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scarlet15 12-03-2009 10:12 PM

Live Recruitment!!! ^.^
 
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33girl 12-03-2009 10:40 PM

Can you change the Yellow to something else? It's a lil hard to see. ;)

LucyKKG 12-04-2009 01:27 AM

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Originally Posted by 33girl (Post 1872289)
Can you change the Yellow to something else? It's a lil hard to see. ;)

But it certainly isn't mellow! Haha I second the motion.

scarlet15 12-04-2009 05:34 PM

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twinkle555 01-11-2010 03:09 PM

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Originally Posted by scarlet15 (Post 1883842)
So recruitment starts in TWO DAYS!! I'm really excited and I feel comfortable that most of the people in my hall, a lot of freshmen that I know and my roommate are going through it too.

I'm actually getting a little nervous and I'm going to the mall today to get one more outfit for one of the rounds.

In case you were wondering there are:

2 open house rounds where I do not rank at all.
a skit round where I rank the top 4 and last 2nd, 3rd, 4th, and 5th choices
a philanthropy round where I rank the top 2 and 2nd choice
a pref round where i rank my 1st and 2nd choice (if you get invited to up to two)
and bid day :)

This process spans for more than a week and I'll have to juggle classes and may have to skip practices and meeting for the extracurriculars that I am already in, but it'll be worth it.

I really wanted to keep an open mind, but its really hard becuase rush is all anyone is talking about and you hear things like shocking pink is the prettiest and number one sorority, therefore impossible to get into or macaroni and cheese is the bottom and has to struggle to get girls or that bittersweet shimmer has so many girls from one religion that they don't take anyone else. But its reassuring to have a chance to meet the sisters in each organization and realize that the stereotypes don't match up.

Those are the two things I have to remember, to be myself, and to have a open mind. So I'm off to the mall now. Wish me luck!:D

Yay how exciting!! Im glad you are a smart PNM and keeping an open mind. Recruitment is alot of fun I bet you will do great! good luck!

AOIIBuckeye 01-11-2010 03:59 PM

I'm so excited to hear your story! It's great that you're keeping an open mind, good luck!

Blue Skies 01-11-2010 09:59 PM

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Originally Posted by scarlet15 (Post 1883842)
Wish me luck!:D

Luck! :) Enjoy your recruitment.

gee_ess 01-12-2010 12:05 AM

Good luck!
Stay positive and keep that open mind...well, open!

scarlet15 01-13-2010 06:02 PM

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scarlet15 01-15-2010 03:22 AM

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gee_ess 01-15-2010 10:20 AM

Sounds like you are really having fun, and that is wonderful! I am looking forward to your next update.

scarlet15 01-15-2010 07:07 PM

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TriDeltaSallie 01-15-2010 07:18 PM

The best thing you can do is continue with the process and see how things work out. The Greek Chat board is filled with stories of women who had only one or two chapters left that they weren't thrilled about and in the end they found a great home. Feelings change, groups have off nights, and you may discover that it was meant to be at one of these two chapters.

If you finish it out you never have to wonder "what it" and you can honestly say you gave it your very best shot.

Just remember - the women at shocking pink and macaroni and cheese are excited to see you for the next round. They want to see you back and you should find that encouraging because I would bet there are some women on your campus who got NO invite at all.

Hang in there and keep us posted! :)

33girl 01-15-2010 08:35 PM

Some groups don't "show" well in the first round of rush, but they get better as it goes on and they don't have to keep trying to be all things to all people. I agree, continue and see how things go. If it gets to be pref time and you TRULY don't feel it with either group - leaving reputations aside - drop out then.

TPA85 01-15-2010 10:58 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl (Post 1885635)
Some groups don't "show" well in the first round of rush, but they get better as it goes on and they don't have to keep trying to be all things to all people. I agree, continue and see how things go. If it gets to be pref time and you TRULY don't feel it with either group - leaving reputations aside - drop out then.

100% agree with 33girl.


