizations on campus and bringing up my GPA, I have a better chance of not getting asked back to the chapter full of (I think someone mentioned it on here as) kitchen staff? I think so! Yay me!

Greek_or_Geek? 07-31-2012 08:56 PM
There is no upper class quota at your school. Not being a freshman is a big negative, particularly for a re-rusher. You are listing a lot of "ifs" in your plan to go through recruitment again. Whether you truly improve on your situation or not, you have nothing to lose by going through recruitment again as long as you are sure you can deal with the same level of rejection and most likely even more rejection than you faced Freshman year.

pinapple 07-31-2012 08:57 PM
Cap lock is not your friend.

sigmagirl2000 07-31-2012 09:11 PM
why is your username "greekchick" when you are not greek, and even seem to think yourself above several greek organizations on your campus?

28StGreek 07-31-2012 09:15 PM
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Originally Posted by greekchic17 (Post 2163147)
I had a gut instinct that I fit in with the girls at my top 2 houses
At the end of the day it doesn't matter what your gut instinct tells you if the Chapter's gut instinct tells them you wouldn't fit in.

Greek_or_Geek? 07-31-2012 09:21 PM
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Originally Posted by 28StGreek (Post 2163157)
At the end of the day it doesn't matter what your gut instinct tells you if the Chapter's gut instinct tells them you wouldn't fit in.
Usually when a PNM like this has a gut feeling, it's only gas. A lot of gas.

als463 07-31-2012 09:24 PM
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Originally Posted by Greek_or_Geek? (Post 2163161)
Usually when a PNM like this has a gut feeling, it's only gas. A lot of gas.
Yep! It appears to be a lot of hot air!

greekchic17 07-31-2012 10:01 PM
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AZTheta 07-31-2012 10:10 PM
Honestly, I will tell you what I tell each and every poster who comes here to ask "what are my chances?"

We. Don't. Know.

Titchou already told you that and I'm merely reiterating the same information. Further, we do not participate in membership selection at your campus. So, how can we possibly predict your chances (not that we would even if we did participate, because membership selection is considered Ritual by many/most/all NPC chapters, and is private information)?

We don't know, we don't know, we don't know... You might want to reflect long and hard on Jen's advice, above. And if you do decide to go through recruitment again, I wish you the very best.

Old_Row 07-31-2012 10:57 PM
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Originally Posted by greekchic17 (Post 2163178)
For starters, that's the first username that popped into my head when I was trying to register really fast since I didn't want to give any personal information away. Also, it's not that I thought that the 2 other chapters were bottom chapters, it's just that in my personal preference they were the bottom 2. Also, when you're feeling really upset during pref, you don't always make the right decision about dropping out or not. Looking back now, I do regret dropping out of pref, and would gladly join one of those organizations if I had a chance. I have friends who have beautiful hearts and personalities in ALL of the chapters. Also, I didn't meant to use the all caps, I was just trying to hurry and wanted to catch someone's attention. You should all know, that I'm really torn about my decision, and I wanted advice and a place to turn to that handled questions like these, so I would please appreciate it if you didn't tear me down. It was really hard to begin thinking about this and to muster the courage.
I hope you realize there are Elon people on here. Do you expect them to feel sorry for you?

aephi alum 08-01-2012 12:33 AM
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Originally Posted by greekchic17 (Post 2163178)
For starters, that's the first username that popped into my head when I was trying to register really fast since I didn't want to give any personal information away. Also, it's not that I thought that the 2 other chapters were bottom chapters, it's just that in my personal preference they were the bottom 2. Also, when you're feeling really upset during pref, you don't always make the right decision about dropping out or not. Looking back now, I do regret dropping out of pref, and would gladly join one of those organizations if I had a chance. I have friends who have beautiful hearts and personalities in ALL of the chapters. Also, I didn't meant to use the all caps, I was just trying to hurry and wanted to catch someone's attention. You should all know, that I'm really torn about my decision, and I wanted advice and a place to turn to that handled questions like these, so I would please appreciate it if you didn't tear me down. It was really hard to begin thinking about this and to muster the courage.
*ahem* backpedal *ahem*

MaggieXi 08-01-2012 09:23 AM
Elon person here...And I know what you are saying between the lines without saying it and I'm not going to be harsh on you because I know the campus and what goes on during the fall. The sororities at Elon are phenomenal marketing machines.

