The Air around GC-All are welcome to respond
 

Soror, I think it goes in cycles. I can't speak for all areas of GC, but I have noticed that as of late that people seem to be a bit more "fractious" than usual.

It's interesting....the media tells us that people are feeling more together, more like a nation as a result of the events on 9.11, but we come here on GC, where people have relative anonymity, and they show ALL their colours. We can put on a smiley face as much as we want, but until people change what's in their hearts, I'm afraid it'll just be the same old same old.

YES!
 

I've only been here a minute, but the climate has changed some.
Things use to be said with respect to each organization, but as of late, seems like that respect has blown out of the door. Can the reason be a possible younger group posting, or maybe it's something else, I can't say. But the only posts I find unnerving comes from a woman my age(35) in another forum, so I rarely reply to her many posts a day.

Now what?
 

Is there something that we can do collectively to change this atmosphere? Is it up to us when we read something disrespectful to comment or leave the sororities in their ignorance? If anything disrespecting another org on a public forum doesn't represent your sorority in a positive light. At least I can always count on truth and sophistication in this forum!:D

Hello Sorors,

I have not posted that often since joing, but I have read a lot of the posts over the course of these few months. I must say that i has become progressively nastier in most of the forums. Since these people have anonymity here, it's hard to say whether the people are all greek (or not) unless they "tell" you outright.

Why these people are so nasty in a forum that was (I am assuming this one) set up to allow GLOs of all sorts to coexist and interact in a cordial manner. I mean some of the posts that I have seen are so nasty and tactless that it makes you wonder what's wrong with these people on the inside. I mean what's the deal with the personal attacks on people? These are probably the most unnerving posts that I have seen considering the fact that MOST of these people do NOT know each other from anywhere but this site.

Sadly, as was mentioned by someone else, this sort of behavior will continue until the hearts of people change.

Six_Three_Sigma

Re: Now what?
 

Short of not rising to the blatant baiting that I've seen in other forums, I can't think of anything else.

Something else... has anyone noticed that people are reluctant to correct their own sorors/bruhs in public forums? Not that any of my sorors need correction, seeing as how we're the embodiment Finer Womanhood :D, but I've been on other forums where I've seen members who cast a very negative light on the organization as a whole, and no one seems to say anything about it. I'm not saying put everyone's business out on the street, but no one even challenges it.

I don't believe that any one forum is void of arrogance, rude undertones or trivalities any more or less than the other. Every one greek on these boards (not just BGLOs) gets "on edge" whenever something is taken as a slight towards our organizations. We all have our own reasons for joining our respective sororities/frats, so we tend to get prideful in our comments and statements. When in actuality, none of us are official spokespersons for our orgs. Yes, we're all entitled to our opinions, but at the same time, people try to force and impose THEIR views as law. Bonds here/P&G there/Luv this and that. Those are all interesting topics to me, but not to the point that I would argue, especially with someone from ANOTHER organization about. I know where my heart is and I know what I believe and see in MY world. That's always going to be different than someone else's view. So be it. I believe most of us come to these boards to share our views, not start drama...It just seems to me that most people lose sight that all BGLOs exist to serve our community at large. And our beginnings may differ by year, colors etc, but our our end goals are ultimately the same. A better community. Different paths are going to chosen by each individual, and my heart will always lie with Delta, but I find comfort in believing that most people chose their respective sororities/fraternities to better the communities. And in the end, that's all good with me, no matter what is said on these boards.

Pebbles #6
Delta Sigma Theta
G.E.A.A.C
Spr. '01

WOW
 

I am sure you don't need my comments on this topic -- but I did wanna say you guys sure have had a lot of activity in this forum lately... Keep it up. Interesting threads!!! WOW :cool:

Re: Re: Now what?
 

Yes, I've seen this. I would always try to pull a sorors coat tail in a private email, if I feel they are wrong. But what I won't do is encourage their behavior or side with them if it goes against what in my opinion is right and wrong. I seen a interest stand-up for herself on one board to a member of that organiZation, and the poor chile was attacked. And in my opinion the interest was right, but her problem was "She spoke out of LINE" I guess in there eyes.