A lot of us who have posted our recruitment stories have had heavy cuts and still ended up in places that turned out to be good for each of us. Just hang in there.

scarlet15 01-16-2010 09:19 PM

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ADPiTigergurl 01-16-2010 10:56 PM

Well like others have said, try to stick it out :). I also didn't have a full schedule anyday of recruitment ( including the first but thats another story), but there is no doubt in my mind I'm where I was meant to be. I truly hope you find ur fit, and please don't think off ur situation as the rock in the hard place; simply the relocated rock :).

33girl 01-17-2010 01:18 AM

ANY sorority you join will have a stereotype. If you get into one of the more "popular" sororities, you'll have people saying (often out of jealousy) that the girls are fake...or that they're all cokeheads...or anorexic...or hate each other. If you get in a sorority with a lot of athletes, you'll hear the "lady jock" rumors. A sorority with a high GPA is called a bunch of no fun brainy geeks.

Then there are those people who paint ALL Greeks with the same negative brush. You didn't let those people stop you from rushing in the first place, so don't let the same kind of talk keep you from joining a sorority if it is one you really do like.

FSUZeta 01-17-2010 10:13 AM

good luck scarlet! i hope you get two invitations.

TriDeltaSallie 01-17-2010 10:25 AM

Something else to consider... Would you be proud to be a part of these national groups after graduation? I know it is hard to think beyond the immediate few years you will be on campus, but being in a sorority is for life. Every NPC group is going to offer all kinds of opportunities after you graduate as well. If you are excited about being in a sorority, think long and hard before you give up the lifetime opportunity just based on tent talk, rumors and other people's perhaps immature perception of a chapter.

gee_ess 01-17-2010 12:24 PM

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Originally Posted by TriDeltaSallie (Post 1886032)
Something else to consider... Would you be proud to be a part of these national groups after graduation? I know it is hard to think beyond the immediate few years you will be on campus, but being in a sorority is for life. Every NPC group is going to offer all kinds of opportunities after you graduate as well. If you are excited about being in a sorority, think long and hard before you give up the lifetime opportunity just based on tent talk, rumors and other people's perhaps immature perception of a chapter.


I really like this! Good comment. :)

thetygerlily 01-17-2010 03:10 PM

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Originally Posted by scarlet15 (Post 1885889)
So I went back to shocking pink and macaroni and cheese today.

shocking pink: I do admit that I went to this house nervously because now that I was down to two houses, and I really wanted to find some sort of connection. I happened to find one. The first girl I talked to was so nice and refreshing and the last two were great as well. The second girl, was awkward and seem detached and sort of uninterested but I didn't let that affect my confidence level. The skit was high energy even though it wasn't much of a skit. This house is gorgeous and fun and I can actually see myself in it. :)

macaroni and cheese: This house asked me back even though I placed it as my 3rd choice, and I feel like its because they need members because they are the smallest chapter. I actually had a great connection with 3 of the girls. I could sense that they were more nervous than I was and that was a little weird. But their skit was actually a skit and it was very well done. I actually liked this house and I don't understand why alot of people don't.

So at the end I ended up ranking both as my number one becuase I didn't get invited back to more than four houses. But I really am worried that one of them (mainly shocking pink) will cut me so I really won't have a chance to make a decision. I am trying to keep and open mind but ALOT of girls that speculate or are actually in my situation would rather drop out of rush than to pref macaroni and cheese and even though the chapter is small, I can kinda sense a genuine sisterhood and I wish that their stereotypes weren't so intrusive and unified.

I'm between a rock and a hard place right now, but I'll know what is going to happen tomorrow.

From the outside, it sounds like you have two houses with potential. Maybe not exactly the houses you expected, but you made connections and they each did something to impress you. TriDeltaSallie made a great point- membership does last a lifetime. Also consider that sometimes a smaller house can give you opportunities you wouldn't otherwise have with larger houses. I joined a smaller house (with some reservations) but was able to have incredible leadership opportunities that I otherwise wouldn't have had. So every choice really does have its pros and cons. I hope they both invite you back so you can get to know them even better. Good luck!

scarlet15 01-17-2010 07:08 PM

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kchaptergphib 01-17-2010 07:14 PM

Good for you for sticking with the process and continuing to see what Macaroni & Cheese is like. Best of luck to you!

