Should I tell her?
 

I seem to have a bit of a problem and it is history behind it so please be patient...
My best friend of 9 years is married to a man (we'll call him Jack) that I never agreed was even a merely good candidate. He is a cheater and I have always suspected such, though I never really had any proof. My best friend (we'll call her Suzie) Suzie has had men that flirt with me or make gests towards me and I let her know. Suzie gets mad at me and tells me that it is something that I have done. (I believe it is her lack of confidence)Anyhow, I went to Suzie's house yesterday and Jack's mistress answered the door IN HER UNDERWEAR with him following close behind. Jack begged me not to say anything remarking, "(Suzie) won't believe you because you know she thinks you want me." It is true that Suzie feels threatened with me around Jack, but its because Jack has made gests towards me and I told her... OMG! I just don't know whether to tell her or not? I can't stand seeing my sister with such a poor excuse for a man. S.O.S. :confused:

What is a gest?

Lime green = no. hell no.

Gesture

funny... NOT REALLY. Apple Green wasn't avaliable for font color option.

That's better. We know you're an AKA. :)

To answer your question, tell her and wash your hands of the situation. If she gets pissed at YOU just tell her to handle the info however she chooses. She may cut you out of her life and that's probably better for your life.

:D still young can't you tell? Thank you for your input its just besides my family (LS's/sorors included) she IS my only friend. I guess you can never move forward unless you leave the past behind...:( I will take your advice into consideration.

I agree. You're an AKA, and that's cool, but that font color is VERY hard to read.

But to get to your question, YES you should tell her. It's up to her whether she believes you or not, but you can't do anything about that.

She may appreciate the info and she may not appreciate it. Be prepared for both responses.

I say to tell her because you were THERE. It's not just gossip. If the info were to surface later, you'd be hardpressed to explain why you didn't tell her.

I can't recall EVER seeing a friend's spouse cheating and not telling my friend. I recall hearing that a friend's spouse was cheating and not telling my friend.

I tend to not take a poster (and what she has to say/ask) seriously when the font's in lime green.

I know I'm not the only one.

To the OP, GreekChat does not offer the color Buff, which is one of my sorority's colors. You don't see me posting in Yellow.

I'd totally put you on ignore.

Okay,
I am leaving you all so that I can take her to dinner or somewhere private so I can tell her. (Sigh) Be with me. Thank you again-

LOL...that setup may be a bit dramatic.

That's actually pretty.

DreamPearl edited her post. :) I wish her well.

Yeah I hope things do go well for her - that's always such a tough spot to be in and it seems to happen a lot more than one would think - from both ends.

It's at times like this where the camera part of the cell phone would come in handy. If she doesn't believe you, there's always the show Cheaters.

Tell her so she doesnt end up on Cheaters

I'd say something (I've had to do it before) because of the public health aspect. Once it happened that they had an open relationship, but I'd want to know if I was potentially being exposed to STDs (emotional betrayal is a whole other issue).

QFP just because. :p

Don't speak too soon. She found out yesterday. Who knows what will really come of this.

But don't concern yourself with the rest of this. Go back to minding your business. Be there to love her no matter what she and her husband decide to do.

Yeah I am done with that and on to planning my future. Cheers to marriage (when it is with the right person).

i know i'm late to the party, but this is also my philosophy. Kind of like the safety drills from elementary school - if you SEE something, SAY something.

i know how hard/akward it must have been to tell her (and unfortunately i know how humiliating it is to be on the receiving end of that news), so to preserve your friendship just step back.

lime green jello?

Now what threw me off was the fact that the 'mistress' answered the door?!?!?! :confused:

Kinda hard to believe she was totally unaware of his 'creeping'.

She's probably been in some form of denial for a while...maybe not about this mistress, but possibly others?

I think that's kind of evident by her reaction "In my house?" It's not that she was surprised he was with someone, her surprise was that they were in her house. I don't think my first reaction when finding out someone was cheating the first time was *where* they were cheating.

She is ready to move on too fast to not have known. Ready to file for divorce without confronting him?? ....nah.....she knew even if she had not witnessed it personally.

dreampearl08....your eyewitness account only verified what she already knew was going on.

It's also good if you read the whole thread before you respond, so that you'll know that she already did, three weeks ago.

It is not, however, good to advertise your business in your signature.

I do believe that the signature is a violation of the terms of service.