First signs of a bad first date
 

I'm only starting this thread because I thought it would be kinda funny reading others thoughts on how you can determine if the first date is going to be a good one, or a bad one. I've read articles before, that people can usually tell if the date is going to be a good one or a bad one within the first 5 minutes into the date. I'm not sure how it is for guys, but for me, and a lot of my friends and classmates that I've talked to, I can tell within the 1st five minutes easily. Well, we've all had bad first dates and we've had good ones. But we all have different reasons as of why we would date that person again, or why we wouldn't date that person again. When you meet someone, and then make plans for a 1st date, what are some of the things, whether it's the way that person carries a conversation, the clothes that person wears, etc etc. that make you say to yourself "There's no way whatsoever, I'm going out with this "person" again".

eta: examples pleeeease...:p

When a conversation starts like this:

"Well I went to federal prison, but I took the blame so my ex-wife wouldn't have to go..."

The guy was 30 and had been to prison and had been married. They got divorced after he was locked up. True story.

He's wearing a @$%#ing Yankees hat.

:(

Back to the drawing board for me, I guess...

lol

I don't know why, but if his car is junky, we're done. And yes, no kids, just to start. Or if he talks about himself a lot.

Oh, and as for his appearance, I don't really like earrings, nose rings etc...and/or tattoos.

1. Her flatulence is louder and smellier than mine
2. Dragonbreath from Newports
3. She stays on her phone talking to her girlfriend
4. She asks for my credit report and I just picked her up from her mama's house
5. The conversation goes into the "all men are dogs" territory.
6. ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ "Well my ex used to do this why don't you do this?" territory
7. She is checking out the waitress that you are checking out.
8. She brings along her kid...to a bar (this actually happened to me...LOL)
9. They are late.
10. If it's a blind date and the picture is 50lbs to 100lbs less than what you see in front of you.
10a. And is in a hoe dress

Dang CG...I have ear rings and tattoos...I guess I would never have a chance!! :)

UGH. Ditto the phone thing. This drives me crazy when friends do it too.

I think you became my new favorite.

Fixed it for you.

"So when are we gonna have sex?"

Another fix.

^^^I'm not sure which is better, 33girl's or this!

1. He swears. I don't mind if people swear normally, but don't just start dropping the f-bomb the first time you go out with me.
2. He doesn't put effort into what he's wearing (this guy showed up once in sweats)
3. He sits his phone on the table while we're talking/having dinner. AND if he starts to text or answers a call that doesn't result in him having to run out because it's an EMERGENCY.
4. You ask me to pay the tip. Do I mind normally? NO! But if you can't afford to pay the tip, you probably shouldn't be dating!
5. He doesn't walk me to my car after the date.
6. He talks about himself or his exes too much.
7. If he starts talking about how he wants an "independent woman"
8. If he starts talking about how he doesn't 'do' drama (It's my experience that either they don't know what they mean by saying 'drama' or THEY are the ones who lead drama filled lives).

fixed

LOL Nah, don't fix it for me. I meant it the way I said it. You don't need to tell me to be independent. And if he needs me to pay the tip...apparently HE isn't independent LMBO

The date would be over, effective immediately.

"So...we ain't never gonna have sex?"

"Can I at least get a kiss?"

LOL! There wouldn't be time to ask those questions. I'd be out the door after the first question.

..but...but...we're at YOUR house.

Fine....hmmm, what is this in her nightstand drawer?

LOL! I hate you.

Even though I only read GC, I have to respond to this.

Way back I had a friend who set me up on a blind date. She thought (ugh) her guy friend and I would make a good match.
I am a small framed person 5'3" and weight about 100 to 105 lbs. As we sat down at this restaurant, the first words that came out of his mouth were “Boy your fat.”

Thank goodness, his pager went off. I got up and said, you better get your page and tell them your date sucks and I left.

I have learned that any date with DaemonSeid would be a bad one. :p

Yes, yes, and YES!

I'll add: bad conversation skills. If you can't talk carry a basic conversation, and keep the conversation going, it's really not inspiration to go out again.

Not paying for the first date. I'm all for equal rights and what not. I feel the only way a woman should pay for the first date if:

1. she specifically says she's treating
2. she invited him to something that costs money (ie. admission)
3. if she did the asking. this is tricky, because it has to be specifically be referred to as a date. none of this "whatcha up to, let's 'hang out' tonight." friends hang out. friends also pay for themselves. hanging out puts you on equal ground. with a date, however, whoever is doing the asking out should take the responsibility of paying and deciding on the whereabouts. of course the other person should have input but i get really annoyed when i'm asked out on a date, we meet up, then it's all "so.. where do you want to go?"

