I seem to recall that is what it was called at UK as well.

we did lavaleering at RAdfforrd but If I Met a special girl, I'd let her wear my pledge pin if weren't engaged and then get her the sweet heart pin if/when popped questionnn..

Back when my parents were in college at Ohio State University, my dad was in AEPi and when he and my mum got engaged, he pinned her at spring formal. It's a romantic gesture, just like laveliering a girl. It's just something cute that her fellow sisters can kind of join in. In some houses when you are laveliered, the sisters pass around a candle for you and when you're pinned, you get a bouquet of roses. It's sweet. I don't see anything wrong with it.

Cheers
Liz

I was reading my husband's Varlet, (KA Order pledge manual) and it talked about this issue. It said that the badge should be worn by initiated members, mothers and wives. Maybe I'll pull his out and wear it-would be great;)





No not really. It would feel weird and seem disrespectful. I did love wearing his lavaliere though.

Our badges were just ordered/created, so I can't wait to wear mine (after recruitment, of course ;)) I get a little peeved by people asking me if my boyfriend gave me my lavalier (no, these are MY letters, spank you very much). But I know when I get married I plan to either a) be wearing my lavalier b) have my pin on my dress or on my bouquet somewhere. A wedding dress is pinwear , right? ;) If my fiance was greek and given me his pin or a sweetheart pin (i've seen some of those suckers, some have more diamonds in them than my mom's wedding ring!:eek: ) I'd probably have it somewhere either on the bouquet or on my dress somewhere.

So... on this subject (and I'm a newbie and fellow lurker as most of you call us):

My ex gave me his pin and when we parted ways (not a pretty picture) he told me he did not want anything he gave me back, including his pin. He swore he'd send back anything I sent his way.

After reading this I feel obligated to give it back and not let it collect dust in my memory box. Should I just send it to the frat house and address it to his president? Keep it as he wishes? We're not on talking terms any longer but I still am a nice person and don't want to keep something that isn't mine.

I think your heart is in the right place, but I think that might cause more drama than what it's worth. If it's not killing you, keep it.

What about sending it back to their (inter)national HQ instead?

That's exactly what I was going to say.

Or you could sell it on ebay.


















JOKING, PEOPLE.

Shoooooot -- think I wouldn't? ;)

Last year in my chapter, we just brought back Candlelight. One of the sisters put an anonymous note in the president's mailbox to let her know that it needed to be done at the meeting. We all got in a circle and passed a candle around 3 times. If you blew it out the first time, it meant you were lavaliered. If you blew it the second time, it means you were pinned. And if you blew it out the third time it meant you just got engaged (whether or not the guy was in a frat).

It was really cute when this happened. The girl had told her little, who gave her flowers once Candlelight was over and we all gawked over the ring.

I think the tradition is so cute!