what's your biggest flaw?
 

As a follow up to what's your favorite body part, what would you say your biggest flaw is. As hard as it is to admitt, we all have one. With me, I'd say I'm very forgetful. I make post it notes to remind myself to take pizza out of the oven. I'll probably forget about this post too. I send myself emails to remind myself things also. My friends always get mad at me because I never remember anyone and I always get peoples names mixed up. For some reason, I can remember anything from my past, just not anything that's happened from the day before:eek:

My biggest flaws (yes, I have more than one)
 

Loving me enough (working on it)
Lying to myself until the point where I believe that I can give enough to someone to make them love me more... (working on that too)
My mouth... I am a lady first, of course... But I have been known to let out a few too many of the cuss words. :p (working on it, probably not hard enough)

...and those of you who know me have witnessed first hand...

My sarcasm. :p

Well, like others, I have MANY flaws. However, my biggest flaws would be:

1. My my tongue. My mother says that my tongue can be as sharp as a sword at times (and I don't mean by cursing or anything like that). I guess it is a curse and a blessing because I think quick on my feet. But believe me when angered, I'M even amazed at what I'd say sometimes.

2. I also give advice that is often hard for me to take myself (that's MOST of us).

3. My BIG BELLY. After two children and several years, my stomach seems to have developed this incredible elastic ability. I hate it. I hate it. I hate it. (enough said).

4. Feeling sorry for myself. I'm often hard on myself if I think that I disappointed someone. I tend to linger on that, but I'm working on it.

5. Being too trusting of others. I give every body the benefit of the doubt and that has often come back to haunt me (I've been used, talked about, mistreated, lied on---you know what I'm talking about). I truly feel that I'm more often than not a bad judge of character.

6. I am a chronic late-aholic. It's embarassing, but I am. I heard Dr. Phil say that being late is a sign of selfishness among other things. I don't quite agree with that. It's that, to me, there's just NOT enough hours in the day to do everything that I haveto do. My life, at this point, is just not centered around any SET frame of time.

I've got plenty more, but these are just the biggies.

It's truly a wonderful thing when love yourself enough to recognize your own faults. This is a good exercise for all of us to take a good look at ourselves.

My faults (in order):

1. Patience: I am a very IMPATIENT person. I want what I want, when I want it and how I want it done.

2. Affection: I am not always very affectionate towards people that I really care about. I'm not a touchy-feely, warm and fuzzy kind of person.

3. Too Busy: Sometimes I just need to slow it down and do one thing at a time. I'm a MULTI-TASKER. Sometimes, that's a good thing and sometimes it's not because I'm often not able to put an absolute 100% effort into everything that I do. But, I sure do knock myself out trying.

Quick question...
 

Re: Quick question...
 

lil_sunshine - I'm an Aquarius!

My biggest flaw is PROCRASTINATION,
followed closely by impatience.
Third - my listening skills. I often don't give people a chance to finish their thoughts. I want to make my point!!!

Physically - my thighs!!!

I am praying and listening on all of these. Now
if I can just put it into action.

Re: Re: Quick question...
 

Sorry about that. I hope I didn't offend you in any way.

As my mom would say , boy u got a smart ass mouth

me and Time has an arrangement, he pays very little attention to me and i pay little atention to him. I have takken C.P. time to a neww level:D but i'm working on it.

My impatients with adults i have nearly infinite patients with children but next to none with adults




jIHAD

patience is a virtue, but how many of us are actually virtueous

Where do you get these sayings???
Neat.

Sorry lil_sunshine, I not an Aries. I'm happy to say that I was born under the sign of------SCORPIO. As a matter of fact, my birthday is this Friday (November 2nd) and I'll be 32-years-old. :) :) :)

Here are a few of mine...
 

- I have a smart mouth and I need to watch my tone
- I'm too shy. I'm not the type of person that will start a conversation with someone I don't know.
- I am too moody.
- I don't know how to relax; I'm tense and stressed on a regular basis.

I'm trying to work on all of these, but it is a slow process.

