Apology
 

I just wanted to apologise to everyone (i would post this in the original thread but it moved and i cant find it). i didnt mean to step on anyones toes, i was just really excited because i got accepted into my moms alma mater. she always talked about how disappointed she was that she never got into kd, so i really wanna make her proud by fulfilling her dream. i didn't mean to make anyone mad tho, i was just really excited i might actually be able to be a kd sister and wanted to tell someone about it!!!! But since i don't know anyone who is greek none of my friends would get it. i was just hoping my (hopefully possibly) future kd sisters would be excited with me! sorry if i made anyone mad :( id love to talk to anyof you if your still willing, cuz i really admire kd and really do hope to one day call it my own, if youll still have me. sorry again :(

If you're real, and your mom is honestly telling you to go to certain schools so you can try and join the sorority who rejected her...I would pack a bag now, and leave your house immediately, because your mother is obviously insane.

The best thing for you to do is to STOP POSTING under this name and request deletion of the account.

This is what I get for watching 24 on DVR....

She's not forcing me to join any house, she's just always told me about how she wishes she coulda been a kd in college. she thinks the best schools are the ones with kd chapters, but she doesnt care if i go greek or not.

and why does everyone keep telling me to stop pposting on this name? kadeebug is my nickname from when i was little...i dont get whats wrong with it?

Please tell me your mother named you Kady or Cady after KD.

my real name is kadee...my dad jokes my mom named me after the sorority, but she swears it isnt true. its not my fault tho, thats just my name!

Now that's dedication! :rolleyes:

I'm sorry, but your mom is crazy. She named you after the sorority and she thinks that all the good schools have KD chapters - obviously they didn't want her or did she even have the nerve to rush? It's apparent that you want KD as much since you posted in the KD roll call thread saying you are a future "KD". Remember it's a mutual selection process and keep your options open.

I know, i was just super excited i got into my moms alma mater. i cant wait to be apart of something she was apart of, and hope to fulfill her dream of being a kd. if i cant thats okay too, i just really want to surprise her with a kd bid card someday!

You've provided more than enough details to get yourself blacklisted should someone care enough in a year or so. :D Congrats.

shhh.

please stop, for more reasons than anyone has time to list.

(to the OP, not to DrPhil!)

I know. ;) :p

Sound the alarm for a freshman named "Kadee" who is nicknamed "Kadeebug" and has an affinity for "KD."

Aaaaaaaaaaaand it's times like these I wish weren't modless.
Thanks to the mod who took care of the other thread, btw.

im really sorry everyone. i dont know how i ruined my chances to go kd (or any other house!!!!!) since i dont even kno where im going next year! i tried reeeeeally hard not to tell anyone anything revealing about myself. plus, kadee isnt the name on my birth certificate, its the nickname everyone calls me (like some people call ppl named michael mike, you know?) what did i say that was too much detail? can they really stop me from rushing now? :(

Please stop posting!

You've come back for a second day of the same thing. You've apologized. Please leave it at that.

Nope, you can still rush. But I really wish I could be a fly on the wall during your chats with the sisters. :rolleyes:

"Apart" actually works in this instance. Funny.

Sound the alarm for a freshman whose real name isn't "kadee" but people call her "kadee" and her nickname is "kadeebug."

Thanks for clarifying that. :) Coming to a college near youuuuuuu! *echo echo*

I can see it now...come next fall an active KD posts a story in the "weird rush stories" thread about a girl who's mom wanted to be a KD and thinks that only the schools with KD chapters are the best ones and was named Katie or Kadee...

You sure it's not pronounced "caddy"?

How awkward would it have been if her mom wanted to get into any of the other houses? Not sure having a girl named "Ky-o" or "Aydipie" would quite have the same ring to it...

