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Originally Posted by ladygreek (Post 1438881)

Yanno, that being said, when I was an interest, waayyy back when, before you were even a gleam in your Daddy's eye, I couldn't have cared less about the probate show (which was legal back then.)

Exactly. Any coming out ceremony of any sort was just a distant POSSIBILITY that I didn't think about.

I thought about what it took to become a member and the hard work I saw the Deltas doing around me. If we didn't have a coming out ceremony of any sort, it would've been all the same to ME.

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Originally Posted by quietriot (Post 1437329)

i'm thinking about rushing for a black sorority, and have been for like a year but i have social anxiety disorder and the idea of a probate show scares the crap out of me and has kept me away. do you think greeks would be sensitive to this, or would i just get written off for being scared and not outgoing enough??? i realllly want to rush, but also a lot of the time i seriously just can't physically take being the focus of a group and i cant imagine theres any way to get out of doing a probate show because its such a tradition

As a solo I know exactly how you feel about the whole probate/coming out show thing. I am a shy person so the thought of performing in front of the whole campus-and by myself at that- was terrifying to me. However, I was so focused on being selected and going through the process of becoming a Zeta that I had no time to entertain the thought of a show until it was time to prepare for it. At that point it wasn't even an option of whether or not I would do it. If was HOW I would do it. I can't speak for everyone else but when I thought about all that I had gone through up to that point, it gave me the rush I needed to go out and strut my stuff. I was not only happy that I did it but I was proud of myself for overcoming my shyness. It may not be that simple for you since you have a medical condition but I hope it serves as a little inspiration (or something). Like many others on this board have said though, make sure that your health is your priority. :)

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Originally Posted by ejay286 (Post 1439169)

Excuse me soror

I thought you were a Que, not a Delta. :confused:

I know, I know--that's a whole 'nother thread. *going to the corner*

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Originally Posted by ejay286 (Post 1439169)

Do I think she should be worried about more than just the probate show? Of course she should. But as a GDI alot of times that is all people see due to parties and the media (stomp the yard). My advice was that if she is to make it she will realize that there is alot of work to be done behind the scenes that she could have a very instrumental role in. Am I wrong or am I right?

You are wrong. Don't confuse Coming Out Shows with regular step shows. At a coming out show you are doing just that--coming out.

By the way many of us went to PWIs.

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Originally Posted by DSTRen13 (Post 1439155)

I thought that EJay said he was a Que?

Then he needs to sit his Neo Que ass down.

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Originally Posted by ejay286 (Post 1439169)

Excuse me soror, but I am a member of Omega Psi Phi Fraternity, Incorporated so TRUST me I know full well how an NPHC intake process goes, and plus i am a neo so the rules and regulations are very fresh on my mind lol. This thread wasn't about the intake process which is why I said she wasn't violating any rules. This thread was about if she makes it (which is the type of attitude she should have because who submits thinking that they won't make it) would her disorder hinder her?

She of course is confused about the process and I attend a predominately white campus and I have experienced some of the same questions? How do i get a bid etc.....but that wasn't the actual question being asked.

Do I think she should be worried about more than just the probate show? Of course she should. But as a GDI alot of times that is all people see due to parties and the media (stomp the yard). My advice was that if she is to make it she will realize that there is alot of work to be done behind the scenes that she could have a very instrumental role in. Am I wrong or am I right?

Ejay, sit your Neo ass down, low man.

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Originally Posted by Reds6 (Post 1439276)

Ejay, sit your Neo ass down, low man.

I just wanted to say that I like this post a lot. :)

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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS (Post 1439175)

Me to. I don't think probating crossed my mind when I was trying to become a member. I guess she thinks stepping is a requirement.

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Originally Posted by Reds6 (Post 1439276)

Ejay, sit your Neo ass down, low man.

I support this post.

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Originally Posted by 33girl (Post 1439277)

I just wanted to say that I like this post a lot. :)

LOL;)

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Originally Posted by ladygreek (Post 1439279)

I support this post.

LOL! He's posting like the Sand isn't still between his toes.

Haha trust me if anyone knows how to humble themselves as a neo its me, but pledging does not take away my right to an opinion, sorry if yall think otherwise.

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Originally Posted by ladygreek (Post 1438968)

We have had our fair share of trolls and pseudos on this baord, so for some of us who have been here awhile we are naturally suspicious. That is why my first reaction was whether or not this was a legitimate post. We have also had a fair amount of discussions about step shows being what caused folx to pledge xyz org.

We have a lot of first generation college attendees on here and other boards. But they have also sought advice from teachers, mentors, etc. from the org. of their choice. The fact the OP talked about bids also indicating a general lack of knowledge about the NPHC. Which led to further suspicion, because she seemed to know about the NPC process, but not the NPHC process.

So I asked the question, why are you interested ina NPHC sorority, which was never answered. So now I will ask a follow up question to the OP. What is your ethnicity?

Oh and if she was really serious about an NPHC org, why not post the question on that forum rather than Greek Life? Maybe, she saw the disclaimers?

i'm at a loss to understand why my ethnicity matters too, or really why anything all that specific matters in reference to my original question but since we're off on a million different tangents anyway, i'm black. and i think you were the same one who was skeptical because i referred to a "bid" and ohmygoodness nphc's don't give bids! ok, my bad. i wouldn't know, being that i'm not at all involved in them. i had no idea lack of knowledge was so offensive, especially during the process of gaining knowledge in the first place.
and i just posted this here because i stumbled across this website when i was researching nphc's on like, google or something. i didn't actually even look through the different forums or whatever, i just picked the one that had the most viewers and posted there in hopes of a helpful response.
and i'm interested because i've talked to a some members of different groups here and they seem awesome. is that a bad reason to initially be interested in an org? isn't that the idea that the people in your org are awesome and you make other people want to find out what else you're about? i can't claim to, nor have i claimed to be all-knowing in the area of nphcs and different organizations, or even freaking web forums.
annnd i don't understand what's so skeptical about someone who asks a question. i mean, did it sound like a fake question? it wasn't even that long. there wasn't even enough material in my original question to constitute any alterior motive at all. it was pretty much "i have anxiety, will people hate me?" and i honestly don't even know what any alterior motive could have been in regards to a question like that.
but sure, be skeptical people. i could be crazy. i asked a question! obviously i'm out to bring all of you down...with a question.

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Originally Posted by Dionysus (Post 1439173)

Who are you over there? The one with the pink donut in your avator? lol

No, that's not me.

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Originally Posted by ladygreek (Post 1439265)

I thought you were a Que, not a Delta. :confused:

I know, I know--that's a whole 'nother thread. *going to the corner*

LG, this time I won't make you put your had on. j/k

But for real....I think you were reading my mind.

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Originally Posted by ladygreek (Post 1439279)

I support this post.

Hey...I'm a neo too.

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Originally Posted by quietriot (Post 1439348)

Sweetheart, how old are you? And do you have ANYONE in your extended family that can answer some of these questions? Like a cousin, uncle sister's brother's wife's cousin's great grandmother?

And I would start with this site:

The National Panhellenic Council: http://www.nphchq.org

It would help you give yourself a "clue" and some vital knowlege. And there's always Wikipedia...

You know there's a difference between SORORity and FRATERNity? Right?

And with anything else, the NPHC organizations are about grades and units.