New Member Pin!
 

Hello! I haven't written in a week because i've been so busy but...

I get my pin tomorrow!!

Chi O took an extra week to recruit and I'm guessing we're going to have a lot more girls so that we end up having nearly 60-80 girls (which is around the same number as the other groups). I haven't picked out what to wear yet but I'm excited to get my pin!

I hate this. Active members, DO NOT fill your video with inside jokes. That is all.

Also, am I the only one who does not think that Chicago is in the NE? DePaul didn't even cross my mind as an option.

Well, one of my chapters is at DePaul so I didn't even think about the NE hint, but Chicago always seemed "Middle America" to me! Can't wait to visit again in a couple of weeks.

Enjoy your colonization experiences, lillady!

As a native Chicagoan, I NEVER considered Chicago to be in the Northeast. Maybe the OP is from Joliet or something. :)

Maybe she meant the NE of IL??? This native Peorian is confused as well.

NE quote
 

If you read the 4th post, the NE quote came from someone else. Then lillady85 tried to correct it a few posts down.

Yes, LilLady never said it was the NE. Someone else said that and I think that idea coupled with the Ramones names made people think she was in NYC or something...

Hope you are enjoying the new member period, LilLady!!!

I first thought that she was at Carnegie Mellon, because they have 4 chapters and one colonizing. Plus they are a city school in the North, but it's kind of open to interpretation if Pittsburgh is the Northeast. I was convinced it was CMU because of the ambiguity that she created in her posts.

Hello ladies

I have a question because I've been doing a lot of thinking lately.

It's been a few weeks since Bidday and I've been going to chapter and whatnot but I have started to feel as if something is missing. I don't know but...sometimes it feels that I'm missing out on a lot since I'm not usually on campus, I don't have classes with any of my sisters and even though I try talking to others...it just seems like I'm not clicking.

I don't want to drop and leave this behind, I was really excited to join but...I don't know. Is this normal? Should I feel kind of left out? I'm trying to go to activities but, for example, there is an event today that I wouldn't have been able to go to had I not already dropped my class that was during the same time.

I'm going to stick it out and see what happens but I'm feeling left out a lot. :(
Adieu, till next time.

This is normal. Especially if your college doesn't have a regular type of campus where everything's self-contained (I'm guessing this since DePaul's in Chicago).

It's also normal since it's not just you or your pledge class that is new - EVERYONE is new since you're a colony. It's hard to feel bonded to a group of girls when you've only known each other a couple weeks!

Search on "colony" under the Recruitment and Greek Life forums - there are quite a few colonizing/charter members on here and I think some of them have had the same feelings as you. :)

Great response, 33girl.

LilLady, continue to go to events and make a point to sit next to/talk to different people each time. With what, 80 new members...you will form a strong connection with some more than others.

your feelings are normal. i am the original general advisor(now recruitment advisor) to one of zta's newer chapters, kappa tau, and have been with the chapter since it was colonized. i know from a close observer what you are going thru.

being a member of a colony is tough, but is a unique experience that many young women-indeed, many sorority members-do not get the opportunity to experience!! you all are not only doing the standard new member stuff, but are also having to learn how a chapter runs-you are starting from scratch. we lost a few girls who just couldn't deal with all the requirements. we filled those spots, and lost a few more, and filled thosespots before the colony was ready to be installed. the same thing may happen to your colony. i CAN tell you that the girls who did stick it out were so happy they did and so proud to see their names on their chapters charter.
i told them more than once that they were the only founders that i have ever met.

this years senior class are the remaining founders of the chapter. i think it really hit home for them during the final pref. ceremony a few weeks ago-they all got quite emotional, and the president, who had a speaking part, apologized, saying that they all had just realized that this would be the final pref. ceremony they would participate in. they have gone thru so much together, and come so far. what an amazing group of young women!!

have a talk with one of your chapter advisors;let them know your feelings. i can promise that you are not the only one in the colony feeling that way.
are you all doing fun, sisterhood activites? games like "the newlywed game" or "jeapordy" cna be a fun way to learn more about your sisters and the fraternity.

one thing that the tlc's(traveling leadership consultants-ztas who recently graduated and travel around the country visiting chapters and colonies) suggested and the colony implimented was to have the girls draw names for "crown sisters"-sort of a substitute big/lil sister program, since in the beginning there were no older sisters to serve as big sisters. they also had rotating groups within the chapter that got together once a week to get to know one another better-the group decided what they would do, and agreed on a time that was good for them all. they could grab a coffee, go bowling or just sit together in the cafeteria for lunch.

when you are able to attend colony events, what if you "rush" a few of your sisters? go up to a girl that you have not had much interaction with, and strike up a conversation with her. after an appropriate interval, excuse yourself , go up to another sister and do the same thing. it will take some nerve at first, but if you are persistent, it will pay off.

hang in there!! it will be worth it.

FSUZeta, you just made me cry! In a good way!!!!!

aww, thanks tigerowl. we are all greek together :)