Can I get an AMEN, sista!


. My BIG BELLY. After two children and several years, my stomach seems to have developed this incredible elastic ability. I hate it. I hate it. I hate it. (enough said).

I didn't want to answer this one...
 

I hate these threads that make me look at myself. But oh well, we all have to do it.

I have no patience. I'm trying to get better.

I tend to speak loudly, I need to handle that, lol.

When I'm speaking about something that I'm passionate about (God, Greek life, my peeps, my fam...) I might sound like I'm angry and yelling, but I'm not. It is intimidating, and I'm trying to figure out a way to tone it down. I, personally, don't see it as a flaw, but at the same time, I don't like being intimidating.

I'm learning that I may not be the most dependable person. I think that I still have Yes-syndrome. I KNOW that I have too much on my plate right now, but since my life seemed fairly empty, I committed to stuff I ended up not being able to do, and it makes me feel really bad. I don't want to be the person that people say, "Oh, don't ask her, she never follows through." :(

I have no money sense. None. I can't save, budget, nothing. This is something that is killing me softly. But I'm determined to get better.

That's enough for now, lol.

First off, Happy Birhday Korkscru from a fellow Scorpio!!

My Birthday is tomorrow girl.

Let's see, biggest flaw, biggest flaw. Well people are always telling me that I am full of crap. Sometimes, I recognize that this is true.
:confused: I am not happy about it and I am actively striving to be less full of crap.

Patience......I hate to wait. It is so bad when I pick somebody up for a ride I use the 2 honk system. 1-honk lets you know I'm there 2nd honk let's you know your a$$ just got left. If you know I coming be READY!!!:mad:

When I get upset/angry I cry!

Temper- which has gotten much much better. People always tell me I am the smallest one but have the hottest temper.

But other than that I am :cool:

Patience----I hate waiting also. That's why I make a point of arriving anywhere at least 15 minutes before time to make sure I don't make others wait.

Temper---I really need help with this. Many times I tend to get people straight with a temper/attitude. Most times you can make people aware of their foolish mistakes by speaking in a calm voice. I need to try that instead of going off on folks. I'm working on it because one day it could possibly get me in trouble....especially with the type of guys that say, what yo name is shawty boo, where yo man :rolleyes: and that's when I go off.

Trusting people----I have a tendency to feel that people deal with situations the same as I do, which is wrong. If I tell you I promise I will do something, then it's done. If there is a possibility, then I say I will try. If I can't then I will tell you no. I have a habit of believing people when they tell me that they are gonna do something. When they don't, especially if they promise, I get disappointed like a hurt child. I have to remind myself of my mother's words, "Never put all your trust in man, man will let you down, only God fulfills all promises."
(Note: Regarding my quote, I meant man in the context of being a human being not a male. I don't want you all to think it was a typo and I'm male bashing up in hea ;) )

Last word----If something is up for debate I have to have the last word.

Prejudging people by appearance---I have a habit of doing this and I know plenty others, but we're scared to admit it. True story...Picture it, the south, July 2000, hot as hell. I was driving home from a job interview. I had on a black suit in July :eek: and all of a sudden my radio went dead, ok you know I went into shock. Then I tried to put my turning signal on and it didn't come on. Ok a sista is rushing because I wasn't too far from mom's. My car stopped and I didn't have my cell phone. Several cars passed me by, nicely dressed men and women driving, you know the ones you thought would stop for you :rolleyes: . Well all of a sudden a burgundy Chevy Caprice Classic with rims pulled up. The guy (Richard) got out looking like a friend of Master P. He had the hat, several gold teeth, a Versace shirt, and a large gold necklace. He let me use his cell phone, so I called my mom. He asked if I wanted him to give me a ride home, and I said no thank you. He said I'm not gonna kill you. I told him I didn't want to leave my car, which was true. Well he said he had to take his sister to the doctor and when he was done he would get his truck and pull my car wherever I wanted it taken. He rode back through with his sister in the car and said I will be back. Shortly, a friend of the family came with his tow truck. While I was at my mom's the phone rang, it was Richard. The number was left in his cell phone when I called her. He didn't try to make more out of it by asking me out or anything. All Richard said was, "I was calling to make sure you made it home safely."