This was also the first year that included KD in formal recruitment. Adding a ninth sorority was an adjustment for everyone. And the poster is correct - record number of PNMs this year!

First off, you don't need to make your decision right now. It hasn't been posted as to whether or not their will be fall informal recruitment. And if there is, most likely the two you were invited back to pref will be participating, maybe one or two more but the number of bids will be limited at each chapter. When/if its publicized, then think about it some more.

While I can't tell you what your chances are, here is some advice that holds true for anyone going through recruitment at Elon:
-Get involved in organizations (which it looks like you are doing)
-Make friends/ maintain friendships with Greek Women in all sororities (not just the ones you think you fit in best with or are considered "top tier")
-Get your GPA up. The all greek women's average GPA from last fall is a 3.36. 6 of the 9 sororities have GPAs above the average. For a sophomore, you may want to have a GPA closer to 3.5 if possible.
- Don't ever be "that girl" and don't associate with "that girl". People have an entire semester to talk.
- Go into recruitment polished, confident and with an open mind.

Every year sophomores get bids to every house. Not every sophomore, but many of them. If you can make yourself stand out for all the right reasons and have true friendships with many of the women in sororities already it can only help you.

PM me if you have any other questions. I know that there is one other Elon GCer that posts regularly.

chi-o_cat 08-01-2012 09:41 AM
“Wow, we’ve never seen a situation like yours before,” said no Greek Chat member ever.

28StGreek 08-01-2012 09:48 AM
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Originally Posted by chi-o_cat (Post 2163261)
“Wow, we’ve never seen a situation like yours before,” said no Greek Chat member ever.
But I have a pet unicorn that poops rainbows. Does this mean I am top tier material?

Not to be dismissive, but I feel that most of the PNM that are getting all their advice about greek life from Greek Chat, they probably are inadequately prepared for recruitment in general.

So PNMs PLEASE read the advice you're given, and don't argue!

MaggieXi 08-01-2012 10:04 AM
I'm not defending the PNM for dropping out of recruitment or for putting it out there that she believed that she belonged in her top two choices or thinking her situation is "unique". But many of the PNMs that go to Elon are from the northeast or midwest and are not prepared for recruitment compared to their southern counterparts. It's not necessairly their fault, its something that they are just not familiar with. While the school is located in the south, it is heavily populated by students from the northeast.

Xylochick216 08-01-2012 10:13 AM
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Originally Posted by MaggieXi (Post 2163258)
Elon person here...And I know what you are saying between the lines without saying it and I'm not going to be harsh on you because I know the campus and what goes on during the fall. The sororities at Elon are phenomenal marketing machines.

This was also the first year that included KD in formal recruitment. Adding a ninth sorority was an adjustment for everyone. And the poster is correct - record number of PNMs this year!

First off, you don't need to make your decision right now. It hasn't been posted as to whether or not their will be fall informal recruitment. And if there is, most likely the two you were invited back to pref will be participating, maybe one or two more but the number of bids will be limited at each chapter. When/if its publicized, then think about it some more.

While I can't tell you what your chances are, here is some advice that holds true for anyone going through recruitment at Elon:
-Get involved in organizations (which it looks like you are doing)
-Make friends/ maintain friendships with Greek Women in all sororities (not just the ones you think you fit in best with or are considered "top tier")
-Get your GPA up. The all greek women's average GPA from last fall is a 3.36. 6 of the 9 sororities have GPAs above the average. For a sophomore, you may want to have a GPA closer to 3.5 if possible.
- Don't ever be "that girl" and don't associate with "that girl". People have an entire semester to talk.
- Go into recruitment polished, confident and with an open mind.

Every year sophomores get bids to every house. Not every sophomore, but many of them. If you can make yourself stand out for all the right reasons and have true friendships with many of the women in sororities already it can only help you.