SthrnZeta 01-17-2010 10:29 PM

Scarlet, I'm glad you're going through with philanthropy round. I had a similar experience and was only asked to pref at one chapter and I ended up getting a bid and joining a wonderful sisterhood and national org. I was skeptical all through recruitment but looking back, I'm proud to say I'm a Zeta. PM me or IM me on this screen name on AIM - I'd be happy to tell you about my experience. Good luck!!!

preciousjeni 01-17-2010 10:51 PM

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Originally Posted by scarlet15 (Post 1886115)
So, unfortunately I was also cut by shocking pink. My roommate was also cut from everything except for macaroni and cheese and she is choosing to withdraw. In my heart, I want to see, still, what macaroni and cheese is really about. And I'm sure that whoever doesn't drop out this round wants to too and maybe I'd rather be with the people who want to join a sorority for sisterhood rather than image.

So im going through philanthropy round, regardless, with an open mind.

Good for you! You could very well wind up in the midst of your best college experience.

xomanadaxo 01-18-2010 01:00 AM

I think you're very wise...chapter "images" on campus are fleeting and often change within your four years of college. The bonds of sisterhood you form in your sorority last a lifetime. Best of luck!

livelaughluv 01-18-2010 02:51 AM

stick with it! speaking from experience, I almost did what your roommate did (well actually not almost, I DID do it but then quickly undid it) and I have found a group that I already see as my home after just a few short days, one I never thought I would love. And despite the stereotypes, everybody who sees my letters tells me how much they love so-and-so who is also in my chapter. The system most often works

FSUZeta 01-18-2010 09:13 AM

what a shame that your roommate withdrew-you two could possibly have ended up as new members together.

good luck with your remaining parties.

scarlet15 01-18-2010 04:05 PM

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thetygerlily 01-18-2010 04:11 PM

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Originally Posted by scarlet15 (Post 1886413)
So i went back to macaroni and cheese today and I was hopeful, yet slightly unenthusiastic about going. But I was surprised. The philanthropy craft was cute and the same girl that I talked to was really nice and bubbly. I walked around the house (they gave us a tour) and the house is really gorgeous and pretty with big windows and lots of light in all of the rooms.

At one point of the conversation, one of the girls told me that she knows that the chapter is small and that she knows that there are stereotypes about the chapter, but she also knows that the sisterhood that they have radiates and is something that she could never live without. She told me that she understands how I feel right now and wanted me to know that she felt like she already knew me becuase we had so much in common. Then she gave me a hug and then I felt it. I finally felt like I was falling in love with this chapter.

When I returned to my dorm and friends, they were talking about how they got various sororities and they were also talking about how the were not invited back to macaroni and cheese. And I was wondering why that could have been happening. I finally realized that despite what I said about keeping an open mind, I was the one being shallow minded. These sisters, weren't just inviting me back because they needed more members, they were inviting me back be they liked me and they connected with me. And this made my decision all the more easier.

Pref round is in two days, and I could have never been more sure. :)

Wow! It sounds like you had a fantastic time. Normally it's Pref that brings that kind of "this is it" moment when you're unsure. When do Pref invites go out- or do you already know? Good luck and I hope you get the mac & cheese pref invite along with an incredible time at Pref.
PS- if you haven't already, read my PM- I talked about your last point although I didn't know it would come to fruition so quickly :D

LucyKKG 01-18-2010 04:12 PM

Aw, I'm glad you felt a connection with macaroni and cheese! Good luck!

AZTheta 01-18-2010 05:15 PM

You are the second PNM in the last few days who has "figured it out", IMO. Despite all the "tent talk" and stereotypes, and the horrid, ugly, mean, nasty things that I've seen written on some of those gossip sites (one visit was enough, thank you, don't need to go back there, uh uh, no way), the bottom line is that each and every GLO is able to offer a meaningful lifetime connection to any PNM, IF you are willing to meet half way.

