Deal Breakers?
 

Looking at one of the other threads, I saw someone comment on something that would have been a deal breaker with me. Is there anything that you noticed during Recruitment about a GLO - no matter how silly - that made you less likely to consider it?

I'll admit, I was completely turned off by pins with skulls & crossbones on them! :rolleyes:

One group was all blonde. I'm a blonde, but it weirded me out.

I didn't go through NPC recruitment, but if I had...an organization that embraced Jefferson Davis as an honorary member would not have appealed to me.
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I had a hard time picking which one of two groups to cut. I ended up cutting the group that didn't make paddles for each other. My first memory of greek life was looking at my older sister's paddle, and I really wanted one too. :)

one group was all blonde except two girls and they were all dressed in black. it just kind of creeped me out.

Now, Phi Mu...no offense, but at 17, I HATED Pink! I like it now, but at that age, there was no way in hell I was gonna run around in pink all the time! I really liked the Phi Mus at my school...they were good girls. Just too pink! Ha!

One group was all brunettes and that was too weird for this blonde

It came down to pref night and had been invited back to all the houses from the night before. I had my first choice for sure, and equally liked 2, definitely wasn't interested in the 4th.

I put my first choice down, and decided in between the next 2 because one was all blondes and the other was all brunettes. I went with brunette since that's what I am.

One of the really popular chapters was just too big for me. It didn't help that their philanthropy night was in a small room with tiles. All the noise was bouncing off the walls! Also, I knew they were smaller nationally (I had done a lot of homework) and that just didn't appeal to me. Even though I heard amazing things about their new member program I just was not meant to be there and I knew it. But they are still amazing ladies! (And still just as large a chapter!) :p

When I was talking to two members of a sorority during the information night, one of the girls said "I don't talk to anyone in XYZ, in fact I don't have any friends there. I guess I should talk to them, but I have no interest."

Ummm..yeah you don't tell that to a PNM. That pretty much soured me on that sorority.

"We don't raise as much money for our philanthropy thing like other sororities do, but we give them funner (sic) activities to do."

Was it the "philanthropy thing", the "funner" or the actual contents of the sentence?

One group had too many girls with False Eyelashes. Even though I wear makeup, it's very natural. The falsies wierded me out.

There was one sorority where all the members I met had tongue rings. It was a trend back then and lots of girls had them, including sorority women. However, it just seemed like EVERY single girl in that chapter was pierced and it really weirded me out. Not like I thought I'd have to get my tongue pierced if I joined. Just not my cup of tea. Other than that, they were really nice, fun girls...

PS: Later on, many sororities on my campus adopted a policy that you had to replace your piercing with a flesh colored ring or remove it entirely during recruitment. I guess more than one PNM noticed!

opposite...
 

...my story is kind of the opposite. I kept a smaller chapter over a "better" chapter becuase I heard they served ice cream floats day two...yummy! :)

It was my first semester sophomore year and I had a new RA who was a member of a sorority. She asked me a couple times to attend some recruitment parties, but I couldn’t go to the first two that her sorority held. She told me that there were still another two weeks of recruitment left, so I figured that with that much time, and at least five more events coming up for each sorority, if I did actually decide to go to some events, I still had plenty of time to do so.

Early the following week, either on Monday or Tuesday night, I was sitting in my dorm room. I was on my computer, and it was probably close to 1 a.m. My door was cracked a bit and the lights were off, as I had just come in from hanging out with friends, and I was about to get up to go to the bathroom to get ready for bed. Then my dorm room door opens and someone comes in. I assumed it was one of my roommates so I didn’t think too much of it, and I kept my back to the door and to the rest of the room while I continued to look at my computer screen.

Then I realized that this person simply walked in and plopped themselves down on a bed without turning on the lights, without saying a word, without changing into some pjs, or doing any other normal things that people usually do between the time they enter a room and get into bed. I turn around to find that someone is sleeping in my bed! (I sound like Goldilocks! haha)

I get up to see who it is, and it turns out it’s my RA. She was drunk and she walked into the wrong room and laid herself down on the wrong bed. What’s even more ridiculous is that my room was on the complete opposite end of the hall from where hers was. Clearly she was incredibly lost... and incredibly hammered.