PM me if you have any other questions. I know that there is one other Elon GCer that posts regularly.
I'm here! Maggie gave great advice. Sophomores can get bids, but grades have to be good and you have to make sure you aren't doing anything this fall to make the chapters think you're a liability (being rude, being "that girl" at fraternity parties, talking badly about any group, etc. - not saying you are, but I've seen it happen). I'm also not sure if there will be fall recruitment, but it's usually invitation-only.

As a sophomore, keep your options open. Your bottom two could possibly be your ONLY two after a few rounds, so be prepared to decide if you would drop again or if you'd accept a bid. Some groups have their bid lists practically made before recruitment and know which sophomores they'd take. Your choices may be more limited this time around.

gee_ess 08-01-2012 11:07 AM
Despite the fact that much of our very sage advice here on GC can be applied to the typical recruitment scenarios, I really think it is great when a GCer with specific knowledge can provide additional info like Maggixi and xylochick have done here.

:)

greekchic17 08-01-2012 02:37 PM
Thank you Maggixi and xylochick for all of your help! Also, to everyone else, I didn't mean to sound snotty by saying I had a unique circumstance, I just meant I had trouble navigating greekchat to find something similar to me. Sometimes it can just be hard to search! Lol!

And honestly, like I said before, I regret dropping out of recruitment, because I think joining one of those two sororities would have helped me a lot in adjusting to college life and being far away from home.

Maggixi, you were right. I am from the northeast. I'm from Maryland, and no one in my family is greek, so I honestly had no idea what to expect about recommendations, finding the perfect fit where you might least expect it, etc until after the fact. (Not to make an excuse though.)

I think though, in the long run, it was a good experience to have to learn from and become a stronger person and to move forward.

Sometimes I wish PNMs had more time to think about their choices before and after pref round instead of rushing into one that they might regret later on, as I did. But I'm not trying to make an excuse.

I'm going to think long and hard about it, and see what informal recruitment brings in the fall, and go from there.

And as I said before, I have wonderful friends in ALL of the groups, that were made long BEFORE recruitment ever started. They're true friends, and always will be, and they're not solely defined as a person and human being for which letters they might wear. That's not why I'm friends with them.

ree-Xi 08-01-2012 02:44 PM
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Originally Posted by greekchic17 (Post 2163299)

Maggixi, you were right. I am from the northeast. I'm from Maryland, and no one in my family is greek, so I honestly had no idea what to expect about recommendations, finding the perfect fit where you might least expect it, etc until after the fact. (Not to make an excuse though.)
<swerve>

I guess the answer is relative to where the person who asks this question lives, but is Maryland really considered the "Northeast"? Sorry, they're pretty far down the coast from where I am - we would refer to MD as "Mid-Atlantic".

</swerve>

greekchic17 08-01-2012 02:51 PM
If it helps, I'm right by the Mason - Dixon line. Compared to NC, it's Northeastern to some. But I've never been around southern recruitment before ever or been educated about it.

greekchic17 08-01-2012 02:53 PM
Also, I forgot to add, I lived in Pennsylvania for a few years because of my dad's job.

Titchou 08-01-2012 03:23 PM
Please, take my word for it. Maryland is not in the South.

MaggieXi 08-01-2012 03:46 PM
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Originally Posted by Titchou (Post 2163308)
Please, take my word for it. Maryland is not in the South.
Elon is really more of a mid-atlantic school, more than a southern school because it draws from the northeast so much (after NC, the next largest state represented is MA) even though its in North Carolina and is full of southern charm and is just a great place. (ok, off my soap box about how wonderful Elon is!)

One thing more GreekChick: Go to the Philanthropy events in fall that each sorority and fraternity host! Its a great way to meet the sorority members, support your friends and support philanthropies. Good Luck!

carnation 08-01-2012 04:03 PM
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Originally Posted by greekchic17 (Post 2163178)
For starters, that's the first username that popped into my head when I was trying to register really fast since I didn't want to give any personal information away.
I don't buy it. You have reported several posts and we can see that your email starts with "sororitygirl".

indygphib 08-01-2012 04:35 PM
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Originally Posted by carnation (Post 2163324)
I don't buy it. You have reported several posts and we can see that your email starts with "sororitygirl".
http://i235.photobucket.com/albums/e...snap-17397.jpg

Greek_or_Geek? 08-01-2012 04:55 PM
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Originally Posted by carnation (Post 2163324)
I don't buy it. You have reported several posts and we can see that your email starts with "sororitygirl".
Good grief. Whatever could this two faced creature believe is reportable in this thread? People not agreeing with her?