It's so hard to do, but I'm learning to never judge a book by it's cover. :)

fantastic topic!
 

Hi all... as a newbie to the board, I have to echo many of you on the flaws: at times I’m impatient, I have a lil' bit of a temper, I am SUPER forgetful, I procrastinate (occasionally) and I try to please others while neglecting myself. However, my biggest flaw is my ability to dismiss people. I have been dubbed an "ice princess" b/c people think I’m that cold. I have a policy: you get ONE GOOD TIME (OGT) to mess up. After that, I'm through. This goes for boyfriends, professional relationships, my girls - whatever. I guess it's because I'm so willing to give to others, when they let me down (especially when I feel I’ve been disrespected) - it's OVER. I give no second chances and since I’m forgetful anyway, we don't have to worry about me remembering your name/phone #/e-mail or whatnot. If you use up that OGT, you cease to exist in my world. I know that's a horrible habit, but it's my flaw and I’m working on it. I am just so glad that others have been able to look past MY mistakes, and that I serve a good (and forgiving) God.

1. I'm impatient
2. I blow chit out of proportion
3. I hold grudges, therefore I cannot forgive and forget


That's enough. ;)

L.........O..........L

Oh my goodness this is too hilarious for words! I love it! LOL!

I guess my biggest flaw is that I am too laid back. I very rarely show any emotion at all. I have my game face on at all times because I hate for people to know what I am thinking. I am very observant because I want to be aware of every circumstance possible in a given situation. Actually, I personally see this as a flaw YET but I feel that with time, I will probably realize that it's okay to show more emotion and open up a little bit.

Looking in my mirror!!


1.I hate my thighs.(family inheritance)
2.I can't stand ignorant people. No patience with them.
3. I talk loud sometimes. Can't stand people to ask me to repeat myself so I take care of it the first time.
4. Hold grudges for along time.
5. I have a habit of speaking my mind and soul b/4 I think first.

should i admit this???
 

one of my biggest flaws is that I have stretch marks around my butt & hip area...I hate that b/c I feel insecure about wearing swimsuits! ACK!

Dang, this list is long!!!
 

I feel My Biggest Faults are:

*Being VERY (and I do mean very) forgetful...if it doesn't get written down it won't get done...
*Chronic Late Sydrome (b/c I don't care enough to be on time)
*Not loving myself enough
*Not knowing how to function during the bad times...
*Not being able to take a compliment
*Taking on way too many tasks
*Neglecting myself (not getting enough "Me" time)
*Procrastination
*Having a smart mouth
*Not being able to communicate my feelings to others
*Feeling sorry for myself & wallowing in my self-pity
*Living my life for other people
*Not realizing, no matter how many times I tell myself, that happiness comes from within
*Not being able to always take my own advice
*Settling for less than I deserve from others
*Can't say "No", esp. to a friend
*Being too nice to people
*Not always thinking before I speak


WOW!!! I have a lot of work to do :(...

Sugar you need a hug....((((((((((Sugar)))))))))) woo woo woo :)

Learn to love YOU because there's no other person that will do it for you. YOU should be YOUR biggest fan. When you begin to love you, other things will begin to fall in place and you will be so much happier. Can't you tell I love me some me? ;) Start loving you some you and see how much better you will feel. ;)

AAAWWWEEE!!!! Thanx!!
 

Thank you, TE
I really needed that!! I'd been having a bad day up until now!!
Thank You, again!!

Re: Dang, this list is long!!!
 

Yeah, I am with you on having a Smart Mouth and it is hard for me to say no to favors.

Re: should i admit this???
 

Here it goes...

Welcome to GreekChat, JayAnn! :)

1. Stubborn as a Mule
I am set in my ways and sometimes I know that I am just being stubborn. I like things the way that I like them and when it comes to my stuff, I am not willing to change. Sometimes I can be a little bossy.

