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Is rushing out of the question for me?
I think I have a relatively unique situation. I will be a junior in the fall and I desperately want to rush, but not if I'm going to be a laughing stalk.
First, I must explain why I have waited this long. Nobody in my family has ever gone Greek and I'm one of few in my family that has actually attended college. I didn't rush my freshman year because I graduated a semester early from high school, so really I only had the spring semester of my freshman year to jump on board. I didn't rush this year because I was involved in other activities, so I wanted to wait until another year passed so that I could put my sorority first. Do I have a chance at a moderately competitive school? or, should I stick to the other non-Greek affiliated activities? |
It depends on which school. Search your school and see if you can find people here who attend and PM them...you can also call your Greek Life office. They will probably try to sugar coat it, but just ask them up front.
I don't think being a junior and rushing will earn you laughs. I think you should try anyway...if it doesn't work out you've still met a lot of new people. |
Some schools have a separate upperclassmen quota which could help you. Ask your Greek Adviser. In fact, go meet with her/him and just have a chat about the process on your campus and how it might impact your chances.
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Your situation is not at all unique- do some searches and then some reading. There are literally hundreds of threads asking the same question. The answer really is it depends - there may be a snowball's chance in hell, or at some schools juniors are taken regularly.
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I guess what I may be really asking is, will my reasons for not rushing previously be considered illegitimate or make it seem like I am indifferent to being in a sorority? Because that is not the case, nor do I want anybody to think that it is. Anyways, I will definitely make an appointment to talk to my Greek advisor, and thanks for the responses. Any help is much appreciated. |
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There are a bunch of threads about juniors rushing for the first time. There are also threads about girls who are the first in their families to go Greek or even go to college. Whether or not the chapters on campus accept your reasons as "legitimate" is unknown until you rush. NO ONE HERE can tell you what your chances are, or give you specific advice. If you can handle possible rejection, go through recruitment, get recs (if needed - search here for your school to see if anyone else has posted about it), get to know members in the sorority NOW to ease discomfort of going in cold, and talk to the office of Greek Life about the specifics for your school - dates, wardrobe, etc. It may work out, it may not. The question is, will you regret not trying? By the way, its laughingstock not laughing stalk. I just got a mental image of corn stalks laughing at me:eek:. |
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I did a search for "junior" in the Recruitment forum and it returned 90 threads. Your situation is not unique. We can't predict your chances. I would suggest doing some reading:
http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/se...archid=5955503 |
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I'll be a junior as well this fall and I am going to rush. I'm also older, so another potential strike for me. I've talked about it a lot with friends, alumnae, and other posters here. The impression I've got is to do it anyway. The opportunity shouldn't be passed up and I see two things happening. 1. I'll meet a great bunch of women who don't care that I'm a junior or that I'm older. Good times ensue. 2. I won't get a bid, accept rejection, (It won't be the first or the last time) and move on. I've already got a couple of other clubs I'd like to get involved with on my list of 'Other Things To Do In University Besides Learning'. I've done some reading on my university and I know that the average age is older than the typical college age and I believe their Greek system is less selective anyway. Your school may be different and you might want to research it. As other have said, everyone's situation is different. So, if we both get rejected we can come back here and cry about it...or something. ;) |
TrueStar, I love it! You honestly made me giggle at the end. We must have either a celebration or a sob party when the time comes, it will be great fun either way. =)
As for ree-Xi, Knight Shadow, tld221 and KSUViolet06: Forgive me please for trying to find opinions on a forum, I'll make sure never to do this again. This being said, I was trying to do just that: find opinions. While I may not be well versed in sororities or rushing, I am not oblivious to the world around me. I am fully aware that you are not going to be able to tell me my chances of getting a bid at my school (although it seems as though you are so very kind enough that you would tell me if you did happen to know), I was simply hoping that anyone who took the time to read this would grace me with their opinion on whether my situation would be looked down upon or whether it would simply make me a minority. I will not go into too much detail about, seeing as though I have already mentioned it, the fact that I too have typed the word junior into the search bar and found.... wait for it.... more than 90 threads!! And I am just jumping with joy to let you know that I have read them, and (again I don't want to bore you with repetition) didn't quite find one that answered my question. Let me clarify for those who do not read, my issue is not solely that I am a junior. I can't forget about those awful strikes I have made! Let me address them one at a time. Strike 1: You are absolutely correct, generally one can say that nobody's situation is unique. So then, it is a very good thing that I have brought this situation up so that future GCers will never mention it again. Let's not forget that I read the other threads and the information that was there was not answering my question, and if it had, it would have been outdated. Strike 2: Not much to be said. Strike 3: God forbid I exaggerate with the word desperately. We just couldn't have anybody saying absolutes now could we? Quote:
Laughing Stalk = stupid mistake. I'm happy to take the ridicule for that one =) Gosh I just wouldn't know what to do with myself if it weren't for such helpful responses. |
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Not one person in this thread has been rude to you in the least little bit. You came here for advice and you got it. We're sorry it's not the happy happy joy joy you were looking for. Or the specific advice on a situation that we've been asked about nearly 90 times. If you're looking for ponies and rainbows, we're all out. |
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WE. DON'T. KNOW. As for "laughing stalk", I made a joke out of it. It was funny and made me laugh. You really need a thicker skin if you are putting yourself out there. People that react this way to OPINIONS make me wonder why I bother helping at all. I gave you general advice because it is a general question. Next time, I'll think twice before offering practical advice. You obviously don't want it. |
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My laughing at ree-Xi's joke was your breaking point? Seriously? |
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I understand that you can not predict the future, especially if you don't have much information. I will try to reword this once again: I'm trying to get other people's first reactions to my reasons for not rushing initially, does it give off the impression that I just don't care? No, I will not let anything on this forum sway my decision to rush or not, but a few helpful tips would be nice. And the heads up that I need to explain my "delay in becoming a PNM" in a different way, in order to put it in a better light, would be nice. I'd rather make the mistakes on a forum than during rush week. And I am merely annoyed that I am told over and over again to read the other threads when it has already happened... |
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If you go to a school where alot of students go Greek and recruitment is competitive, it might raise an eyebrow that you waited so long. At others, it's no big deal. As far as tips and advice for recruitment, this thread has tips and advice for days. Happy reading: http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ad.php?t=54403 |
The sarcasm and entitlement issues aren't helping your cause. You're asking for information from other people, then getting bitchy when it's not what you want.
