What the fuck?

I don't like greasy s-curl dudes

I can't date someone freakishly tall or really short 5'9 - 6'2 is my preferred range. Bad teeth, bad breath, greasy hair, and obesity are also major deal breakers for me.

dude, good responce

That's our point.

We don't live in la-la-land so someone talking about what "should" is unrealistic and dishonest, in most settings. We all know about "should."

Not true. My parents did not have an issue with the way my siblings and I dressed. We wore the popular 80s and 90s hip hop trends. However, the hookers and thugs themes never resonated with us so we didn't partake in them.

We aren't simply typing about styles of dress and whether people find them pleasing to the eye. It has already been established that we aren't just typing about that. We're typing about the meaning behind looking like a hoodlum and those who confuse that look with being "hip hop." Or whatever excuse otherwise good kids are using these days.

LOL. If he's shorter than me its an issue. Im 5'3. If he's extremely tall (like 7'3) its an issue. I cant be literally at my mans side. With my head right next to his hip. Talk about some weird wedding pics.

I am well aware that style of dress particularly the "thug/hip-hop" style leads some people to believe that the person wearing it fits a certian stereotype. The issue is that some people (typically young people) believe that this should not be the case. What I wear does not define who I am. I make the clothes, the clothes do not make me. As such, people should be able to assess me for who I am and not for what I wear.
Will they? Probably not. Should they? Yes.


Your post above ruled you out. I stand at 5'3 thus you were ruled out for not having enough sense to know that short women are the best. Its short men you have to watch out for. lol.

I guess I shouldn't short change you

Har-de-har-har.

This wasn't funny...
...Until this. Lol.

And DS you're the one who'd be short changed. lol.

HEhehehe....!!

Dude, are we the same person? I'm 5'3" and just let a guy down for being too tall. I'm sorry, but 6 foot 9 is just not the business. My doorway's smaller than that! :eek:

you all must be afraid to climb up and enjoy the air...what, are you afraid of nosebleeds?

Alright, I'm like 6'4" and apparently to some thats freakishly tall. I mean I suppose I can understand things out of peoples control being deal breakers. I don't do big lips, it doesn't happen.

I like climbing trees, not men (though I've seen a few who were well worth the climb;)).

Nothing wrong with big lips...

Fixed that. lol. I aint scurred! 6'4" isnt that bad. Anything over 6'6" is just too much. I have a friend who is 6'1" tall and I will gladly refer any guy 6'6 and taller to her because I cant and I wont.

Yes.

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Originally Posted by I.A.S.K. (Post 1791611) <---- Did the thug style resonate with a lot of others? Was it very common

With the thugs. When Naughty by Nature made prison jumpers cool, they didn't become a big trend for most of the teens. That trend was mostly popular in the 'hood and in videos. Not at school. I wasn't in the 'hood. There were some baggy trends like Kriss Kross that the kids followed. Adults hated that. But they didn't hate it because it was hoodlumish, aside from the pants hanging really low factor, it just looked dumb and unnecessarily rebellious. LOL.

Exactly.

And just as the way you dress doesn't make you, it doesn't make "blackness." This discussion began because he tried to speak on how "black people dress." We wouldn't have cared if he was just talking about himself or some folks.

I think it has become painfully obvious by now that this DeltaDevil guy is not the brightest highlighter in the pack. Thus for him to speak about blackness or how black people dress would not bring forth anything worthy of consideration. We all know that there is no one person who could define blackness so there's no reason to even engage in the ignorance that is this DeltaDevil boy. I didnt address his comment because as far as I was concerned he was talking about himself and his excruciatingly small sphere of existance and frame of reference. Since he's been told more than once to refrain from making comments of that nature again nothing more needed to be said about it. My issue was with the thought/opinion that the idea that people should be judged based on who they are and not what they wear was somehow dishonest or unrealistic. I did not agree with it and said so.

Soooo.....uuuuuhhhh...if he dressed in a suit, it wouldn't help him any huh?

Not at all. I happen to judge people based on their character. His appears to be seriously lacking some key components. He is illequiped to deal with me.

LOL

gooniegoogoo to you, too!

Lol, quit puttin' words in my mouth!!!

Hmmm whatever you say partner

I was just reading between the lines. lol.


ETA: Dr.Phil..... lol.

No, lightning.

Let's get back to the lists!!

Add to mine:
no sense of humor
unable to debate
unable to support himself on his own
doesn't like kids

The issue at hand was this young man that apparently lacked the sense to be both quiet and to use what sense a person should have.

However, IASK, people are judged by the first impressions that they give. It's just a matter of fact. People judge you when you first walk in a door whether it is a conscious or unconsious judgement, it just happens. Most people just either learn to put them aside and deal with the matter at hand or they allow their issues to transfer onto others in a covert or uncoverted manner. It just happens.

As far as the dressing style, when I was growing up, since I went to school in the country for the last 5 years of going to school, the kids dressed in a "country" manner. We went by the school dress codes. We dressed like kids in the late 80s and early 90s. As far as me, I dressed according to what I sewed and my parent was never "upset" or had any "issue" with the way that I dressed. Some would call it conserative and some wouldn't. However, being a big girl, I knew what looked good on me and what didn't, I knew what to sew for myself and what not to sew.

However, the issue is about making that first impression a decent one and not one that would have people wondering "WTF" was going on in their head that morning. And the typical impression of someone wearing a "thuggish" look is that they are a "thug," regardless of if they a brainaic or not.

I can't do an Oscar Proud head. The square-ish shaped head with dinner plate ears. Can't do it.

I also don't do impatience. In his attitude or body language. If you're always huffing or slouching like a little kid not getting his way, then you're out.

She said oscar proud!!! I am TOO THROUGH WITH YOU!!! lol

Then I'd have to counter with: I don't want anyone who is as delusional as Dijonay is regarding Sticky!! DIJONAY!!!! lol

STICK-AAAAAAY! :D

I have always said my ex had "a head like Oscar Proud and teeth like Wolverine." :eek: I tried so hard to prove that looks didn't matter to me, but they do. Physical attraction has to be there if it's gonna work for me. If that makes me shallow, then fine. At least I'm not "Mrs. Proud."

Wow:eek:

-Shorter than me (I'm 5'4", so haven't run into this issue yet) or too tall for me. (Most guys I've dated have been around 6 feet, and they have to stoop to kiss me, so for someone my size it's hard to date someone over 6'1" or 6'2".)
-Obviously makes NO attempt to be healthy. I don't have a supermodel body or washboard abs, but you can tell I work out regularly. I expect the same from a potential boyfriend. They don't need extremely defined muscles or even any very visible ones, they just need to be toned enough to look like they are in fact active.
-Bad hygiene.
-Any guy that is wearing make up or hair gel.
-Skinnier than me.
-Clothing that obviously hasn't been washed.
-Clothing that is thug, and overly label-obsessed wardrobes of any kind. I am also biased against extremely preppy dressers, but will consider it if they are able to branch out at times. I prefer guys that know when they need to look sharp but aren't obsessing over their clothing otherwise.
-Extremely overweight. Harsh, but there has to be physical attraction, let's face it.
-Obviously spray tans.

Bad teeth
Extremely overweight
Dirty nails
Unkempt hair (whatever he is rocking, it needs to be neat.)
Disgusting feet can be a deal breaker.

:thinking:

I like how some women think they have choices and can be so selective...until they slowly reach menopause...then desperation sets in...

I've got a good 25 years to go, but regardless, I'm the kind of person that doesn't need a man (or anyone else) to be happy, and I'm damn glad.:D