(Not that she shouldn't have wanted to get into any other house. You are all lovely. Just my attempt at a lame joke.) :o

I liked it :)

I've thought the same, actually! I just realized a few months ago that my dog's name, Kaio, sounds like Chi-O... and it only took me 4 years to figure that out. But it's a (Brazilian) boy's name, so it wouldn't fly so well for a girl :D

I suppose it'd be easier to take a symbol or jewel for some groups. Rose, Pearl, or Ruby? I don't think any Kappa names would fly though- key, iris, fleur de lis, sapphire, owl... nope, those wouldn't work out so well. OR we could just not use GLOs for name inspiration. That's always an option too.

ETA: This is a total hijack, but my brother has a baby girl named Elise. He picked her name and they joke that they named her after a car (Lotus). Technically that's not true but it kind of is...

Wokka wokka wokka.

Please do not say anything you said on here to any future sisters. The name, only good schools are ones with kd chapters, mom's dream more than yours ... etc. I get your excited, but it is creepy (whether meant to be or not). I do not mean to be ugly, but if this is your dream, you should know the way it would come off in the real world.

I did not see your other thread, so I apologize if this has already been said. Actually, I only apologize to other GCers. The OP needs to hear this over and over and over again.

First, agree with everyone who says to Stop Posting Now. You have no idea how presumptious, creepy, elitest, obnoxious and stalkerish that your posts (and mom's story) are coming across.

That being said, it sounds like that while you are (vaguely) familiar with Kappa Delta, you clearly are not familiar with recruitment, greek systems, etc.

Things to consider:
-- you may get to campus, go through recruitment, and find that you love, love, love the women that are in a different sorority than Kappa Delta. It happens. Frequently. Different chapters of different organizations on different campuses all have different personalities.

-- you may get to campus, go through recruitment, and find that you do not like the women that are in the Kappa Delta chapter at your school. Again, not all Kappa Deltas are cookie cutters of each other. They can be vastly different at different schools.

-- you may get to campus, go through recruitment, and- gasp- the women of Kappa Delta may not feel a connection to you and you may get cut. This also happens. Frequently. Just because you want to be a part of a certain group does NOT mean that it is going to happen. The women in the chapter have to want you too. Sororities must make big cuts during the recruitment process to whiddle the PNM pool down to a pledge class size group of women.

-- your mom has put an insane amount of pressure on you, whether you realize it or not. You speak of the joy of being able to tell her that you are part of a group that she wanted to be in. What if you decide that you like another group better? Or, what if you do get released by KD? How will that phone call go? What will her reaction be? Would you be afraid to tell your mom these things? This is a convo that you need to have with your mom before recruitment even starts, as chances are high that one of these scenarios could play out.

-- if you do get cut by KD, will you continue with recruitment? Is your mindset an all-or-nothing one?

We see it happen all the time that PNMs get their hearts set on one chapter, and when that chapter cuts them the PNM drops out of recruitment. Later they realize the errors in their judgment, but it is too late for them. You really, really, really need to think through all of these scenarios because you could find yourself in those situations.

To be very blunt, you have set yourself up for immense disapointment. Your focus on setting your sights on just one group are wrong, wrong, wrong. Recruitment is a pressure filled situation. Why put a gazillion times more pressure on yourself by just focusing on one group? Relax, get into a college, sign up for recruitment, and just enjoy the process of meeting (ALL) sorority women and other PNMs. What comes will come. Allow yourself the freedom to enjoy any of the chapters on your campus. Allow yourself the freedom to choose the chapter that you love, not the one that your mom does. Allow yourself the opportunity to chart your own course. These things can bring you even more happiness.

(Why do I feel like her mom's name should be Brandi Rae?)

Complete hijack, but I have a Aunt Iris.

This is so full of win I had to QFP... in a good way.

...the "ee" at the end of a name is on the same end of the white trash spectrum as "i" as far as I'm concerned.

Maybe Brandi Rae had a baby and found some of the human growth hormone left over from when Reva got cloned on Guiding Light.

