Can they not use their own computers to check on invites? I can't imagine over 1000 girls trying to use the school's computers all at the same time!

Wow, times have changed quickly! As recently as 1998, when some of my HS friends were rushing in the South, the no-contact rule was still in place at the SEC schools.

I never understood it from the inside when it was part of my hometown culture, and I've never understood it from the outside looking in. More than age or generation (Some of the stories about girls transferring to a big school once they've pledged a prestigious house are true, and they've been happening for a long time!), it's this odd aspect of the culture.

One of my HS friends once told me that she HAD to be in an Old Row house at UA because her mother was in this house and they always did date parties at with a certain fraternity and this is how her parents met! If she didn't join this house, then she wouldn't find a good husband and her opportunities to be in the Krewe in our hometown and to do JL were kaput.

I know at my school, the PNMs go with their PX group to the lab in the student center to get their invites. Each group goes in one at a time.

They are not allowed to check their invites on their home computers because our Panhellenic wants them to be with a PX when they get them. That way, if the results aren't what they expected, they have to drop someone, or they just plain don't know what to do, the PX is on hand to give them advice. Also, god forbid a girl have a technical problem while trying to get to her invites.

Maybe Auburn does their invites this way for the same reason?

Prefs:

Red-DZ, Zeta
Yellow-DZ, Phi Mu, Zeta
Blue-AXO, AOII, KKG

Now the weird thing is that somebody must have misreported Blue's results to us yesterday because AOII was not one we were given! Oh, well!

The moms are appalled at the pain they've witnessed, this morning more girls were crying to the point of throwing up in the bushes or behind trees.:( We'll all be happy when the girls are (hopefully) safely ensconced in sororities.

Aww, no DG prefs. :( I hope they all get the perfect houses!!!

I know where they'll go if they get their first choice but last year an Auburn PNM we knew had everything going for her and got her third, where she's happy but she and her mom were shell-shocked for awhile. Her mom kept asking me, 'How did that happen?" and of course, we'll never know.

I'm glad I'm not an active at AU right now, haggling over the bid lists. Well, I'm glad I'm not a PNM either--

I think we could use a Theta too! :) Unfortunately not from Auburn though.....I'm hoping we come back there soon.

He he he...not from around here, are you? Carnation is right, when you're 18 and you've been under that kind of pressure all week, hysterics and throwing up in the bushes is all part of it. I know of plenty who immediately transferred from that school...after they didn't get their #1 choice, much less no invitations. And yes, quite a few girls do get cut from everyone. With that many groups going for a certain percentage of top girls, it's bound to happen...along with the human and computer mistakes, too.
Give those girls in hysterics and in the bushes 48 hours, and things will be better.

No news from Auburn yet...of course bids won't be given out until 4 PM my time and I don't know what time the girls will be notified if they get no bid. Now if one of them should call and tell me that they got the terrible call, I'll say to them:

"Okay, Rainbow Girl, you have several choices-

1. You can immediately register for COB and see what happens.
2. You can get very very active on the AU campus and rush as a soph.
3. You can transfer (some girls have been accepted at and registered at more than 1 college in case this happens) and rush at the other place in a few weeks."

And we'll discuss each option. I know that some people will be dying laughing or at least shocked about number 3 but Greek life is so important to some people that women do arrange for that option. When I was growing up in Texas, people who didn't get in to a group they wanted at, say, UT, would transfer to TCU or SMU with their deferred rushes. When I was at Auburn, girls transferred to Troy or another medium-sized school. People can make fun of that all they want but there are other things in other parts of the country that are equally important.

If Greek life is what you've grown up with and always expected to do, college life without it can be unthinkable. Both watching my DZ cousin have a fabulous time with her sorority and visiting my grandmother who lived in the middle of sorority row at the U of Arkansas made me know that I just had to be Greek. Two of the Rainbow Girls are legacies and have wanted to be Greek for years.

Y'all please say a prayer for the Rainbow Girls! And all of the other Auburn PNMs :)

Wow I am nervous for them - I bet the "not good" phone call is between 12 and 1. So, if you don't hear from them after that then it is good news. Also, if you feel like telling them before the "call time" to be open for "snap bidding" they might be more open to your call - Just don't call between 12 and 1 :rolleyes:


eeek I am excited for them - I wish I were there.

I know I posted this somewhere here in the past but for that hour, my rush group was huddled together waiting to see if the phone in our area would ring because supposedly it had meant that one of us wasn't getting a bid. The phone rang and finally someone got it and our rush counselor said, "Just wnted to tell you that you all got bids!":eek: We wanted to run over and smack her upside of the head for scaring us.

You've got to be kidding me. People actually do this?

Yes this happens in the south--my friend whose daughter went through rush, (big smart southern school) said the day after rush (recruitment) was over, there were many cars packing stuff up, with Moms crying etc. Didn't matter that they got into a sorority, it had to be the right one--I'm glad I never had to experience that!

That is beyond ridiculous. Sorry if I offend anyone. What exactly is the purpose of going to college...being in a sorority??? Edited to add...sorry this is in your thread Carnation...maybe a new one can be started to discuss this. I had absolutely no idea that this happened.

Of course not, but it is not for us to question anyone else's life style choices. I think the notion is a bit silly, too, but as was explained, this is how some people are raised and choose to identify their system of values. It isn't up to us to judge.