AZTheta 08-01-2012 06:12 PM
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Originally Posted by greekchic17 (Post 2163299)
Thank you Maggixi and xylochick for all of your help! Also, to everyone else, I didn't mean to sound snotty by saying I had a unique circumstance, I just meant I had trouble navigating greekchat to find something similar to me. Sometimes it can just be hard to search! Lol!

And honestly, like I said before, I regret dropping out of recruitment, because I think joining one of those two sororities would have helped me a lot in adjusting to college life and being far away from home.

Maggixi, you were right. I am from the northeast. I'm from Maryland, and no one in my family is greek, so I honestly had no idea what to expect about recommendations, finding the perfect fit where you might least expect it, etc until after the fact. (Not to make an excuse though.)

I think though, in the long run, it was a good experience to have to learn from and become a stronger person and to move forward.

Sometimes I wish PNMs had more time to think about their choices before and after pref round instead of rushing into one that they might regret later on, as I did. But I'm not trying to make an excuse.

I'm going to think long and hard about it, and see what informal recruitment brings in the fall, and go from there.

And as I said before, I have wonderful friends in ALL of the groups, that were made long BEFORE recruitment ever started. They're true friends, and always will be, and they're not solely defined as a person and human being for which letters they might wear. That's not why I'm friends with them.

Again, I wish you good luck.

shirley1929 08-01-2012 06:17 PM
But did anyone catch this? (after first post)

Last edited by greekchic17; Today at 04:05 PM. Reason: want to delete this post. people are abusing it and saying nasty things and are being harrassive.

Rejectment.

Old_Row 08-01-2012 06:48 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by AzTheta (Post 2163352)
Don't worry - I suspect your problem will resolve itself by the 2nd round. -SWTXBelle
Sooooooo appropriate!

lovespink88 08-01-2012 06:54 PM
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Originally Posted by chi-o_cat (Post 2163261)
“Wow, we’ve never seen a situation like yours before,” said no Greek Chat member ever.
Quote:
Originally Posted by indygphib (Post 2163335)
Quote:
Originally Posted by shirley1929 (Post 2163353)
But did anyone catch this? (after first post)

Last edited by greekchic17; Today at 04:05 PM. Reason: want to delete this post. people are abusing it and saying nasty things and are being harrassive.

Rejectment.
annnnnnd I'm done. :D

thetalady 08-01-2012 07:20 PM
and now the floucing & deleting begins..... I give her a 7.1. No originality at all.

MaggieXi 08-01-2012 08:51 PM
Ugh. That's what I get for trying to be helpful.
Rejectment.

Xidelt 08-01-2012 09:33 PM
^^ no, I think you were being harrassive.

Greek_or_Geek? 08-01-2012 10:42 PM
Now she's being harrassive via private message. Double rejectment.

sigmadiva 08-01-2012 11:10 PM
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Originally Posted by shirley1929 (Post 2163353)
But did anyone catch this? (after first post)

Last edited by greekchic17; Today at 04:05 PM. Reason: want to delete this post. people are abusing it and saying nasty things and are being harrassive.

Rejectment.
It really doesn't matter because it has already been QFP. :)

shirley1929 08-01-2012 11:21 PM
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Originally Posted by sigmadiva (Post 2163414)
It really doesn't matter because it has already been QFP. :)
I wasn't pointing out she deleted her post...just her use of the non-word "harrasive". Thus the reason for it being bolded.

DrPhil 08-01-2012 11:32 PM
We would love to read the harassive private messages.

IrishLake 08-01-2012 11:36 PM
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Originally Posted by DrPhil (Post 2163427)
We would love to read the harassive private messages.
I second this motion.


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