sex... i need advice asap!
 

So there is this guy (we will call him Chris) I have known since 7th grade, I am now a sophomore in college. We have always been friends and nothing more, until this past October when we went to this party with some friends and after that night things went from friends to more than friends. We have so many things in common and things will be made official (boyfriend-girlfriend not marriage) sometime closer to Christmas (I heard from one of his friends)

Recently, the past two weeks we have been talking sexual things. He knows I am a virgin (thats right the only 19, almost 20 year old virgin left on the planet). I plan[ned] to wait until marriage but I don't thing that's going to happen. Last night I gave in to my feelings and said it is very possible that it will happen soon. I won't say what else we spoke about :D

My question is, how do I know if this is the right thing to do? He is a lot different that other guys I have messed with and i hae never felt this way about anybody else. I am simply tired of waiting to get some, i have passes up I don't know how many guys, but this one feels right.

Any advice?

P.S- I promise you he is a good guy. I wouldn't give up my virginity to some random loser.

Advice


1. There is a Dating and Relationships forum that this would be perfect in and you can use this link to find it:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/fo...play.php?f=206


2. Make sure he uses a condom if you are that pressed about getting some.



...are you Scottish by chance?

Give it up. GC gives the best sex advice.:):D

no im not scottish

are ye sure? :)

yea im sre. nowhere near being scottish

Oh...ummm ok lassie.

I hae figured it out!

Virgin or untrained, you will never know until you try it. The best you can do is love yourself unlike any other.

And like others have said, please use one form of contraception and one form of barrier.

Look, you know it's going to hurt. So, ummm stretching is a good thing here. You won't really know your "erogenous zones", welp, you just not going to have that this go round. I'd say 3-7 times before your areas are pleasurably heightened. If not say after 10 times, then your "stimulus package" just has to be reached another way... Kinna what floats your boat kinna thing...

Here is an expressive place that might assist you...

I wouldn't recommend toys at this time--like the Durex Ring, it sounds like he may be unsure of the potency of his equipment, these things don't come with manuals, etc.

Just enjoy yourself with this person. The key is, if you can find intimacy with another person without touching or intercourse, you have a special thing...

Try to have an enriching experience. If your psyche is hurt, then you will know.

What about a specific loser?

No you're not. I was 4 months shy of my 20th bday when it happened for me (I thought I was going to wait too), believe me you arent the only one out there. You'll know when it's the right time. Don't do it just to do it, but if it feels right, go for it. He's not sleeping with some other girl on the side is he?:rolleyes:

Thanks, sister - I laughed so hard I started wheezing from that.

Oh my god, me too!!!!

And OP, if you're real, if you have to come on teh intarwebs and tell all of your most personal business because you need assurance you're ready, you're not ready.

i actually didnt know there was a dating and relationships forum until phrozen1ne told me. that is in response to your "I guess you didn't like the advice you got in the other thread you posted in D&R:" comment.

i could atually care less about other's comments and advice. and i really dont like your ass. you made yourself look dumb, try reading up on previous comments before making accusations about mine.

just got reminded of my short fuse. let me stop now before i say something crazy that may hurt some feelings...

Wow KSU - you having a bad night? Two snarks in one night - I don't know if I can handle it.

figured what out?

Um, you're gonna wanna check yourself here. You do NOT want KSUViolet on your bad side. TRUST ME.
Yes, well evidenced by your coming onto a forum and ASKING EVERYONE FOR THEIR COMMENTS AND ADVICE.
You more of a boob gal?
HAHAHAHAHAHAhahahahahahahaha. Silly n00b.

Oh snap. I guess you told me. Don't you have finals or something?

nope i been done almost a week now, thanks for your concern smart ass

[quote=nittanyalum;1755869]Um, you're gonna wanna check yourself here. You do NOT want KSUViolet on your bad side. TRUST ME.

check myself for what, a mean GC message? dont care at all

Yeah, ok. Your response in the other thread and your recent responses here -- you're a troll.

Or an idiot.

You choose.

ok im an idiot, whatever makes you feel good.

love to make those who share their feelings on chat boards and talk shit online, feel good about themselves. whatever i can do to help

Nah, you're a troll.

Saaayyyy... you wouldn't happen to know anything about guano or rainbows, wouldja?

OMG. When the snark comes out, it comes out full force! Yay!

You know...I am sure there are 25 year old and older virgins out there. I bet there are even people on GC who are saving themselves. And that's totally okay to wait until you've met a specific loser to *ahem* lose it to. I mean as long as he meets all the specific criteria one sets out for a loser, why not?

So think of any guys you've known since 7th grade...then imagine doing it with them and thinking of what they were like in 7th grade, LULZ for days.

I'm sure there's a facebook group or a message board for virgins in their 20s who can talk about waiting for true love (or is it true love waits?). I have plenty of guy friends, and yeah, I am not interested in seeing any of them naked.

I'm told that the LiveJournal community for Virgins over 25 is THE place to be. I'm sure they'll make exceptions for those not meeting the age requirement.

OOOOOOOH

I'm loving the snarky KSUViolet!:D

Hmmm...

Remember to use romatic songs.

I suggest you try Akinyele. He writes romantic songs to get u in the mood.

There is middle ground, you know.

Ever hear of a technical virgin?

Well..wait...aren't you the one asking total internet strangers for advice on getting your cherry popped?

I mean take out an ad if you need it that bad.

If you paid enough you can get the job done correctly.

and BTW, I left u the link to the D&R site not Phrozen1

We don't look that much alike...geez

Figured it wa he speart if ye waur Scottish. http://i166.photobucket.com/albums/u...ottishflag.gif

Funny how I wondered the same thing. :rolleyes:

I'd suggest anal.