I want you to know that I consider myself fortunate to have friends from almost every sorority (not all, haven't met anyone from a few houses yet). It doesn't matter to them that I was an XYZ at QRS University. Who cares? What does matter is that we share a common Panhellenic bond, and a common experience, and common values. I've been able to help them along and they've been able to help me (my current work position came through a referral from a Kappa and an AChiO!). There are awesome women on these boards; I've been lucky enough to meet one face-to-face, and we're developing a friendship. I wasn't in her house, she wasn't in mine, but her people are my people, and vice versa.

Being open and willing to hold to the values and standards that our founders established has made all the difference.

I'm sending positive thoughts that you will be extended an invitation to Preference, and that you will find what so many of us have found through our Greek affiliations. All the best to you.

SthrnZeta 01-20-2010 01:11 PM

Today's Pref right??? So excited for you! I had a similar experience (you can read my story here) when I went through formal recruitment - PM me or IM me on this screen name on AIM, I'd be happy to tell you about my experience and lend an ear if you need it.

SthrnZeta 01-20-2010 01:14 PM

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Originally Posted by AzTheta (Post 1886439)
You are the second PNM in the last few days who has "figured it out", IMO. Despite all the "tent talk" and stereotypes, and the horrid, ugly, mean, nasty things that I've seen written on some of those gossip sites (one visit was enough, thank you, don't need to go back there, uh uh, no way), the bottom line is that each and every GLO is able to offer a meaningful lifetime connection to any PNM, IF you are willing to meet half way.

I want you to know that I consider myself fortunate to have friends from almost every sorority (not all, haven't met anyone from a few houses yet). It doesn't matter to them that I was an XYZ at QRS University. Who cares? What does matter is that we share a common Panhellenic bond, and a common experience, and common values. I've been able to help them along and they've been able to help me (my current work position came through a referral from a Kappa and an AChiO!). There are awesome women on these boards; I've been lucky enough to meet one face-to-face, and we're developing a friendship. I wasn't in her house, she wasn't in mine, but her people are my people, and vice versa.

Being open and willing to hold to the values and standards that our founders established has made all the difference.

I'm sending positive thoughts that you will be extended an invitation to Preference, and that you will find what so many of us have found through our Greek affiliations. All the best to you.

Well-said and absolutely right!

ThetaDancer 01-20-2010 01:49 PM

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Originally Posted by scarlet15 (Post 1886413)
So i went back to macaroni and cheese today and I was hopeful, yet slightly unenthusiastic about going. But I was surprised. The philanthropy craft was cute and the same girl that I talked to was really nice and bubbly. I walked around the house (they gave us a tour) and the house is really gorgeous and pretty with big windows and lots of light in all of the rooms.

At one point of the conversation, one of the girls told me that she knows that the chapter is small and that she knows that there are stereotypes about the chapter, but she also knows that the sisterhood that they have radiates and is something that she could never live without. She told me that she understands how I feel right now and wanted me to know that she felt like she already knew me becuase we had so much in common. Then she gave me a hug and then I felt it. I finally felt like I was falling in love with this chapter.

When I returned to my dorm and friends, they were talking about how they got various sororities and they were also talking about how the were not invited back to macaroni and cheese. And I was wondering why that could have happened. I finally realized that despite what I said about keeping an open mind, I was the one being shallow minded. These sisters, weren't just inviting me back because they needed more members, they were inviting me back be they liked me and they connected with me. And this made my decision all the more easier.

Pref round is in two days, and I could have never been more sure. :)

Happy to hear this! Good luck with pref :)

twinkle555 01-20-2010 03:14 PM

Yay!! Im glad you felt a connection with the sisters of Mac and Cheese...have fun at Pref tonight!!

scarlet15 01-22-2010 01:03 AM

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