The Cookie Table, redux
 

I know that there's several mentions of The Cookie Table in Chit Chat, but I need the opinion of those who may have tried this?

Has anybody ever tried to sell this on the uninitiated? My fiance is okay with it, but his mother hasn't said a word one way or another. Our wedding is just before Christmas, so it would normally be easy to say something like, "You'd be baking cookies for Christmas anyhow..." but first they need an explanation, I know the women of the church will be giving me a shower, so I've considered having a little note either go out with the invitations or passed around at the shower.

I've stressed the importance of this to his family, but I don't think they're really getting it. How would you handle it? What would you say?


ETA: I've already been planning take away boxes for the extras, and some kid friendly cookies.

I'd tell them it is a tradition which I dearly love, and it would mean a great deal to have it at your wedding. Perhaps have a cookie swap type party a few days before - everyone can bring the cookies (but not to swap!) and the recipes?

Ooooh, Aaaah at the pink!

Seriously, my future mil's eyes somewhat glazed over when I mentioned it, and of course, my mama's not around to sweetly insist. My scheme at this point:

My fiance is an SID, and an excellent writer. I was going to lamely write a somewhat short (but pretty) note, including the website I quoted, emphasizing the meaning of the acceptance of the union between us. I might throw in something that they'll be making Christmas cookies anyhow. When I email that to my fiance, he'll probably make a few changes, since these are his peeps. ;) I also need him to pick a "cookie table lady", someone to put these all together. Around here, that automatically comes with any wedding caterers. I also reminded him that I'll be moving there, so it's not like I can bake a few thousand dozen cookies & freeze them.

Oh, if I do use the GC quote, expect this whole thread to be disappear!!

Careful if you tell everyone that your family's tradition and then your familly is talking about what a neat idea you had.

Saying it is "a" tradition you're trying to start might be better...

/2 cents

/swerve

I am going to take all of you out in a field and yell at you. I FINALLY started losing weight after months of procrastinating. NOW you've triggered my Inner Cookie Monster and I'm BAKING BROWNIES at 6:30 am. Honey, I am so mad at you I could chew tacks. The mere mention of "cookies" triggers my inner demons. And eggs are 99 cents a dozen at Albertsons, so I can bake like crazy. It's all your fault.

note to self: avoid any threads that Honey starts that have cookie in the title. And don't look at KSUViolet's posts, either.

Don't let MysticCat post any cookie pictures here. :D

You know, it isn't "traditional" for the bride to bake cookies for her own wedding, but dammit, I did it anyways. If you feel like people aren't picking up what you're putting down, then perhaps you can start the baking yourself and use it as an excuse to get others involved?

We had folks start baking in July for our November wedding, and then freeze them to keep them fresh. Everything tasted delicious!

Photo evidence...dieters beware.(Also...this is a tiny fraction of what there actually was. The caterers kept filling them until we were out)

http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y42...15001124-2.jpg

:mad::mad::mad:

damn.

just, damn.

:mad::mad::mad:
I'm going to block any cookie- or food-related threads. I can do that, right?

I think cookie tables are a great tradition. Usually people I know have politely asked those close to them to bake a few of their favorite cookies so everyone can share their traditions.
I think it would be okay to leave little cards on the table at the shower or even mention you're doing a cookie table in your inivites to close family and friends and ask them to contact you or your person in charge if theyd like to share a favorite recipe orhelp bake

honey, I've known people whose "church ladies" have happily made cookies for cookie tables. I know that's probably tougher since you're not going to be in your town, but perhaps MIL2B knows some such ladies?

Also, maybe a sort of compromise - I wanted a cookie table, but my sister had already volunteered to make my cake and I hated to ask her to do more. She volunteered to make cookies as favors instead - so there was a little place of 3-4 cookies at each place.

(I think she actually did more work doing that in the long run - because they were sugar cutout cookies and she iced and hand-decorated each one!)

ETA: Here's the plate from our table!
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I'm laughing a bit at the need for a Southern mother to enforce the cookie table tradition. My mother's "sweet insistence" would simply have been "That's just how it's done." The negative of that -- "that's just not how it's done" -- was what I heard when I lobbied for a non-chocolate groom's cake. "But mother, I'm the groom and I don't like chocolate cake!" "That's just not how it's done."

Yeah, the groom's cake was chocolate.


:p



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Now those cake-cookies are precious!

MysticCat, those cookies are simply gorgeous! Almost too pretty to eat, in fact!

