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does anyone know if you can change your user name with out creating a new account?? I want to add my new family name in there some kind of way!!

Congrats to you and GFB!

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Originally Posted by UWO_2007 (Post 1524313)

We had a great night.... after being tackled by my new family we had pictures, then went back to the house and had cake. We got our 'goodie' bags and shirts. We then went to all of the fraternity houses where all the guys sang songs and gave us flowers... we had a great time.
There was a little bit of a ruffle because one of the other sororities did dirty rushing with a large group of girls... basically telling them to suicide and they'd pick them too.... and didn't, so a HUGE number of girls got dropped... it was not only sad for those girls because it ruined the whole experience for them and didn't get placed, but it upset the other sororities on campus.... I'd say they convinced a good 20 girls to suicide... and only took 6.

ya know, i never understood why a group would do this... it doesn't make any sense, makes them look bad, makes the PNM's feel awful... nonsense I think...well.. anyway,

CONGRATULATIONS to you and Gamma Phi Beta! yay!

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Originally Posted by UWO_2007 (Post 1524417)

does anyone know if you can change your user name with out creating a new account?? I want to add my new family name in there some kind of way!!

you have to PM John, the head administrator. good luck with that. :p

You can always put the family name in your signature.

Congratulations to you and Gamma Phi. I am happy you found a wonderful home.

Congratulations to you and Gamma Phi Beta! I'm glad you were able to find a chapter to call home, and especially a chapter that you've loved all week!

That really sucks about the chapter that dirty rushed so many girls. I can't believe they would tell them to suicide! What would a chapter have to gain by telling them to suicide? I could see if they were just like "Oh put us first, we love you" (dirty rushing yes, but nowhere near as bad as telling girls to suicide).

To UWO_2007: Congrats on Gamma Phi! They're a really strong sorority all across Wisconsin, and I'm sure you'll have fun meeting your sisters from all over the state.

To everyone else: I'm reading this thread for the first time, and you guys have been insanely rude to a rushee for no reason once again.

For the record, I don't think that the age gap between someone in their mid-20s and an 18-year-old is necessarily a big deal. Maturity gap, sure. But I know 28-year-olds who would fit in just fine in a pledge class of 18-year-olds, and I know 16-year-olds who have already bypassed that stage in their lives. Age ain't nothin' but a number. I don't know how old the original poster said she was, but if she's having a successful rush and getting invited back to houses, it seems clear to me that she's clicking with these ladies on some level. If she was being a condescending buzzkill, they wouldn't be inviting her back.

Furthermore, if the rushee is at a Wisconsin system school that is not UW-Madison, it is unlikely that her pledge class will consist entirely of 18-year-olds anyway. Many of the system schools have smaller Greek systems with less traditional pledge classes. Sure, there will be plenty of 18-year-olds, but there will also be a decent amount of upperclassmen and juniors rushing, both transfer students and non-transfers, and it's not out of the ordinary for these students to be older than is traditional for students to be. I rushed at Madison, the biggest and most traditional Greek system in the state, and my pledge class was still almost half sophomores with a smattering of juniors.

I really wish people would not try to speak for campuses where they aren't familiar with the Greek system.

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Originally Posted by sugar and spice (Post 1524838)

I don't know how old the original poster said she was, but if she's having a successful rush and getting invited back to houses, it seems clear to me that she's clicking with these ladies on some level. If she was being a condescending buzzkill, they wouldn't be inviting her back.

I think I recall reading in another thread that she was almost 30.

I'm so happy for you. Do you have any bid day picts yet?

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Originally Posted by sugar and spice (Post 1524838)

I think you're reading too much into these posts. I didn't find that anyone was rude. Posters simply warned the OP that it may not be possible to pledge some groups and to look into it. They also pointed out that it may be difficult for someone who is nearly thirty to identify with 18-21 year olds (and vice versa.) No one got ugly. Some people expressed disbelief that age wouldn't be a factor, but that's their right. Apparently it wasn't the case with UWO_2007. She isn't in a such a different place that she can't make a bond with her new sisters. But...I think she is an exception not the rule! Congratulations, again, UWO!

I'm glad things worked out for you & you found a home in Gamma Phi Beta.

And I agree w/ AOIIAngel -- none of the posts were meant to be ugly or rude, just a warning that groups may/may not be able to pledge her or that she may find it hard to identify with 18 yr olds. Then there was some concern over some of the comments the OP made about wanting to work with them as a counselor type, but I think all that got cleared up too?

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Age ain't nothin' but a number.

I'm with you on this. If you recall my retro "rush" thread, I don't know if I mentioned it, but I was actually older than the oldest senior in the group at the time I joined. I'd also had a lot of tough life experiences that the others lacked that made me grow up a lot. Yet my age was a total and complete non-issue, even though I joined in a pledge class with members who were 17 and 18. In fact, the one time during my membership when I was really frustrated with the immaturity and lack of perspective of a group member, the problem member was a junior, and an officer.

I'm not saying that every group will ignore age like mine did, but age tells you way less about someone's maturity level than I used to think.
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Congrats and welcome.

Congrats to you and welcome to our sisterhood!!!

My chapter had a member who was a senior when I pledged; she was in her late 20s, married, with two children and was SUPER involved. She even allowed us to use her home for events, which was IMHO above and beyond the call of sisterhood. Reading your story I'm sure you will be an amazingly valuable sister!

Congrats again!