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Also, "back of the line" doesn't matter, because typically, these will also be the last PNM's to leave the party, as well.
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I can't imagine not doing that. Say you have 1500 PNMs and have to cut 70% after first parties. Can you imagine what that cut session after first parties would be like if you hadn't pre-cut?:eek:
At most campuses, there aren't that many women you have to cut for grades (the easy part) so somehow you have to figure out how to select the rest. Some sororities have their alums in the big cities handle a lot of it. |
I have to say RFM on our campus has been helpful in growing the community. We would always hover around total of 70 then after RFM was implemented our community now hovers over 100. That even includes adding a new 2 new sororities!!
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Fall semester, Chapters at Miami Univ (Ohio) host open houses and sprite dates in their suites so that freshman and sisters can meet each other prior to the FR during winter break.
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I have stated in this thread earlier that I like RFM and I think for the most part it has done what it was supposed to do. I also agree with the issue of having to cut heavily after a 20 minute round. Chapters release a lot of outstanding women in that first cut because it is all about first impressions when you talk to some one for 5 minutes or less. The last one in isn't always the last one out. I find that the girls who have a really good first round are more the "party" girls who have very good social skills. If you are shy or reserved first round can kill you.
The other part of RFM that I think is misleading is Campuses that don't allow PNM's to suicide (SIP). I might be wrong but it seems that more girls have the scenario with one or two Chapters they love and a second or third they can not see themselves in. Single intentional preference when allowed, I believe, helps not only the girls, but the Chapter. I know of more then one Chapter that makes quota on paper but only has half the New Member class show up. That is a no win for every one involved. Either way the Chapter probably isn't going to make quota and that is a problem. |
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I think the way it's SUPPOSED to work is just fine... the rush counselors should counsel against it but not to the extent of saying anything like it's not allowed. If a chapter is going to end up with a girl on their list who shouldn't be there it doesn't help anyone, and artificially inflates the numbers. But I hate to lose any sort of effort to get girls to go through preference with that last choice chapter because as we've said here a million times, minds can be changed.
I guess I'd like to keep making them go through preference, but not restrict against SIP. We can't be believers in "freedom to associate" AND force girls to pledge chapters they don't want. And making them sign a bid card is the same as making them pledge as far as I'm concerned. |
What's the harm in making quota on paper and then having only half show up for bid day? Is the chapter somehow better off if their initial list only had half the women?
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The only requirement of RFM is that you maximize your options in order to be guaranteed a bid at the end. You are free to not accept an invitation but you have to understand that your chances for a bid just went waaaaaay south if you don't.
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Members of successful chapters often have no idea how discouraging, demoralizing and depressing it can be when you work really hard to pledge even close to quota. You finally do it, and then the NMs insult you by refusing to even show up. AND you're back to desperate COBing. Not to mention the entire campus decides you're the one they like to kick. |
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I like that Alabama and schools with big numbers are not only doing two Round 1 days, but adding extra parties to lower the number of PNMs at each party. |
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Plus, getting half of quota you can explain away ("our nationals really cracking down on grades and we had to cut more heavily," "we are restructuring," "quality not quantity" etc etc) and kind of BS to maybe make it seem like your idea. If you get quota of 50 on paper but only 25 of them show up, there's no way to get around it. Half the women you asked to join your sorority want nothing to do with you - even at the price of spending a year of their college career not participating in Greek life. As far as the smaller chapters having too many to handle in parties - couldn't you accomodate that (without adding pointless rounds for the "everyone we invite will want us" chapters) by just adding a few more rounds and giving some chapters more breaks? Of course, there's the danger of PNMs figuring out that the more popular chapters are the ones with less parties (i.e. self fulfilling prophecies). |
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It depends, obviously, on how big your chapters are, how large quota is, how your campus does the reveal, etc., but we've had plenty of stories on here about women who came to love their second choice. Again, I'm not saying that women should be pressured into putting down a chapter they DO NOT WANT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES, but I think that there are a good many women filling out bid cards who are just so SURE that they are going to get a bid from XYZ that they haven't really thought through what would happen if they didn't. I can think of several threads about women who got their second/third choice, cried and went home immediately, and then came here looking for advice because they realize now they should have stuck it out. |
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