1 Pissed AGD
 

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Sarah,

Calm down and get a hold of yourself! At this point, you really don't know who has your credit card. I realize that you're upset--I would be really angry too--but you're jumping to conclusions.

Defaming an entire organization for the possible actions of one member is unfair. I know that you're blowing off steam and you don't really mean what you wrote, but these things can really hurt other people's feelings and they have a way of coming back to bite you.

Remember that as Alpha Gams, we are to "covet beauty in environment, manner,word and thought." Let's all try to live up to our Purpose a little better, especially on a public forum.

I'm not telling you this to criticize you; rather, I love you as my sister and I don't want to see you do something that may end up hurting you. Please let us know what happens when you do find out what's going on with your card. I know that the authorities will take the appropriate action.

Love in EP,
Maria

dang girl. i was 'bout rolling on the floor after reading your post. i know that i shouldn't but dang. i can sit here and see a mental image of you all pissed off and it was kind of amusing just cause the only time i met you, you were all sweet and nicey. ::Grins:: lots of alpha gam love to you. it will all work out. think happy thoughts!

LIEP,
marissa

Re: 1 Pissed AGD
 

Whoa, watch it! This is a public forum, and you are going to offend a lot of women. I realize you are letting off steam, but your words are inappropriate.

Hey Sarah ... I'm sorry to hear about your less-than-ideal experience with that individual & also 'losing' your ID & cc's ... trust me when I say that I know how you feel! My supervisor this past summer 'borrowed' my corporate amex that I handed in when I quit (it was THAT bad) & proceeded to have his car detailed & bought a few (dozen) rounds at a local nightspot ... it took me months to rid myself of these fraudulent charges, & he's now facing a fraud investigation! Anyway, I know just how frustrated you must be right now ... definitely do get the surveillance & follow up with the cc company & stick it to the culprit!!

In the meantime, do know that while the conduct of this individual was obviously VERY unbecoming for anyone, let alone a Greek woman, she is only ONE member of that organization. As such, do try to remember that she definitely DOES NOT represent their entire organization (heaven forbid!!) ... it's her that you're mad at (& rightfully so!) , not her GLO. Believe me, if you were to ask any of her sisters here on gc, I am very confident that they too would denouce her behavior as very 'unsisterly'!! Don't waste your time or energy getting yourself riled up any more - she's soooo NOT worth it!!! my advice ... since she is only ONE member, perhaps it would be best to focus on her in your post & not condemn the organization - no sense in upsetting the online members of that organization.

ok, I'll step down from my soapbox now. Sarah, do take care of yourself & know that your online sisters will always have your back :)

LiEP,

Jen
Delta Zeta '97
University of British Columbia:)

With the survelliance I am sure you will bust her. Even though she was right in front of you it only takes a second for someone to steal from it, so it might not be her. But if it is her she will go to jail and I am sure Phi Mu will boot her out. Hopefully with a calmer head you will realize that her org in not at fault as well.

UGH! I'm so sorry to hear what has happened. I hope everything pans out and you catch the thief! I understand your anger and frustration. :(

Actually, I would not denounce anyone's behavior until I heard her side of the story.

Sarah,

Any news? Have they caught the culprit yet?

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$1200 ?!?!?!?!?! what the hell. dang girl. i'm glad this is at least working out for you in that her face is on surveillance stuff. good luck with this.

marissa

This post is making me so f*&%ing mad. How can people do these things? I would definitely prosecute plus I would take her to Judge Judy-she would kick some a$$. Good Luck!

lol, I hope that beeotch gets thrown in jail and de-sistered. UGH! That makes me so mad!

I would have to agree with most that it is not a good idea to write negative comments about others in writing because they can come back to haunt you!

I know that you were angry, I would also be ticked off and would not let her and those involved get away with it.

Very smart of you to get that video shoot and I would definetly prosecute. As for her parents, I would hope that her father being a lawyer would be a person with integrity that would see how his daughter was wrong and would not stand by her as she tries to defend herself. If I were you, I would consider writing a professional letter to her executive committe at her chapter and I would cc her international headquarters. I believe that her behavior (Once you can prove that it was actually behavior that she did partake in!) deserves suspension from her sorority so that she learns a lessson and so that others will learn from her mistake. I know that if someone in my chapter did something as mischevious and as drastic as that, I would definetly pursue that and make it my personal goal (this may sound very malicious, but from what you say about her reactions after you confronted her, she needs a lesson!)

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This just keeps getting better and better, Sarah! What on earth was she thinking?!?!

"My dad is a lawyer and he'll get me out of it anyway." Instead of getting her out of it, he should be taking her over his knee! If I ever heard my child talking about me like that...well, let's just say they wouldn't be able to sit down for a while.

If this is her first offense, she'll probably plead out and get some kind of community service and restitution. But her attitude about it is so blase, that I get the feeling she's done this before. So who knows what will happen. At the least they will charge her with larceny and credit-card fraud.