Re: Re: Re: Now what?
 

I saw that post that you are refering too. But people have to realize that interests read these posts and it doesn't take much to change an interest mind... It really makes an org look bad.

Re: Re: Re: Now what?
 

Tis true, my tone was rather harsh. The warm and fuzzy approach doesn't always get the point across. I was tactful the last time I brought this behavior up. People chose to ignore that post. If I have to be combative in order to get people to use their heads, so be it. I can handle the personal attacks.

Re: The Air around GC-All are welcome to respond
 

UMMMM...all I can say is....S-O-C :(

And you Pretty, know this better than anyone. Cliques always develop.

Re: Re: Re: Re: Now what?
 

Midwestdiva, your post is not the one I was referring to. I've seen several in the last few months, I must have missed yours :)!

Especially when there are like a quite a few members with multiple sceennames who have thousands if posts in the same forum! LOL

Nonetheless, for the most part I enjoy reading GC. BUT every now and then folks need a clear reality check.:p
It's really not that serious. As one of my favorite people said to me when we were co-eds..."DEEP IS HOW YOU TREAT PEOPLE".

Now, get out there and do some community service!

Everytime you speak Finer, school is in session. Always teaching 'em something. Work it out soror!

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Now what?
 

Then I must have a guilty conscience. :)

Re: The Air around GC-All are welcome to respond
 

Hey Pretty! I may be out of the loop. I haven't been checking all the threads or boards as much. Either I'm missing something or I don't take any of this stuff seriously...lemme know which one :)


DSTDeuce

Re: Re: The Air around GC-All are welcome to respond
 

Re: Re: Re: The Air around GC-All are welcome to respond
 

Here's my take on all of this, Sister Pretty: I think some people on GC ocassionally suffer from RTS=Ralph Tresvant Syndrome. Too much sensitivity, people misinterpret posts and fly off the deep end with drama filled replies, etc. I've said many times on GC that it is easy to misinterpret what someone means behind a post (or behind emails)...so, if you're not SURE if the person's being disrespectful or snotty, ask for CLARITY. I know there have been times where my words have been taken in a negative light. We should read all posts with an open mind...not with an assumption of negativity...because when we READ posts with negativity, we will ASSUME the poster has an attitude. That's not always the case. Overall, I think folks need to lighten up and quit using GC as place to go to anonymously fuss others out and overreact to not-so-important topics.


That's MY $19.13, please let me know what ya'll think about it.

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I hope no one minds my reply
 

I think that it's very difficult to interpret the tone that people are using when they speak or write. Sometimes, when something is said, it is taken out of context because you don't know how the person intended the statement. There are things that both interests and members take out of context.

As far as an interest being jumped on or attacked, I don't believe that's necessary unless the person is coming totally incorrect. Sometimes if there is ignorance on a board, we should all take a minute to think about what we want to say. So instead of getting the emotional response, there will be some thought put into what is said.

But I do understand that comments against or misinformed about everyone's respected organization could raise someone's blood pressure.

Re: I hope no one minds my reply
 

My problem is when someone says that they are not being disrespectful and clarifies themselves and still the other person goes off on a tangent. It's unnecessary and like Deuce said it's probably RTS ;) and then there are those who are way too old to be acting on at the maturity level of a high schooler :rolleyes: ...how sad :rolleyes:

Re: Re: I hope no one minds my reply
 

I think little clarification is needed. Rude is rude, and those are the instances I refer to. As well as how some people jump on there interests. But I will agree that none of this is that serious. I often take long breaks from GC as well as the internet in general to just clear my head sort to speak.

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I agree 100% ChaosDST. I think all of the negativity needs to be redirected. Using the internet to be-little and argue with people over petty topics(or any topic, b/c nothing should be that serious) shows that there are some character flaws in that particular person. Referring to the earlier posts, "Quantity does not necessitate Quality." Also, Soror Finer, KEEP SCHOOLING! I must say that you are skilled in the art of debate. Just my little spin on things.

peace...

