If I could do it all over again...
 

Okay all...this is a hairy predicament.

I "joined" a BGLO organization many moons ago. I went through MIP and never, ever felt a bond. I did not finish my degree for personal reasons. I am returning to school, married and more secure. After all is said and done, I still love the initial organization. It was the particular previous members that I wasn't too thrilled about.

Is it possible to attend an educational institution, and try to attain membership into the same organization all over again...the thing is, I just don't feel like I previously deserved to be in the organization...so to this day, I have never worn letters, never let on to another member that I was a "member" as well, etc., etc.

Is it a ridiculous idea to try to earn my way into the organization a second time around? Or should I just stay "unknown" as I am now? Or should I seek out a mentor, explain my dilemma, and seek to participate after graduation on the next level?

Honest opinions please. I won't be offended.

QFP

No worries Knight Shadow...not editing/deleting the initial post.

It is what it is.

I know this is not my lane, but were you initiated? Are you asking if you can go through MIP and get initiated again?

Yes. I was initiated.

I know it sounds weird asking if I could do it all over again. It would be at a different institution. Different chapter. The thing is, I want to be able to proudly contribute to the organization and feel like deserve to do so.

The answer is NO. Take care.

You can proudly contribute without having to go through MIP again. It doesn't matter where you cross, it matters what you do after you do.

/lane swerve

LOL. Well, regardless of whether or not it matters where you cross (that truly is subjective), the OP cannot do it all over again.

My first thought was logistic - your name would definitely be on record somewhere. What then?

I am continually amazed by people...It seems to be making an issue of something that doesn't need to be one.

Hypothetically speaking, what if there was a name change? I guess it's a moot point.

NO!!!!!!

The GLO world (NPHC, NPC, IFC/NIC, NAFLO, MCGLO) is actually smaller than people realize.

All it takes is for one person to remember your face, maiden name, something about you to make the connection.

The best thing for you to do is to reconnect with your org. That does not mean you have to be financial, but at least let them know you are on campus.










But honestly, I think this is a sad attempt to ask if she can switch orgs without anyone knowing.

Sigmadiva,
Thank you for your response. But it's not an attempt to switch orgs. Definitely not the case. I'd rather remain an unknown than switch to another org. It really is a matter of seeing the good done by the org and wanting to proudly contribute.

I do appreciate your response though.

Okay.......I've seen some real creative attempts over the years here on GC. So, please pardon me for being a little bit suspicious.

@ the bold:

Then do that. If you've stayed in the shadows this long and no one has asked you to contribute, then keep it that way if you want.

If you want to contribute somehow, then step up to the plate and do what you can for the org.


But really, it seems like you need to move on and let go of whatever issue you had "many moons ago". I'm sure those sorors in your chapter have done the same over you.

If I could do it again yea

I'd get sunburned on a new tattoo, lose my favorite jeans and my tennis shoes
Get kicked out of my hotel room and sleep in the truck for a night or two
Blow all my money, have to call my dad and work two months to pay him back
Take bong hits and laugh like hell, flick the police off and get hauled to jail
If I could do it again I'd do it the same, not one regret I wouldn't change a thing

Please pardon the lane swerve... honest question from a member of a NPC chapter. If the OP is initiated, then she is already a member- can she not seek affiliation with the chapter at her new institution? I am confused as to why she seems to want to be treated as a nonmember...

Wow, this thread seems to be lane-swerve central, but here I go again.

Based on what the OP said, it appears that she is in fact able to take that route but does not wish to for the reasons she detailed above. In my opinion, this is really more of a personal issue than anything.

It basically comes down to: in terms of actual membership, OP is fine but just doesn't feel like she deserves to not redo the new member process because she didn't use it to her fullest the first time around.

To be completely honest, I think this behavior is somewhat silly, but then again, since I'm not in her BGLO (in fact, not even in a BGLO), I wouldn't know what they expect out of their membership. I'd imagine the right thing to do is to just accept the circumstances as-is but start becoming more active.

You are already a member so you cannot go and be "reinitiated". No one knows how active you were before because you haven't been there. You have two options. One is to affiliate with the undergrad chapter. It's quite alright to say that you have been gone a while and not really been active. The other is to affiliate with a grad chapter now or when you finish. One thing that BGLO's strive for is lifetime commitment. So that means you should be welcomed back with open arms. It happens all the time. Just the other day we had two members come to a meeting. One hadn't been active in years, the other had moved with the mlitary so much she never settled to find a chapter. We welcomed her back in. Once you start going, you can attend rituals and bring in new members (after paying your dues of course) and in a sense you can regain that initial "bond". In no time I believe you will be back in the swing of things.:)