I would be very surprised if her membership isn't pulled after this. I wouldn't want a known felon---and an unrepentant one at that--around my chapter! It would reflect badly on everyone, and believe me, the word spreads fast.

What a mess!:rolleyes:

Whew!:eek:

The one thing I'd advise you to do is to stay firm. It's very common for a student to be caught in a crime and then his/her friends or parents will come put heavy pressure on the victim to drop the charges; I saw it happen many times in the past year. Those who think they're "helping" the student don't realize that another offense is likely to happen shortly.

Stay strong! See it through to the end, no matter how much you're pressured; enlist your friends' and parent's help too!

I would also take all the evidence and the police report and send it to her GLO'S IHQ. Bet you she will be dealt with real quick there.

Oh well! I guess that is that.

if she is that "weak" maybe she be at home living with daddy-this would be easier as he would be rt. there to clean up her messes
sorry I have no sympathy:mad:

How ridiculous! I would laugh except its so sad.

One of these days Daddy isn't going to be able to help--then she'll be so far in over her head she'll never get out. And Daddy will have no one to blame but himself for raising a spoiled rotten child.

Something to add to the top 10 pet-peeves thread: Parents who think they are helping their children when in fact they are hurting them more than they can possible imagine. :mad:

I know that in this case, it wouldn't work, but the sorority sisters that egged her on could possibly have been charged with "aiding and abetting", i.e., "party to a crime", which may carry the same penalties as the offender.

I would think that $1200 credit card fraud would be a felony so what would affect her the rest of her life. If your state is an "open records" state, it would be interesting to see if she has been "weak" before.

There was a case in a nearby town where a prominent dentist forged blood work papers to hide the fact that his underage daughter was drunk. Darling Dau will prob get a light sentence (maybe a first offender sentence where she gets prob and the record is sealed for employment/licensing purposes) whereas darling dad may end up with a felony.

Hope your offender has enough trust fund to weather a bad rep and/or criminal history that future employers will find out about:rolleyes:

Lynn, I heard about that dentist case!

As a parent, I'm sure you want to let your kid learn. I don't think covering up for a mature adult is going to be the right answer.

The stupid girl should pay up and learn the hard way. I think you should write their nationals and bring her up on standards. (if they have this...) That type of conduct of any GLO member should be spotlighted.

Very interesting post - I am filled with so many emotions! I have a question though that may bring some sort of gratification to you ilovemyglo.....if she is convicted, even if she just gets community service, wont it go on her record and she would have to put it on any future employment documents? That would be cool. Also, do I understand this right...the thief's boyfriend works at the Gap where she used your credit card? Couldnt he be charged too for looking the other way? I just think that whole story about her being persuaded by other girls is BS! Blah - please keeps us updated!

Volgirl
 

Interesting timing, I'm watching the TN-Vandy game...and I didn't go to either one..just waiting for the Ga-GaTech game..so I won't tell you who I hope wins the T-V game, ;)

As for the offender's record, it depends on the state. Georgia has a program called the First Offender Act, which doesn't have to be for the 1st offense, lol.

The offender can pay a fine, be given comm. svcs, probation and/or even spend time behind bars (boy would that be a wake-up call for girl and parents). If the offender doesn't get in trouble before the end of the sentence, the judge can "seal" the record which means it cannot be given out if she applies for a job or a license..only for criminal justice purposes, i.e., the police think she did it again. This doesn't apply in this case, but if drugs were involved, it would be a different story.

But...in Georgia, until the GBI actually updates her criminal record to show that she successfully completed the FOA sentence, a future employer could get her record b/c the arrest would be "open"..no "final" disposition.


As for the ex-bf, that would be interesting if he let the girl use someone else's card....

Hehehe Lynn - Well I hope my vol boys win because it will be our last win of the season (we play Florida for our last game)!Hehe I am a huge fan of all the SEC teams except the gators (sorry gator fans - but when you go to the swamp its just not cool to be doused with urine lol) - so I hope your GA team wins! :D
Oh Yeah, where are you in GA? My brother lives in Sharpsburg.

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ilovemyglow: it makes me angry when I think about girls like that that get away with everything! I think the worst punishment will be that her reputation is damaged and now people will think of her as a thief & not completely ever trust her? Anyway, I am sorry this has happened to you - I even had a dream about this! I do have a non related question for you - how far away is Louisville KY from Louisville TN (thats where I am)....wait I bet you havent heard of Louisvill TN...its right outside Knoxville.

I have heard of Louisville TN but I don't know where it is ... Knoxville is like 6 hours... if it helps, Louisville is almost 3 hours from Nashville. I went to Memphis this week for my family's thanksgiving and it took us 7 hours. Hope that makes since! I miss being home, but that is what college does.