Complicated Transfer Question
 

I attended one university for a year and a half, at the beginning of the second year I rushed for sorority and ended up initiated into one. However, even before, during, and after the initiation I experienced massive health problems and family issues and was not able to do many activities with the sorority and barely remember anything about initiation, etc. NOW, I have transferred to another university that doesn't even HAVE the sorority I joined. WHAT DO I DO?! I don't have enough experience to be part of an alumni org for that sorority and though I love the sisters of that sorority I can't visit all the time and feel as if joining (ONLY because of the above circumstances) was essentially pointless(other than meeting some great girls). I deeply miss the feeling it brings and almost regret joining because of the things that have happened. I know it's a standard rule where you can't join another after you've initiated in one, but is there ANY exception? I just want to feel apart of something great again.

Assuming you joined an NPC sorority, you cannot join another NPC or NPHC sorority, there are no exceptions.

You might look into a service sorority or co-ed fraternity but if you do, know that it's not a replacement for what you lost but something different that can also be really good. If there are local or other non-NPC/NPHC sororities on your campus it would depend on their rules whether you could seek membership with one of them.

You know the answer to your question. You're not going to get a different one.

If you are a member of a National Panhellenic Conference (NPC) sorority, you may not join another NPC. No exceptions.

ETA: I C U, Drolefille. Stealing my answers.

And I did it first!

If you lost your virginity and don't remember it, you're still not a virgin.

Same with this. If you were having that serious of health problems and family issues before you initiated, you should have spoken to your pledge mom (or whatever your group called it) and asked if you could be held over. Heck, if things were THAT serious, you should have probably withdrawn from school immediately.

Oh, and you don't need "experience" to be in an alumnae chapter. One of our past national councillors was only active for 2 years in school before transfering and then, I think, took a long hiatus from sorority involvement at all. If she can do that, you can certainly participate in an alumnae chapter, especially if you belong to one of the NPC groups that has separate chapters for younger alums. If there is an alum chapter near the school you transferred to, contact them and explain your situation.

Plus you have Facebook. Stay a member of your chapter's group and keep in touch with them. The distance between friends is much smaller than it used to be.

That's some analogy, 33girl!

As everyone else has said, if you were initiated into an NPC sorority, you may never join another. You automatically became an alum when you transferred to your new school, since there's no chapter of your sorority there. So you can get involved on the alumna level. You can also look into service orgs and local sororities (if there are any at your new school). But if you've been initiated into one NPC sorority, joining another is not allowed - and if you do try to rush anyway, you will be found out.

siggy in 3...2...

Wow, how about that.

ETA: once i saw the thread title, i knew this wouldnt be complicated at all. and while i dont know the circumstances of transferring, this is your third school. the only thing you should want to be feel a "part of something great" is your graduating class. the ceremony's real nice i hear: you all get matching gowns, and there's a certificate at the end!

Yes, this is true, but in the end (graduation) you don't get pinned!!!!! :(

You've already got your pin. Don't need another one. Join the alum group and get to know folks. You'll be surprised how much fun it can be.

my problem here (experience wise) is I have almost no experience, this was the first year my chapter had formal recruitment so everyone was fairly new to everything and because I kept having issues I only attended a couple philanthropy events, a mixer, and less than a dozen chapter meetings I'd say. Please double correct me if I'm wrong but other than my older sister and our family, I barely got to know anything about the girls or the workings of the sorority in general how is that enough for alumnae organizations or am I misunderstanding them?

Your alumnae sisters will fill you in on anything you need to know to participate. You can also attend national events, such as conventions, to supplement your alumnae career. When I go to events, I hang out with sisters from so many chapters other than my own. Yes, you won't have a traditional collegiate experience, but you can have an awesome alumna experience if you want it. You just have to be open to experiencing it. Good luck. I hope you take the opportunity to stay involved.

umm....I think you may have missed my joke.....;)

Hmmmm....yes, I got it...chose to ignore it....

Alumnae chapter meetings and activities in general are WAAAAAAAAAAAY more laid back than collegiate activities. Seriously, no one's going to quiz you on who the founders are and nothing is required attendance-wise.

