Guys, is it true....Myth Busters
 

Okay, I was just going to ask a question but then I thought this might be a good place for others to ask their myth-y questions, too. Pick each others' brains. There are a couple threads like that, but they're all about sex so there's no where for me to ask my question so I'm making a new one.

Is it true that, if a guy doesn't call in the first 24 hours after he gets your number, he's just not that into you? That if he waits 3 days, a week, whatever that he's "playing the game" and not really interested?

Depends on the guy. Holy sht give the guy a chance to breathe, you're talking 24 hours here. Any chick that wants a guy to call her within 24 hours of giving out her number, has gotta be horny as fck. Anything more than a week, that means he doesn't give a sht about you. So, find another guy.

Its not true. It may mean something or nothing.

You have to look at it in the context of behavior over time.

I could like a girl and call/text or not call/text depending on my mood, what i have planned etc. Significant time could go by.

The only difference is if I actually say I will call/text. Then I will out of courtesy whether I like you or not. And I have a policy of always returning calls and texts because its just rude not to.

I miss you James! Why haven't you called/text me? ;)

Actually it would be nice to see you on GC more often...

Is this just a random question or is this a guy you're interested in? If so, did he just give you his number only, or did you exchange numbers with him? If you exchanged numbers, why don't you call him? If he doesn't call you back within a few days after you've contacted him or left a voice mail, then you've got your answer. He's not interested. If he likes you, he'll call. If he doesn't then don't waste your time, there's more guys to choose from. If he shows he doesn't give a sht, then why should you?

The answer to your question can't be proved one way or another. Because it can't be solved through some kind of scientific experiment, and there's no right or wrong answer, I'm simply going to tell you to stop worrying, live your life, and if he calls, he calls. If he doesn't, you'll already have handed out your number to a few other guys while you were "waiting" on him. And please don't think this is my way of saying "Go be a slut!" :p ... but handing your number out to a guy means nothing until there's some kind of communication following the initial meeting. Until that happens, go find other "potentials".



Elaine: It's all in your head. All she knows is she had a good time. I think you should call her.

George: I can't call her now, it's too soon. I'm planning a Wednesday call.

Elaine: Oh, why? I love it when guys call me the next day.

George: Of course you do, but you're imagining a guy you like, not a guy who goes, "Oh no, I don't drink coffee late at night." If I call her now, she's gonna think I'm too needy. Women don't wanna see need. They want a take-charge guy - a colonel, a kaiser, a tsar.

Elaine: All she'll think is that you like her.

George: That's exactly what I'm trying to avoid!

Elaine: But she wants you to like her!

George: Yes, she wants me to like her, if she likes me, but she doesn't like me!

Elaine: I don't know what your parents did to you.

Not true - some guys wait a few days just as a matter of practice (or because they've seen "Swingers" too many times), and some guys call the next day. It may not mean anything, and there's no set and fast rule for it.

Back before I got married, sometimes I called the next day, and sometimes I waited a couple of days.

yeah, it all depend on the mood, how busy i'm or i just plain forget to call the girl. could mean something, could mean nothing.

No, its not true. If he had a good time, he'll call, usually in less than a week. Things happen and if he's really interested he'll call back, if only to explain why he didn't call sooner.

That's been my experience, though. You can tell if someone is avoiding your calls. If that's the case, ditch the number and move on.

Yep.

I'm generally not going to call on a Sunday if I'm hung over from the night before - no matter how well we hit it off. It's just setting things up for failure. If we meet at an event on Thursday, it might take a few days to actually have some time to catch up - I might have plans after work on Friday, then Saturday's bad, then . . .

It's just not something that is "hard and fast" - pay more attention to when and why he calls than to any sort of temporal relationship, especially for the first few calls. Is he only calling on weekends? Does he always want to do something, or is it just to chat? Does he shy away from meeting your friends, or you meeting his friends? Even these don't "mean something" automatically, but each bit adds together and you can start to figure it out.

Life is not a Rubik's Cube.

See, I don't understand this wondering business.

If I want to talk or hang out with someone, I will call them. If I don't, I won't. I assume this is the same for men. If a guy's not calling me, great. Then I can move on to other people.

WHY IS THIS SO HARD TO FIGURE OUT?! :mad::mad::mad:

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lol

Sometimes

I think it also depends on the night you met. If you met the guy on a Saturday, what is he going to say when he calls you the next day? Chances are he won't be asking you out on a date for that night. I think if you meet someone over the weekend, and they're interested, you should hear back from them by mid-late the following week.

I have little to no tolerance for dating "rules."

I make my own, and if people follow them when they're trying to get me interested it tends to turn me off. Call if you want, don't call if you want. Wait three days, call me the next day, don't call for a week. I don't really care.

Of course, it takes a lot for me to give a guy my number. And I don't tend to date people that I just meet - there has to be some sort of interaction beyond the first meeting before I give him my number (and almost always out of some sort of necessity).

You are a lawless dater

It's true. I also burned all my bras yesterday. Right after doing the laundry, cleaning the house, and cooking dinner.

Really? Are you really asking if "it's true" that any one action/inaction is always indicative of the same intent, across an entire gender?

Are you really in college? And where did you get this information? Is it from the movie "He's just not into you" or whatever it's called?

If you are going to give out your number, and can't handle waiting an entire day or week or whatever, ask the dude if he actually plans to call you. Otherwise, just forget about it. If it happens, it happens. If not, then I guess "he wasn't that into you".

There. You made me say it. Smack me silly!

Semi-random. There is a guy I'm interested in who (yesterday) said he'd "call me" and it made me think of this thing I read in Steve Harvey's book. He said that if a guy waits longer than 24 hours to call, he's not into you. I would think 3 days or something like that would be more appropriate. 1 day just doesn't seem like a lot of time! So I took it to the men on GC to see how much truth there is to it.
The last time I got one of those was when I was 14. :o
No, I'm not in college, I graduated 2 years ago. For the rest, see the above comment.

That's a crock of sht. Harvey can fck himself for all I care. Don't believe that sht. I like Ksigkid's response the best. If you have his number, don't be afraid to call him. You'll be able to tell by the tone of his voice if he's interested. Go by your first instinct too. I hope everything works out.

Half the time, (speaking personally) the reason why we play the game even when we are into you is coz of the overanalyzing women typically do like (oh he's so desperate) and blah blah

Whether he calls a day from that night or a week from then doesnt show whether he's into you or not (i hate the term, so over-used lately...damn that movie)

I know personally of instances where a dude would call the next day, and no a dude wasn't into her...just cushioning a sweet ass before the pummeling.

I think if hes not into you, he is not going to call at all. If he calls at all, and is not drunkenly calling for some late night ass, then he is probably into you.

bumping because I'm bored...
 

LOL

life was sooo simple then.

#flashingbacktoPleasantHillElementarySchool

Haha you're bored so you bumped a 5-year-old thread? :p

Gosh, I forgot all about this thing. It's supposed to be a fun "mythbuster"-type thread but no one else brought up a silly myth to ridicule.