Excuses Excuses Excuses
 

Whats everyones favorite excuse to turn down someone for a date. This ought to be great. :D

If it is someone I am not interested in... my fav to use is "I am interested in someone else."

Since I have been dating the same girl for 2 years I haven't had to use any excuses. What I used to say when I was still in the market was I just don't feel like dating right now, I need to "ME" time. Or I would say I am just to busy with school work right now to go on a date, I need to do well in my classes.

The standard response was...."I have a boyfriend."
Another was, "I just got out of a relationship and I'm not ready to date."

Oh, I hate being mean and sadly, have not had THAT many opportunities to turn people down(oops, not how that sounds-I mean not to many people have asked me out, not that I am sad I can't say no to more people :) ) but I always like that I am to busy at this time for anything more but when things slow down, lets see what happens. That way, if its just someone you aren't sure of, you can have a few weeks or months to scope them out and if its someone you REALLY don't like, you can just play busy till they move on.

I have a boyfriend
I'm engaged
and the worst i think ive used......I'm a lesbian (sorry)

I absolutely hate to hurt someones feelings..but if I am trying to get out of a date, I either say I am sick...my dog is sick...one of my female friends just broke up with her bf and needs me or completely avoid their phone calls altogether (thank the lord for caller id!), I have had to switch my aol username like 4 times due to people who had my email address and didnt get the hint!

word for word?

"Awww, hon, I'm so flattered you think of me that way, but really, I don't want to lead you on or make you think I feel things that i don't. I think you're great, and it's not you, its me, but i don't really want to get involved in anything right now, and i'm afraid that a date might put us in that situation. You mean too much to me as a friend to risk ruining that relationship. I'm sorry... :( "

Heh heh heh...:)

Sorry, but I'm actually an undercover monk and I can't date you.

Re: Excuses Excuses Excuses
 

I've never turned down a free dinner. Besides, you never know who will surprise you.

"Thanks, but I'm seeing someone..."

or, if we've gone out once and I don't have any interest when the second date comes up;...

"I had a good time meeting you, but I've become exclusive with someone else since we last went out"

or

"Thanks, I really enjoyed meeting you, but I just don't feel we have enough in common/enough chemistry to take this any furhter"

I HAVE learned that honesty--re: that last response is the best, because they feel like, well at least she's being honest AND it keeps them from calling again in a few weeks to see if I've stopped seeing that other guy.

While I havent had the chance in so long, since Christ was a corporal!

But " Sorry but at the moment I have Crabs". Not the Alaskan King kind!:D

You have to remember the whole 6 degrees to seperation rule. A friend tells a friend who tells a friend who tells a friend etc.

Suddenly everyone really believes it.

"I don't think it would be right - see, I have this friend, and he really likes you . . . I don't want to be 'that guy' you know . . . " (that one's a freakin classic)

"I don't think I could do that to our friendship - I really value you in that position, and I think I would mess things up."

"I have way too much on my plate as it is - it wouldn't be fair to you to start something else . . . "

"You're a very cool girl, I'd be lucky to have you - but I'm just not into it like that right now . . ."

"Wait - if we start going out, does this mean I'll get laid?" (that'll get rid of just about anyone . . . hahaha)

There's some good ones out there - just round up all your asshole friends (everyone has a few), and send 'em after girls they're not into. The lines will be classic - "I'm gay" looks tame in comparison . . .

"I value our friendship too much"

"One of my sisters has liked you for a long time, and I can't do that to her."

"I'm not ready fro that kind of committment"

"You're too good for me"

riiiiiggghhhhhtttt.

...you wanna buy a nice bridge??
 

"I just don't think I'm up to the challenge of dating such a major player" :rolleyes:

The one I always use that I almost got busted for was, "I'm just visiting. I'm actually leaving town TOMMORROW." I use this most often when I go to bars and stuff, but one time I got busted. I was in Washington D.C. doing this internship this summer and went to this party. This one guy talked to me forever and wouldn't shut up. Finally he asked me for my number, and I used my line. The next week I ran into him in Georgetown. I swear it must be the smallest city ever.

are tools for the weak and incompetent....

whoops...wrong subject

"I don't go on dates with woman I haven't had sex with"

"I have a boyfriend" although this one doesn't always work. Some guys just don't care.

I've used I'm a lesbian once. This guy was really creepy and it was the first thing that came to mind.

While I'm engaged, so it hasn't been an issue, but what I used to use was:

"I'm terribly flattered, but I'm not dating just now."

a guy i worked with was telling me about time he turned down a date with a girl by telling her he was rearranging his sock drawer that night... and he said this with a straight face as well...

I usually just tell the guy that my parents don't allow me to date yet...you'd be surprised at how many dorks actually believe this one...:D

I have also told guys that ask me for my number that I don't have a phone...and they usually either believe me or they take the hint that I'm definitely not interested. ;)

"I've got a boyfriend"
"I'm from out of town and leaving <insert near day here>"

or sometimes I will combine the two: "I'm from out of town visiting my boyfriend and leaving tomorrow"

"I really can't talk right now I'm late for a group project meeting (or work or..)" and run away

hehehe

I just say,"Thank you for asking, but I am not interested"

That generally works, and guys generally get the very direct, "No".

However, in Spain, when this guy wouldn't leave me alone, I chased him out of the club. I don't think he had ever had a girl try to beat him up before.

My reply lately has been "I don't have the time or energy to deal with all the BS involved in dating"

And, it's the truth!

Dee

This happened to a guy I knew in college... he asked a girl out and she turned him down by saying, "I'm sorry, but I don't feel like being social this semester."

Poor guy...