Even if the alumnae chapter you join is one that's heavily involved with things like securing recs and helping collegiate chapters with rush, you aren't going to be pushed into a role that makes you feel uncomfortable. All you have to say is "no" if you don't feel secure doing something and everyone's going to be OK with it. Trust me.

I joined my chapter of initiation and stayed for only one semester at the school because I couldn't afford it.

I didn't transfer to a university (with my chapter) until 3 semesters later. I didn't affiliate (not by choice) I wanted too. It upset me in the beginning but I now realize that I wouldn't have wanted to be a member of the chapter anyways (I won't give details because it paints the chapter in a really negative light). I know now that not affiliating worked out for the best!

Was I disappointed, heck yeah. I refused to even associate myself with ADPi for like 6 months. I was hurt and angry. I had to go alum, but didn't do anything until after I graduated. Once I graduated I began getting involved.

Not having a collegiate experience is not the end of the world. Do I miss that I didn't get one, heck yeah. When my sisters talk about formal recruitment, I can't relate. When they talk about being officers, I can't relate. But in the end it doesn't matter, they are my sisters and they are supportive and really that is what matters.

There's very little "experience" you need to be in an alum chapter. My alum chapter is 90% social--do you need experience to go to Happy Hours? Holiday parties? Book clubs?

My chapter of initiation was very "hands-off" in terms of being formal and knowing "everything" that there is to know about the sorority. When I talk to friends from other chapters, they know things that I don't. It honestly doesn't change a thing.

If you want to be involved, just join the alumni chapter. Some of my best friends I've made from being involved. It's really up to you.

The only experience "required" to be an active alumna and/or go go to alumnae meetings is that you are an initiated member.

What "experiences" are you worried that you missed, that would affect your participation in an alumnae chapter?

I know that it sucks to be sick and miss things - I've missed a lot from being sick - but it's all what you make of it moving forward.

ETA: none of what "happened to you" changes the fact that once you are initiated into an NPC, you can never be initiated into another. So what is the real issue - not having "experience" enough to join an alumnae chapter, or that you'll miss the collegiate experience and want to rush again?

Once again, I miss how many schools used to have organizations for "orphan Greeks."

:lightbulb: i truly think ithe OP is looking for sympathy in the form of "oh darn, you missed out on the UG Greek experience - you should deactivate and rush all over again at your new school." Which, in more ways than one, weve already said can't happen.

Comparing apples to oranges here, but i became a member my senior year. Do i wish i had more of an undergraduate experience? sure! but i value my alumnae membership too and make the most of it. besides, after a year or two after you graduate, chances are you won't give a hoot about what color this year's rush shirts are, or who's going to XYZ's crush party with whom (i'm going on what i read on GC; i've never done these things).

It's such a neat idea. Really.

I don't think the OP's issue is orphanage and not wanting early alum status. I think she doesn't want to be in THAT sorority anymore and was looking for an out.

Maybe she'll come around and look back at this one day and laugh, but I must say what I say for anyone who wants to drop out at some level: Don't be a waste of a bid/pledgeship/initiation/ritual/etc.

What's "complicated" about your transfer?

1. You went through recruitment
2. You accepted a bid
3. You completed a new member period
4. You were initiated
5. You are transferring to a school without your sorority.
6. You are now an alumna member of the sorority you joined for life.
7. The end.

:rolleyes:

My thoughts exactly.

This.

i'm holding my breath on the OP's pending flounce.

If there isn't an OP flounce, maybe we can get sigmadiva and Titchou to challenge each other to a duel. Challunge! :p

Pistols at sunrise!

I don't get up that early during summer!:p

A dance-off at lunch time.

http://i13.photobucket.com/albums/a2...al/walkoff.jpg

It's a walk off.

One of the most underrated movies everrr...everrr...everrr... *echo...echo*

I love it!!! *doing the Zoolander*

"It's a mother-f**king walk-off." - Daniel Vosovic

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3XN76o_mju0

Whoever does this, wins.

YESSSS!!!!!

This was my first thought when I read this thread!!

iQuit. she was GETTIN IT.