Asa actually is a name, but it's a guy's name. Oh well :) That one you could actually get away with if your mom was a big One Life To Live fan.

I know an Alpha named Asa!

PLEASE don't tell any of the chapter members this story when you rush. If a girl named Ivy came through and said her mom always lovedAlpha Phi and wanted to join, and that she wanted to join Alpha Phi because of her mom and only went to school with Alpha Phi chapters...well all I can say is that it would be a legendary story in my chapter and there is no way "Ivy" would be at our house on bid day. It is a well meaning story, but it is just way too forward to be shared at recruitment.

The other thing I have to say is this: you may be putting way too much pressure on yourself to appease one chapter during recruitment. Think about it from this perspective...if you idealize a person too much (a boy, a celebrity, a professor, etc) when it comes time to meet them you are likely to stutter, say stupid things, shut down or maybe even get that "crazy cat lady" look in your eyes. It doesn't matter that you can get along with any other person, because you haven't idealized those people and they are therefore approachable.

I worry that you have idealized KD to the extent that you will be far too nervous to make a good impression...the anxiety shows, and it doesn't go over well. Remember that the KDs are just people...if you pardon my vulgarity, they fart just like the rest of us. If you view them as deities it will NOT go over well, and will only make you look "beneath" them.

I use an "i" at the end of my name. Have been using it for 40+ years and there is no way I can be classified white trash.

DaffyKD

I want to add one more thing to these wise words:

Your mother went to college at a different time, there were different women in KD at that time. When a young lady goes through recruitment she is basing her decision on the women she meets NOW. Not one woman who was active in the house when your mother went through school would still be active today. You are not your mother, you MUST make your own decision. This is the same advise I gave my own daughter when she went away to school and there was a KD chapter on her campus. I told her that if she went through recruitment (and she did not), she had to look at the houses based on who was active now, not based on my long time KD friends or who was active when I was a teenager going through rush. As long as you are happy in the house you choose, that is all that is important.

DaffyKD

Wow, I always wanted the KD forum to pick up a little, but not sure this is what I had in mind.....

AphiAnna, this is a wonderful post, and I echo everything you said. I completely understand how a high school girl with little experience of greek life might not understand how this comes across to others.

But now, Kaydeebug, you need to take the advice you have been given--while some of it may be painful to hear, it is all helpful and realistic. This story will NOT help you, and your mother's attitude (on this particular issue) is not healthy.

Go to school, meet people, go through recruitment with an open mind, and DO NOT share this story. No need to apologize, just accept (even if you don't yet understand) that this situation/story will not help you in any way. With anything.

As a mom myself, I am wishing you a great college experience. Have fun and create and live your own dreams!

Stop spreading lies. Girls don't fart. And sorority girls DEFINITELY don't fart. Why do you think sorority houses smell so much better than fraternity houses? Please.

Are you insinuating that fraternity men fart?

Crazy talk, I tell you.

LOL

I'm disappointed
 

I'm disappointed in my sisters... Yes this young girl was kinda creepy in her story and a bit overzealous in her attempt to be a KD. But shouldn't we be happy that someone is that interested in our sorority even if her intentions were off base? I read through the thread and not once did I see a sister stand up and say hey thats ok thanks for apologizing now may I give you a bit of advice... instead I saw slam after slam and more than once the comment "well you're not getting in now..." or they're going to "blacklist" you. These are NOT the values I have been taught to uphold. Maybe we should take a step back and reflect. Maybe we should give this young one positive feedback and nurture her to make the best choices for her, give her the positive influence to make a wise greek choice that her mother is obviously not giving her. I have always encouraged young girls that I met that have said "I love what you stand for I want to be a KD too or I want to be in your sorority" that they need to be open when going through the recruitment process and if they look for whats right for them then they will be happiest... I think this is what this girl needed, not our criticism. Sorry to come down on all who posted, I'm just disappointed to see sisters acting this way.