I have know personally two girls who de-pledged and got their first choices the second time they went through as sophomores. I also know one girl who de-pledged and she was released from all houses her sophomore year. So it just depends. Ole Miss Rush can be cruel to upper classmen, but it can be very kind as well. "Rush is not a guaranteed process," to quote a former Greek Life Director here many years ago.

Also remind her that you get out of a sorority what you put into it. I'm not saying she's not trying but it's easy for new members to sit back and not get involved then say "I don't fit in." The more involved she becomes the more people she'll meet and the more fun she'll have. The chapters at Ole Miss are huge so I'm sure she can find her niche in the house if she looks hard enough!

It's funny because I recently had my high school reunion and I realized that my entire high school was smaller than the average Ole Miss sorority! We only had about 190 girls in the entire school and about 40 in my class. It was an all girls boarding school so it essentially was a sorority! Lord knows I wasn't friends with all 40 of those girls but I had my close friends and that's all I really needed to love it there.

By dropping a sorority and re-rushing doesn't necessarily mean she will get a "black mark" on her, but it will be a huge factor on whether or not they will extend her a bid. Also, just because she has good friends in different sororities doesn't mean that the sorority will give her a bid.

when i joined my sorority, i felt very overwhelmed and not really a part of it, but i stuck it out. homecoming came and i helped with the float, i started sitting in the sorority block at the football games, sisters living in the house came downstairs and visited with me when i had door/phone duty. i made an effort to go over everyday for lunch and dinner. it got better, but it took some work and a little time, and it was so worth it!

if your daughter has any pledge sisters living in her dorm, she should make a point of getting together with them to walk to and from the house. she should pop into their room for a visit sometime. making a huge chapter smaller will help her to feel more a part of it. she should also share her feelings with her pledge trainer/new member coordinator. i'm confident that that sister can allay your daughters concerns, and give her some extra attention if that is what she needs. it is too soon for her to be dropping out, but if her feelings don't change, i would suggest that she resign before her initiation. i hope that doesn't happen, but that way the avenue would still be open for her to go thru recruitment next fall.

Right after pledging, I went through the "doubt" too. But, the more I participated with my chapter and got past "perceptions", the more I felt the affirmation that I made the right decision.

Make sure she gives it a chance.