Exciting Opportunities
 

OK, so here's the deal.

Well if you like the idea of being a founding member of a new sorority chapter do that. If your mre comfortable with the DZ's join them. If you decide to do the start up you can still be friends with the DZ sisters.

Go to the DZ event and see how you like them! If you click, go forward with them; if you don't, go after the new chapter!

Thanks, guys. I think I will go to the event tomorrow evening and take it from there. This was so unexpected!

I agree with carnation, i think you should go to the DZ event, and also give the new organization a try. It takes a few weeks to get a colonization going, so its not something you would have to make up your mind up about right now.
Go hang out with the DZ's, and then if they extend you a bid, then you have some thinking to do.
Just relax!

I agree - go to the DZ event and then see. Keep in mind they may not offer you a bid (I hate to sound so negative, but it's a possibility). If they do, and you feel comfortable, go with it; if not, don't, and wait for the colonization.

One woman does not a sorority make. If your fiance's ex is just one of 50 or 60 sisters, don't worry about her, just make friends with your other sisters.

Ditto..ditto
 

Sweetie, leave the options wide open. Go to the event Tuesday and see how the rest of it plays out. Being a founder is a pretty neat idea.
mmcat
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Hi Lilith-I am sending you a PM-let me know if you receive it.

K

;)AggieAXO, I've sent you a reply

I'm going to meet with the DZ's today. I'll let everyone know what comes of it

Okay, I'm of course a bit biased here considering that I am a DZ... But I really do think that you should check them out.

I'm so glad that you decided to meet with them today! And please don't let one girl in the chapter stand in the way of pledging DZ if that's what you really would like to do. At my school, the ratio of girls to guys was 12:1 when I was there, so there was always someone in my chapter who was dating the ex of another sister. It was bound to happen, and the girls just dealt with it. I think that your situation is very similar and I really don't feel like it will be a big issue to the girls.

Please let me know how your meeting goes! Good luck! :)

Best of luck with DZ! I hope you get what you want! :)

i too am a bit biased... BUT i'm a founding sister of my chapter soo i am biased on that regard as well b/c i know how amazing that is! I would just go to both the DZ event and the event of the sorority colonizing.... the women in the chapter are goingto be the selling point above all, and how are you going to know which one is best for you if you don't give both an equal shot! have lots of fun ~ and keep us updated :D

Hey Lilith I did not get your reply, can you PM me again?

I'm actually having a similar dilemma myself - Alpha Phi is recolonizing here, and I've spoken with the woman in charge of recruiting women to be founders of Alpha Phi at Duke, and it sounds wonderful - but I also have a friend in Alpha Epsilon Phi who wants me to go through formal rush in the spring and is all about making sure I get a bid there, as I've met and spent time with the members and felt really comfortable.

Decisions, decisions. =)

I got a bid from DZ!! So, now I DO have some serious thinking to do!

well congrats on your bid to DZ!
honestly, if you think you want them as your sisters and can have great friendships and grow as a person then this was ment to be. The obviously want you to be their sister. My opinion is that this happened for a reason and you should go DZ if thats what your heart is telling you to do!
-Maggie

I'm going to try and throw the bias aside....


if the women of the DZ chapter are ones you could call sister and have fun with then i think you should go for it! They see something very special in you (I haope you see it in them!!!)

If not, check the other sorority out, maybe they have what youre looking for, maybe not.

AggieAXO, & TechADPi,

I've replied to your PM's :)

My 2.5 cents
 

lilith - first congrats on the bid!! I'm going to jump into the fray and say go for it with DZ for a couple reasons...

-Being a chapter founder is exciting and history making but also MUCH more time consuming than pledging an established group. The national gives you a lot of help, but there is a lot on your shoulders that wouldn't be if you join something already there.

-Part 2 on the time factor - if you are an athlete it takes up a lot of your time, and the colonizing might simply take more than you can give.

-You have a bid in your hand from DZ right now. The groups that come in may not offer you a bid.

-It sounds like you really do like DZ and one of the few things that's holding you back is this one girl. Believe me every sister is not going to be your bestest friend - once you get over 10 girls together that's pretty much impossible. When the sorority voted to give you a bid, she had the chance to put her 2 cents in, and one of 2 things happened: a) she said nothing, and b) she said something and no one else cared. I think she is probably trying to move on with her life too and isn't blaming you for whatever happened between her and your sweetie.

Those are just my opinions...you have to listen to your heart first and foremost. Good luck! :D

go where your heart is
 

it's wonderful to have a bid after some disappointment. now think hard about what you really want. the sure thing is in hand. the unknown could be exciting and really cool, or not.
what do you really want?
sounds like the sure thing is pulling you..
you sound like a great girl who will be successful wherever you land.
just make sure you land somewhere sweetie or you wouldn't forgive yourself.
mmcat
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Ditto on what 33girl and MMcat said-you girls seem to always have the rt. things to say!!!!

K

I'm with 33girl on this one. Also, in the same vein of the sorority coming in not giving you a bid, suppose they give you a bid and their colonization effort fails! It sounds like you've got a great relationship with DZ and you're feelin' the love. Go with your heart. Colonizations are LOTS of work, trust me, I'm learning first hand. Not that they aren't extremely rewarding, but if you're a junior, you may not even make it through the colonization process to see the chartering.

Just my .02! Good luck, and congrats on your bid to DZ! :D

Keep us updated...
 

I'm dying to know what you decided to do, lilith! :)

Well, as of tomorrow, I will be a full-fledged Delta Zeta!!!! Thanks SO much to all of you. As always, the advice and general assurance recieved from you ladies (and gentlemen)has made a world of difference to me!

As a side note: Texas A&M extended an invitation to colonize to Gamma Phi Beta Sorority. They delayed their invitation to come on till 2003 or 2004 though, which I thought was odd.

Congratulations! You will have so much fun!

YEAHHHHH!!! :D

Welcome to the wonderful world of DELTA ZETA sisterhood!!!! The girls at Tech are soo lucky to have you and so are we!

Congrats!

Welcome little turtle...
 

Hi lilith,

Congratulations on pledging Delta Zeta!

If you haven't already, please check out our DZ forum on GreekChat. We just celebrated our 99th Founders' Day, so you are coming into our sisterhood at a really exciting time. We've got lots planned for our Centennial Celebration!

Also, check out www.deltazeta.org if you're interested in finding out more about us!

DZ Love,
Carrie :)

As Always
 

33girl my sister gave good advice. I love DZ's on my campus so congrats on joining a great sorority besides ASA. :D

Congratulations, Lilith! You will absolutely adore Greek life and your wonderful sorority!:D

Welcome to our family, Lilith! Delta Zeta has been such a wonderful part of my life and I know that it will be a wonderful part of your life as well!

DZ Love and Mine,

Congrats lilith!!! My best friend's boyfriend's cousin is a DZ at A&M. I think she is a sophomore she's from Houston and was on drill team.... i think she went to cy-creek. I also have a friend thats a DG at A&M. I think you made the right choice, and im very happy for you!!! Enjoy it, im sure its going to be such a wonderful experience for you!! :D

Congrats , I am so happy for you. Please stick around as it is nice having another aggie here!!! But I know you will be busy.

Karen

Congrats lilith!! I know you'll have a blast. Keep us updated on how pledging goes!! :)

congrats
 

things have a way of working out as they were supposed to.
enjoy the ride and have a ball.
mmcat
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