I then had to wake her up, take her to her room, get her some water, and put her to bed.

The next day when I saw her, I asked her if she was ok. I reminded her of what happened and she kinda laughed and said, “oh,” and basically just walked away. She continued to ask me to go to recruitment events, and was completely surprised when I joined another sorority.

DEFINITELY a deal breaker for me!

I was at a rush party (yes, rush), talking to one of the actives. During our conversation, I mentioned something about having attended church the day before.

Remember, this is Arkansas State. The different church groups all have large, active student groups that have small buildings on campus for meeting and hanging out. Going to church is very acceptable and even encouraged within the GLO chapters.

Active member asks where I went to church. I told him that I attended church of Christ.

"Church of Christ? We'll get you over that. You'll stop going to church in no time."

I politely declined any invitations to their rush parties after that.

I've not been a fan of pink (or super girly things in general...don't get me wrong, I wear dresses, straighten my hair, talk about guys, and occasionally paint my nails, but I hate One Tree Hill and doing aerobics together makes me ill) for a long time. I also didn't want to be in any group where the way I looked/acted was monitored to the point where I would feel like a part of the group MORE than an individual. These were deal breakers to me in regards to one group in particular on campus. In another case I saw the same issues to a smaller degree...but the fact that their skit was about shoes was my deal breaker! Sounds stupid, but I couldn't help it. Not my thing.

One of the sororities I dropped was a "top" sorority on campus that members of my current sorority thought I would want first, so that probably saved me from getting dropped in turn by everyone else as a lost cause. In the two I preffed, I didn't choose one because the girl who was preffing me said I would "feel right" about my choice when I made it and I looked around to a room full of crying girls...that was a deal breaker right there. I wasn't close to shedding any tears. Ironically it was that girl who helped me pick my chapter...she's a complete sweetheart and made it hard, but in the end I ended up in the right place.

There was this one sorority that the pre-recruitment tent talk was really strong for. I remember really wanting to be an XYZ. However, their recruitment chair must have been absolutely nuts that year...she'd match up certain PNMs to actives but with the dumbest "coincidences." I realized that I had met an Anna that day, my friend Erin had met an Erin, my friend Kelly had met a Kelly...I mean, come on. It was ridiculous. I was pretty aware that I was being matched up at the majority of chapters I was at, but at all the other chapters it was based on my activities or hometowns or things like that. But matching up by names? Everybody was joking around for the rest of the day between parties saying things like "Oh. My. God. That's my name TOOO!" because everybody had heard it.

There were other stupid things too...I had written something about Audrey Hepburn movies on my Facebook profile and one of the actives steered our conversation straight towards Audrey Hepburn so we could "randomly discover" this "crazy coincidence" that we shared. I almost felt like being, "Oh, I don't really watch Audrey Hepburn movies" just to confuse the active. Of course I was gracious, but the matchings were just so trivial and obvious that it left a bad taste in everybodies mouths. They had a difficult recruitment that year in that most of their top PNMs wanted to go elsewhere. I know I released them on Day #1 in favor of chapters that were deemed less strong. I am a huge proponent of matching but this story proves you had to do it intelligently.

One of the houses I preffed at sang "The Rose". All I could think about after that was Napoleon Dynamite and the Happy Hands Club. :rolleyes:

There were two strong chapters that were predominantly blonde. I dropped one of them because they were very tan. I'm brunette and very pale. The thought of tanning beds or sitting around at the beach was a deal breaker for me.

I believe one of AOTT's symbols is a sheaf of wheat. Well at pref, there was a sheaf of wheat on the table. I didn't realize it was wheat and thought it was straw or hay - two things that I am deathly allergic to (like throat closing up break out in hives allergic). While everyone was crying at the pref party and listening intently to what was going on, I was focused on the wheat and staying as far away from it as humanly possible. I decided I couldn't be an AOTT because of this.

Not so much a deal breaker, but rather myself as a PNM not paying attention.

This happens ALOOOOOOT to a certain fraternity here who cooks really good catfish and hushpuppies on the last night.