LOL :D

All of these are from experience:

1. Any talk about your "crazy ex" and we're finished. If you do this on a first date, my first thought is that you're actually the crazy one.
2. A guy once told me on a first date that he wants 8 kids. That's just really...forward.
3. Same dude as #3 also told me that his future wife will stay at home because he doesn't believe women should work outside of the home.
4. If a guy checks his phone all the time right off the bat, it makes it really hard to start/maintain a conversation.
5. Not paying (with few exceptions). I'm a little old-fashioned about this but I believe that if a guy asks me on a date and takes the time to plan it, he should also pay for it. I once had a guy who "had to make a phone call" the second the dinner bill came and he disappeared for like 20 minutes, effectively leaving me with the bill. When he came back, he tried to act all surprised that I had paid. Yuck.

True Story:

1. You take her to Morton's and she's not comfortable and says she wants to go to Chilli's. (Didn't happen to me.)

He pays with a $100 bill. Sounds benign but I think it's trying to show off (although who uses cash these days, anyway?)

My sister's ex-husband paid for something with a $100 bill on their first date, and although it led to a long marriage, it obviously ended badly. That was back when $100 was really a lot of money. When I was in college, a first date pulled out a $100 bill to pay for movie tickets and I immediately thought, "Uh-oh." Sure enough, it turned out to be one of the worst dates of my life. We went back to his apartment to play checkers (probably another warning sign) and I beat him soundly the first round and was about to do it again when he purposely knocked the checker board off of the table and exclaimed, "Now, no one can win!" I asked him to take me home soon after. When I got back to the sorority house, I found out that everyone was at a fraternity party, so I went, too. (My bad date wasn't greek.) He asked me the next week why I didn't answer when he called me that night to check to make sure that my story about wanting to go to bed early was legit. Nice.

Ha ha. Awesome.

Maybe she was vegetarian/vegan? I know some people who are can't stand to even be around the smell of meat.

She wasn't a vegetarian. Trust me, and had no problems ordering a steak from Chili's. LOL

This wasn't a blind date situation. He knew her...unfortunately he didn't know her THAT well.

Let's add to the list:

--Using "bathroom humor"

--Chewing with his mouth open

- He shows up in a shirt monogrammed/silkscreened with his company's logo (up here in Microsoft country, you wouldn't believe how many guys I went on dates with showed up with MS shirts. It's just really lazy and shows they don't care much about their appearance...and that they don't apparently ever go anywhere nice that requires a non-logo t/shirt.
- He doesn't look at me when I'm talking, or he just looks around the room too much.
- He cancels, unless he's sick or it's a real emergency. Generally I wouldn't reschedule a first date, especially if he wants to cancel for a work-related reason. That's just a preview of what's to come.
- He answers his cell phone.

When I date, I'm generally looking for a partner so if he talks about his previous "relationships" and none of them are real relationships, just short term "ins and outs"..

or the "career goal" conversation starts out like "Well, right now I'm working at Taco Bell, but I'm in school studying philosophy blah blah..."

Philosophy? Really? :rolleyes:

or if the job before the Taco Hell one is pretty consistent with the current job, like Burger Slinger, Scrubway, etc. Basically he's not going anywhere, or really doesn't want to go anywhere.

Doesn't take my hobbies into consideration meaning he only likes talking about the things he enjoys doing and doesn't have or take an interest in my hobbies. I mean, I know my interests and hobbies are a little out there, but still...

Talks about his exes. Has a lot of exes etc...still friends with his exes...etc.

no second date, not with me.

lol
except you.:p

lol
Hilarious!

Nah, don't try to switch it up now....my feelings are already hurt!:p:D

Making any mention of where you're going to take me on our second date and/or inviting me to your cousin's wedding before we've even ordered appetizers. I'll pull one of those "I have to take a call" moves and not come back.

lol
But you know what makes this thread so hilarious is some people on here fall under at least a few things people listed. That's what makes it SO funny. lol :p

*The cell phone is a definite no. If he's texting, I just say "I can wait" and won't continue the conversation until he puts it away.

*If he doesn't pull my chair out for me or open the door for me, it's usually a sign this is gonna go bad. I used to be offended at those gestures, but I find (in general) guys who do those things for me treat me better than guys who don't.

*If he smells like alcohol or smoke

*If he brings up his ex (unless, for some reason, I ask)

*If he has a gold tooth or a grill

*If I look at him and just start to feel nervous like I should stay alert around this guy.

*If I'm thinking in my head, "Man, I shaved my legs for this??"

:o

I can't believe no one said, "If she shows up pregnant..."