I agree.
Rude is rude.

I won't speak on how others treat their interests. Thats not my house to clean. I just hope sistah-wide we will one day recognize, many sisters are hurting and searching for answers for the sorrows of their hearts. We need to work honestly and humbly on uplifting eachmother regardless of our interests or affiliation in greek life. We don't know the personal situations of the women on the other side of these keyboards. And sometimes when we say things we think are harmless, we do more damage then we realize. Think before you type sistahs.

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Thank you for the love Soror AprilZeta. Discussion and Debate was one of my favorite subjects and competitive events when I was in school.

Sisterly,
10-A-91

Hello Ladies!

I am new to greekchat in terms of posting. I have been silently viewing for about a month now. I generally read message boards that spark my interests but for the most part I view all D9 boards. I too have noticed message this "message board discrimination" if you will, and it is rather disturbing. It also seems that some sisterfirends only respond to posts that are initiated by members of the org that they are intersted in. I've seen the sarcastic responses and "inside jokes" from members and sisterfriends and it's not really necessary. BTW I primarily see this mess going on in one forum.


The bottom line is, people need to be more polite when they type regardless of greek affiliation. And certain sisterfriends need to realize that posting on message boards and creating "cyber cliques" will not get you any closer to your organization of choice.

I guess I haven't noticed a lot of the things others have noticed on GC. But, I definitely agree that people shouldn't use organizational affiliation or cliques as a mechanism to speak to or treat others negatively. I don't know what particular board folks keep referring to, but has anyone ever thought to email one of the Moderators from that board, instead of choosing the passive aggressive approach of indirectly mentioning that board in threads like this? Just a question :confused:

Re: WOW
 

:rolleyes:

I'm not sure what good emailing a moderator would do seeing as how I've witnessed a couple participate in the foolishness.

Well...
 

There is NO USE writing a moderator of the board that I spoke of in one of my earlier posts, because a moderator said something highly negative about my org and others. Other moderators saw the post and while they locked the thread, the comment remains.
What else is there to say??

This is why I don't post there any more. For me, enough is enough, even from the Bougie And Pretentious.

Sincerely,
TRSimon

Decided against it!
 

I thought about it, but decided against it. As you or someone else said, it's not that serious, and I'm sure they know. But now I realize I'm not the only one who sees it, so everyone else know too. I'm done with it. I love my house!

OKIE DOKIE

I tried not to respond to this post, but oh well. If it steps on toes, then oh well. Moderators, please delete if you feel the need to.


I think the air around GC stinks. The funky attitudes in responding to posts are NOT needed...and I have seen enough of that on the boards....also, I notice a lot of the cyber cliques, among other things.

And DON'T let an interested party ask the wrong question!!! Even if she didn't know any better, she would still be subject to the stank remarks that some members tend to dish out.

Bottom line, I think this will solve the problem: If you don't have anything nice to say, send a Private Message, or don't say anything at all!!! but hey, I don't know, maybe some people on GC THRIVE off of Drama!!!!!

PrettyPetite

You might be right...if you are, what a shame... :eek:

OK, So nearly everyone agrees that the air is FOUL. What are you going to do to change it? Let's not perpetuate the prob. Just solve it...If that's possible.

Patronizing and/or sarcasm at its best.


Ladies,
You all are already exercising the solution to the problem, posting whenever and wherever you darn well please!

Funky, funky, funky
 

Yeah I agree with all of the above. Some GCpeople and their comments and attitudes really do stink. But you know what? I don't take none of this seriously. I know what organization and what members you are talking about but it really doesn't bother me. It doesn't change my opinion about that organization because some of them are really cool with me. I just got a friendly e-mail from one. Let's not get all worked up about this. It's not that serious and those who take it that serious (members and interests) need to get a life!! for real. The sad thing about all of this is that there are some interests who read that negative mess and it may change their hearts against them.

Now I would like to thank all the Zetas for their comments that kept me in this school this long reading this when I should have been long gone. ;)

I'm hooked again :p