What part of WE DON'T KNOW don't you understand? If I had a crystal ball, I'd be using it to predict winning lottery numbers instead of your chances of getting into a sorority. There are plenty of helpful tips out there, and that have already been given. If you don't like what you were told, well, that's your problem. |
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What is in the water lately?
It's like: PNM: Question GCer: previous threads or polite answer PNM: OMGWTFBBQ |
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If you're too stupid to understand that none can predict your success or failure during recruitment, then yes, rushing is out of of the question for you since you can't understand such a simple concept. |
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Since we don't know, stop asking! Maybe you're having trouble with basic reading comprehension. |
Do you want more specific predictions? Post your school, GPA, activities/resume, name, list of friends that we can ask about you, picture (close up and full length), etc. Maybe we could give you a better answer then. Otherwise, you gave us absolutely zilch to go on, so how can anyone predict?
And last time I checked, GC wasn't here to provide a service in predicting potential success/failure of potential new members. |
Wow, I really didn't see this thread crashing and burning like this.
My only comment- if you really had read the 90+ threads that are out there about juniors rushing (and every variation on that situation), you would have known the responses you were going to get. I knew before I even opened the thread. Stop acting all offended and victimized, take the [predictable] advice you were given, and take the crazy train home. |
oy vey! I'm not telling you where or where not to post, my point is that I keep trying to tell you people the same things, and all anyone seems to be able to say is "I DON'T KNOW" or "read other threads".
1) I know you don't know, if you will please read, I'm not asking you to make a prediction. 2) I have already read the other similar threads, they weren't helpful. 3) I'm only giving back the vitriol that I'm receiving. |
wide-eyed: I'm so sorry that you aren't getting what it is that you want from the fine members of GC, all of whom hold membership in a number of GLOs. Then again, I'm not sure I know what it is that you want, because I'm now quite confused after reading all your posts.
TrueStar: I'm predicting that your recruitment is going to go well, regardless of your class standing. Let us know, 'k? |
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Best of luck with your future endeavors. |
Holy Jesus. This is going to be my last post on this thread only because it's clearly deteriorated into a bashfest, for no reason. I'm not even offended, I just can't figure out why it's so hard for so many people to understand.
Here are a few examples of some responses I was expecting: "I go to blank university and only knew of two juniors who received bids, so it's not impossible but it will be very difficult." "It depends on the school but I think, the fact that you chose other activities before rushing for two previous years, is a negative aspect." "I think being involved around campus will be to your benefit." "I think you need to read the other similar threads." (To which I would have responded the same way I have been: "I already have.") "It's always an advantage to be a freshman with a high GPA." "You're hopeless, if you still don't know what to expect." "what school/ how competitive are you talking about? Is your GPA high?"etc........ I certainly wasn't hoping for rainbows, but I was crossing my fingers for people to respond AFTER reading the OP. Alas, you win, I give up. |
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Yes, Juniors get cut and do not receive bids. Happens all the time. We can't give you that here. We can't say "No, you are screwed" or "Yes- you have a shot!" because we don't know your specific school, the chapters involved, etc. We don't do (real) blanket responses regarding individual chances. The first advice you received was great: Quote:
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I'm so so sorry we got all Tyler Durden on you and told you you are not a unique snowflake.
I'm so so sorry that there isn't a thread that says "If you are a junior rushing at the University of Southern Mississippi, if you have written for the school paper and played volleyball on the second newest dorm's intramural team, and if your GPA is 3.25, you have approximately a 75.32659951% chance of receiving a bid to your first choice and a 82.264568765165% chance of receiving a bid in general. Proceed accordingly." If you want to "out" your school, go ahead, but the majority of GCers are not going to ask you that straight out. The general belief on here is that it's good to encourage PNMs to be discreet about where they're rushing, especially if they are in unique circumstances. |
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You've gotten as much help as GC is willing to provide. Best to let this go, now. Good luck with recruitment. Oh, and your flounce is showing. |
If you knew the answers, why did you ask the question?
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LOL wide-eyed, the lesson to be learned here is:
if 2+ users with join dates preceding 2009 make any comments that you do not agree with or feel are being sarcastic/rude... don't even try with a comeback. you WILL fail. miserably. This coming from a fellow recent member :D |
LOL @ all the possible responses she wanted being somewhere in all of the 90 threads she says she read.
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If you would like to address me, do it here.
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PMing me about it is not going to get you a different answer! |
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