Dionysus, this is the problem. The fact that I'm not surprised is what's sad. She brought up that it's socially unacceptable. I mean, if she doesn't care if it's socially unacceptable, then why even bring it up?

I totally agree with KSUViolet. Why should anyone let an outsider determine who they should or shouldn't be with? Why should race even matter? The mumbling, the eye rolling and lip smacking.....ya know.....Whatever! :rolleyes:

That's SO stupid to me!

How is that? All I said was she ain't gonna find a dude like the one she wants. She said no drama. What dude has no drama? I have a kid, and if she doesn't want the dude to have kids that's one thing, but a dude with no drama? She's dreamin'.

There are men and women with no drama. You might not able to relate to that but that sucks FOR YOU.

Shave some excess fat off of your life so that you can do better.

Everyone has drama. I think her problem is she's not lookin' at the common denominator in her bad relationships with these dudes. The common denominator could be her. But everyone has drama. You're pretty naive if you don't think so.

You're pretty troubled and dramatic if you think that living life requires drama.

I'm just sayin' though. Who doesn't have some kind of drama in their lives? That would mean we're all perfect. Maybe she needs to clarify what she means by dudes with drama then.

I'm positive she doesn't mean she expects a perfect man with an absolutely perfect life.

You never heard people reference removing the drama from their lives?

Yeah, I heard of all that, but that could mean anything. She made it seem like she wants a dude who doesn't really have a past. We all got that. I wasn't trying to be negative, I was just being realistic. She'll be single for a long time.

We all got issues, including her.

That's cool and all that you don't mind interacial relationships, but expect you and ol' girl to have some mad drama.

I didn't think you were trying to be negative. I thought you have low expectations. :) Some people need drama to feel special and alive. ;)

Everyone has a past of some sort because the past comes before the present and the future will make this present the past. And everyone has concerns of some sort. That doesn't translate to "having a past" (in the automatically negative sense of the word) and "having issues" (in the dramatic sense of the word).

I'm feelin' what you're sayin' here, but I don't feel my standards are high or low. I have to set them to fit me. What I'm tryin' to say is I'm not perfect, so how can I say I want this in a girl and that in a girl. I was a player in my past. Still am light weight. My girl has two kids, one from me and one with some other dude before me. When I first met her, I wasn't down with the kid at first. I had to ask myself how can I hold that against her if I got a past myself? That's all I'm sayin'. I just think it's a trip when a dude or how ol' girl said she wants this and that, but she ain't lookin' at the common denominator. Her. But I feel what you're sayin' though.

LOL

for real

high.

why settle?

:unsure:

no such thing as close.

and we have great credit.