Is anyone else paying for greek life yourself?
 

It sucks when it seems like everyone else's parents are paying for their sorority. And it seems like the girls who aren't paying for it themselves don't really have worries of whether or not to disaffiliate because it's kind of like, "oh well... my moms paying for it so its not MY money im losing." i'm not trying to offend anyone, but im paying so much money, for tshirts, stress, and friends who are cliquish. are other sororities like this? :/

QFP

Well, I imagine that there are girls in just about every chapter who do pay for their own dues and etc. I am not in that situation but I still fully participate and do not "waste" money. If girls are only looking at it from a "well its just money" standpoint instead of a "this is something I am involved in and should give it my best" well then I think it is sad. If you are involved and giving this much time to something then you should give effort to it (so long as it isn't messing up your school. education first!).

Cliques... well late teens early twenties women... it sucks I know, but well it's life? I'm sorry. There are hard times and good times with membership in a sorority. Some days suck. Especially when it seems that everyone is in little cliques who don't give two cents to what the chapter needs or is doing. However, you are a member who is putting in effort and wants to be in it (I assume if you are willing to pay for it yourself). So stick it through. Try to break into some of the cliques. Maybe try to have a large sisterhood event or a candle pass to help break barriers. You could also try to run for an executive position and make changes in the chapter.

Good luck.

Lol. As soon as I saw the username I did one of these :rolleyes:. I was hoping someone else would remember.

To answer your question OP, I pay for my dues myself.

Since when are tee shirts mandatory purchases??????

lmao....how did i miss the pic in that thread....

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So...cliques are the fault of daddy's money:rolleyes: Since when don't people have close friends in a group? I paid for my dues in college...I worked a job during the summer and winter breaks and lived very frugally so that I didn't need a job during school months. My parents would have paid my dues if my father hadn't lost his job during my freshman year. Did anyone else know that I paid my own dues? Probably not since I didn't work at school. My mom was adamant that I not work during school. She wanted me to focus on my school work. I suggest that the OP get over herself and realize that she may not know the financial situation of every member of her chapter.

you all just made me feel like shit.

thanks

You need counseling.

yep I pay for my dues myself. my parents told me when i started talking about going through recruitment (they werent the most supportive people) that they couldn't stop be from joining, but they would not be financing my sorority. It is smething I want and therefore its my responsibilty to make sure I get it (or get to stay in it). Does it stink sometimes? YES. Is It worth it? ABSOLUTELY!!!

Your dues money would be better spent on a shrink.

^ LOL

In my experience, there was one woman whose parents paid her dues while I was in school - she did not want to go greek, and was forced into it by her super legacy status.

As an advisor, the woman who got teased the most was the only sister whose parents paid for her dues (and everything else).

I'm sorry that you're so unhappy in your sorority, but don't use the "everybody but me" line. It's old and rarely true.

Seriously? So, first you feel left out because you have a boyfriend and can't slut it up.

Now, you feel left out because you pay for your own dues?

Sorry to break it to you, hon, but your priorities are seriously messed up.

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Really? From telling you that "Yup, we know plenty of people who pay for dues".

(I, btw, pay for my own dues. So does my sister. Our parents just expect it. We also both pay for our own living expenses. It happens.)

IF you are for real, consider (a) making the most of it (I never got why people skipped socials to hang out on their own: you're already paying for it!) and (b) stop buying the extras. You don't need them. You don't need every t-shirt, tote bag, or party favor the chapter orders.

on the chance it's real
 

Two choices for you:

1) Drop out of your sorority and spend all your free time with your boyfriend.

2) Kick your boyfriend to the curb (because it sounds like your relationship is having a bad effect on your sorority membership) and MAKE A FRICKING EFFORT.

Seriously, don't be that girl with the boyfriend who never does anything. Now no, I'm not saying you should automatically dump your boyfriend when you get a bid - but no one likes the girl who can't come to mixers because her boyfriend gets upset, or doesn't hang out at the house because she's with him every minute - who basically uses him as an excuse to keep from really giving her all to sorority life.

depends on the sorority. we usually vote to do it during recruitment.

I pay for my sorority dues, and I know a LOT of other people who do.

LMAO @ that "dey see me trollin'" pic. like, just dead.

and yeah... my mom would look at me ALL kinds of crazy if i asked her to pay my dues.

My parents paid for everything.

I didn't have time to get a job.

And this girls nuts. I think she just likes to complain.

^My job was directly related to my then-career choice. We had a deal that, if you paid your dues up front at the beginning of the school year, you received a dangle. And, of course, the knowledge that the sorority would be solvent from the beginning of the year.

i paid for my dues. we had a payment plan option, and i paid it over the course of the year. i paid a little bit every month, it was jsut another bill to go along with my living expenses. i worked my butt off throwing pizza's and wiating tables and being a computer lab monitor and mucking horse stalls and babysitting and..... do you see where this is going? My parents would not pay my dues, nor did I ask them to. I didn't buy every tshirt, just the important ones (like bid day and greek week). i carried a full course load in a difficult major, worked 20+hours a week. I made it work, it was worth it.

Actually, my parents did pay for my dues. I was a commuter and it was kind of a trade-off to keep me from wanting to go away to school. I was one of the few, though. One girl's grandmother paid her dues, but most of them worked and paid their own. And I did pay for the extras, such as t-shirts, favors, dances, etc, and my living expenses when I lived in the house.

oh.... and i had "that" boyfriend for about a year. he hated that i was greek and was convinced i was screwing every frat guy i talked to. i'm ashamed to say it took me so long to realize what a douchebag he was. the next boyfriend I married, and he was our Delta Sig sweetheart's best friend from home. ;)

If you're having such a hard time paying for dues, take out student loans.

And relationships in college are the biggest waste of time ever. ESPECIALLY if you're Greek. Unless you go to college to find your future spouse, why waste your time?

eeek! i have to say "NOOOOOO" to the student loans. biggest mistake ever. (granted i wouldnt have been able to go to college without them, but 10 years later I'm still $35 grand in debt to my loan companies). Taking out a loan just to be invoved in your greek org is a bad idea.

My parents pay my dues because even with them added in, living in the sorority house is still less than living off campus. However for next year, we have a deal. They'll pay one semester and I'll pay one semester. T-shirts and everything are considered extras. If I want them, I pay for them myself.

I had "that" boyfriend too. He had this stereotypical sorority girl from the movies in his mind and said if I rushed, he would "lose all respect for me." I lost the boy and gained a sisterhood.

Did we have the same parents and the same boyfriend?
I had the same situation!

Because your time was split between going to class and being fratty? I know, there's never enough time to squeeze in a random work study, 10 hour/week job.

No seriously, why no time for a job? Were you involved in a lot of campus activities/sports teams? Or like a triple major of some sort?

Riiiiiiiiight, i can imagine filling out an application and listing reasons for the loan - koozies and t-shirts for rush.

"girls...complain." Truth. haha

Speak for yourself. :p

Jesus...

happy cinco de mayo :D

My favorite post by a spammer, by far lol

I paid for my dues (so are my younger siblings). My parents paid for my tuition and dorm/meal plan, but everything extra (sorority dues and other sorority things, other college activities, and in my case, dance costumes) I had to pay for. I got a job answering the phones in one of the department offices for 10 hours a week (and spent most of that time doing homework). It didn't pay a ton, but it paid my bills.

You're right, its definitely possible if you go to the right school.

Alas, there's too many of those types of guys out there...