My mama had to swim upstream, so to speak, not having anyone to back her up in traditions, so she would insist that you do something in a way that you're honored to do it! "Now don't you think that a cookie table would be absolutely darling? And it's just such a lovely tradition, blessing the newlyweds with sweets!"

She was at one of her club meetings when a handwriting analyst was there. They all had to write some phrase & give it to him. When he read hers, he laughed and said, "You don't always see the Steel Hand in the Velvet Glove this far north! Ladies, if you know this woman, she will charm you into doing whatever she wants." This was long before Steel Magnolias, too!

PhoenixAzul, if I get there with some time on my hands (Time! Hah!), I will bake cookies! My fiance & his friends swear I bake the best cookies! But alas, I can't make them here, and hope to freeze them beforehand. I have cookie cutters for 4 different sizes & shapes of snowflakes, and I'd LOVE to be able to have them! Last year, I make thumbprints with light blue icing, and sprinkled edible snowflakes on top - they were a HUGE hit!

Hey, I just realized that I can make rum balls and bourbon balls ahead of time! They'll be about 200 proof by then, but they'll be made!

And the problem with them being 200 proof is . . . ? :p

Think of all the money that could be saved instead of spending it on alcohol. Oh? You need a drink? Here have a rum ball instead!

*like* for obvs reasons.

Well, it does get around the liquor ban! :D

Got turned onto Sam's Club's cream puffs & eclairs yesterday - my DAR chapter is going to supply them! First volunteers!

I told my mother about this tradition about a week ago. She loves the idea and as already started telling all her friends about it. They want to do it for all the weddings that are coming up.


Bringing southern traditions to the West Coast since 2011.

It is a Pittsburgh area tradition, not a southern tradition, FYI. My family pretty much did this but it expanded to other Italian desserts like cannoli too. Then again, they first settled in Pittsburgh before coming to Detroit.

It's a tradition in a lot of cultures. You will never go to a Greek Wedding or an Eastern European wedding that there is no cookie table. I went to so many of them when I was little that the first wedding I went to where there was no cookie table made me cry. I was expecting it!

I just did a cycle of "Aw that's cute! Dang, I drooled." about 3 times. :(

I'm all about the cupcakes and want to grab one off that Theta table up there (black and gold)

Signs that you're spending too much time on Greekchat...

I just looked at these three pictures and thought "Tri Sigma... AST... Theta..."

What, you didn't see the Phi Mu's quadrefoils and ADPi diamonds? ;)

Those macaron towers are insane! Absolutely love it!

I had never heard of doing a cookie table before. I didn't have one at my wedding.

GC has started a cookie table obsession in me. I already told my boyfriend that we are having an ice cream cake and a cookie table at our wedding instead of a traditional wedding cake. :)

So far, this is going over like a lead balloon. :( I had to remind my DF of his promise. I start making rum balls this weekend, and my bridesmaids and all Burgh people have been primed to either bring cookies, or sweetly ask, "Where's the Cookie Table? You can't have a wedding without a Cookie table!" One very dear friend has promised to come early, make her remark about the lack of the Cookie Table, and then go out and get some (they'll be in her car)!

I should have told y'all this one earlier: the last wedding I went to was a Scots wedding, with all of the men wearing their respective kilts, and the ladies wearing their sashes. The groom's kilt was predominately black and purple, so the bridesmaid dresses were black, with purple trim for those not Scots.

Do you know what I mean by lady locks, cream horn or clothespin cookies? They're hollow pastry tubes filled with some sort of whipped cream or icing. Well, at this wedding, the ladies filled them with black or purple icing! All night long, people were licking their teeth so they didn't look black! I just found a place that sells the empty shells, and we can fill them there!

^^^ I want them all. Now. Sigh.

Fun pink candy/cupcake/cookie table:
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Letter candy:
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There was a Dessert Table at the shower DF's church threw for me on Sunday! I told him, "take out the cakes, and that's a Cookie Table." He was very excited about it, saying that it was nothing like he had imagined! What did he expect, a table made out of cookies?? Anyhow, he passed the news around, and the Cookie Table may debut in Chicagoland after all!!!

Those look tasty!

Honeychile, I know I'm late for this, and for some reason think that you already got married, but I'd be happy to make cookies for your cookie table if you need volunteers.

Also, I've seen them at a couple of weddings here.

I have some I'd love to make and I can mail them to you with extras and hand made pressies for your cats, right?