2. Pre-Judging
I admit that I prejudge people based on their appearance, not racially, but more by how they wear their hair and clothing. If someone doesn't necessarily carry themselves in the same manner as I do, I won't give them a chance. I don't even want to get to know them. I figure that people who have similar goals and ambitions to mine will act similar to the way that I do. But then again, I know that there are times when others would look at me and not expect me to be the type of person that I am.

3. Smart @$$ Mouth
As a teenager, I got popped in the mouth by my mother on several occasions. I have a quick wit and I can come back at someone before they can blink an eye. The worst part is that sometimes people will be messing with me or getting on my nerves and I'll say something that'll just hurt their poor little feelings. Not anything really mean, but just something that they weren't expecting.


As far as the physical aspect, I don't believe that I have any flaws. God made and shaped my body the way that he wanted it and I don't see anything wrong with it. Their are places that He shaped well and I let go, but I wouldn't go so far as to call them flaws.

I am late everywhere I go!:(

We must be sisters because I am so stubborn that my boyfriend is going crazy. I am so stubborn it is rediculous.

Oh but I love my sarcastic ways. To be sarcastic you must have intellect and trust me I have alot of it. When you come around me please be prepared to engage in an intelligent convo because I am very sarcastic.

My temper:mad: When I am mad there is no way to calm me. I can be very hotheaded when I wanna be. I guess thats the libra in me. You know we don't play any games:rolleyes:

1. impatient
2. a little too blunt
3. pre-judger
4. lazy (especially right now during finals, lol)
5. terrible temper

but thank God, I am saved by grace!

1. Easily irritated
2. Often BRUTALLY honest.. I could stand a little tact
3. Being too sarcastic before I really get to know somebody
4. Not easily forgiving.. once you get on my bad side, it is almost impossible to cross back over
5. ALWAYS late. No matter how much I plan

This may be a little long...
 

1. Insecure: I know that I am a beautiful person inside and out (not to sound conskeeted or anything:p ), but there are certain times when I'm a little insecure about myself. I know I have some suppressed issues about having dark complexion. Don't get me wrong...I love my skin color but when I'm around women who are lighter than I am, I feel invisible.

2. Blowing things out of proportion: Not to say I make a big deal of out little things but when things just don't go right (ie: being late, which I absolutley hate or getting lost) I have a tendency to get frustrated. I'm learning to deal with this.

3. Judgemental: I have very high expectations for myself and I have a tendency to feel bad if I make a bad decision or do something that I know other's would look down upon.

4. I think I know everything: I need to learn to shut up

5. Sarcastic

6. feeling sorry for myself

7. Comparing myself to others: If I didn't do this, half of my issues would be resolved

Actually I'm stubborn to the point of crazy too.:(

I have a big mouth.

My turn
 

Well, let's see....

- Being able to remember events up the the minute it occured (ie I don't say "Last summer I did this....", I say "I did this on Monday, July 22, 1982 at around 8:45 am. The temperature was a comfortable 62 degrees with a 20% chance of precipitation...")

- Being obsessed with certain topics (game shows, Transformers, MST3K, Three Stooges, etc).

- Speaking very candidly. Howard Stern would love me.

- Being a tightwad and a cheapskate. The former I am taking care of by tithing regularly, the latter, well as far as personal relationships go, if I really like or love you a lot, I actually will spend a lot of money on you. That's a fact.

- Not knowing how to cook. The microwave and the toaster oven is my cookware. I am a true bachelor. True bachelors don't cook.

- Spending too much time alone. I am trying to get out and socialize more.

- Dancing like a white guy. Some of the GCers who know me can vouch for this.

- Not dressing my age. I have been told that I dress like a 40-something year-old man, ie charcoal brown or forest green "civil rights" suits (thin lapel, 3 button suits with small collars on my shirts and thin ties--something that MLK would have worn). or weaing V-necked sweater vests over golf shirts with khaki shorts (looking like an overaged black Doug Funnie). One girl I dated said that I dressed straight out of the 80s.

Anyway, I have more for you later.