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Originally Posted by tld221 (Post 1672688)

LMAO i totally read something more into that but maybe you just really like planets and whatnot.

:confused:

What were you thinking? lol seriously I wanna hear.:p

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Originally Posted by sairose (Post 428086)

I know this is so stupid to be posting my personal feelings here, but I just have held things in for too long.

And this is sooo corny, so I'm sorry. Please don't think I'm stupid.

It's just that it gets so lonely. I mean I've been single for 3 years and in this time have not dated anyone. In fact I've only been on one date in my entire life, and that's because I asked the guy. (The guy I went out with never took me out). I'm now 20, close to 21, this will be my fourth year in college, and I'm still alone.

And I know I'm not the only one not dating anyone. But it's so hard right now. Out of my original 3 friends I made at the beginning of my freshman year, 2 just got married and the other is engaged. Several other friends are getting married or are in serious relationships. I've gone to 2 weddings this summer and another one is tomorrow. It's not that I want to be married yet...because I don't...it's just that i wish I had someone in my life. Or at least a date...I've always wondered what it would be like to be asked out, and taken on a date. I've never had that.

I get so sad when I'm out with my friends/sisters and they talk about their boyfriends. And I get sad when I go to the movies with my friends and there's all these couples there and it reminds me how no one has ever taken me out.

There's been so many guys I have liked. One turned out to be gay, which absolutely crushed me. The others, if they found out I liked them, gave me the "I just see you as a friend" speech. One of my closest guy friends I have liked since I met him a year ago, but I'm not going to let him know that. What's the point?

And right now this whole stupid post sounds like a teenybopper writing into Seventeen magazine for help. So I'm sorry. But I'm really hurting. I don't understand...I have a LOT of friends and a full social calendar. I don't consider myself ugly. I am not shy (although I have a hard time letting feelings show towards guys). I am active in my sorority and in several performing ensembles.

I feel like I was meant to be alone. I feel like guys don't like me, and don't want me. I feel like I can't be seen as date material, but only as a friend. I've not talked to my friends about all this because they've all got boyfriends and a few are married, so how can they relate? Plus, when they're so happy, why depress them with my sob story? I've felt so alone in this and have fought back tears and put on a fake smile for too long.

Is it stupid of me to feel this way? I just feel totally lost.

I didn't read the OP this morning, but lol lol lol lol :D

I know this post is like 5 years old, but I couldn't stop laughing at the OP. Especially, what's in bold. I was already laughing really hard about something else, and now this. I feel sorry for her but she just kept going on and on whining about some sob story of how she can't get a guy.:rolleyes:

Looking for a box of kleenex from laughing.:p

lol :D:D:D

I think I'm just really tired from work. I tend to laugh at a lot of things when I'm tired.:(

The OP is funny to me as are most rants about being unable to find a date.

But NOTHING is funnier than you passing up a date to watch the planets line up. Too bad you couldn't incorporate that rare event into your date. You suck.

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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS (Post 1672835)

Too bad you couldn't incorporate that rare event into your date. You suck.

I tried to. I called him that day and asked him if he would like to look at them with me. They could be seen with the naked eye, but I told him I had a telescope and everything to get a better view of them. He got really mad about it, because he wanted to go to the drive in. Basically he wanted to park. Not watch a movie.:rolleyes: So, it's not like I didn't try. He was just being a jerk about it.

And I don't suck!

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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet (Post 1672685)

Making the co-workers off-limits, unless it is in your HR Code of Conduct manuals, then, you never know that on that special projects, sparks may fly...

I used to be against dating co-workers, that whole "S#!T where you eat" thing definitely went to heart. But, I realized--MOST of the couples I know now met when they worked together. Until I finally got it together to clean off my fridge, I had a birth announcement from a couple who met at work, as well as a wedding invite from a couple who also met at work. She was his boss! That said, I know of one situation where the work thing did not go over very well at all, but more so because the girl was crazy than because of the fact that they worked together.

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Originally Posted by christiangirl (Post 1672621)

LMAO! :D You know I had to put that out there.:)

To tld221. I posted the borders thing to get a reaction from CG. The barnes and noble CG, not the Captain Kirk CG.:rolleyes: We've had this borders and barnes and noble rivalry going on for a while now.:D

Anyway, if you go to church you might want to try one of the singles retreats. A lot of churches have them. Of course not to meet a man, but to learn and be around single good people. I agree with AKA_Monet. You never know where you'll meet a joker.:)

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy (Post 1672919)

To tld221. I posted the borders thing to get a reaction from CG. The barnes and noble CG, not the Captain Kirk CG.:rolleyes:

Ohhhh, you're so funny.:rolleyes::)

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Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek (Post 1672920)

Ohhhh, you're so funny.:rolleyes::)

I'm jus' playin'.:D

ETA: check your PM.

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Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek (Post 1672880)

hehe...then he sucks.

I belonged to a singles' ministry about 7 years ago. It wasn't a dating pool. It was just Christian singles who didn't have family responsibilities so we wanted to hang out. Very platonic environment.

It was fun but, again, singles' events are sometimes too obvious of places to find dates. The obvious places often don't provide what you need. I still say let your guard down in your normal routine (work, leisure, hobbies, etc.) and what God has for you will be for you. :)

i agree sometimes i get really sad and wonder why i am alone. its so nice out during the summer that i think i need a date so badly. in fact yesterday i watched a walk to remember with all the windows open at night but i just wanted to kill myself at the end. they were so in love and it was jamies first boyfriend!!! ive had four boyfriends this year alone and i cant seem to find mr right. i dont know maybe some of us are supposed to die a sad lonely death. i think ill go watch the notebook and cry some more.:(

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Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek (Post 1672880)

Basically he wanted to park. Not watch a movie.:rolleyes: So, it's not like I didn't try. He was just being a jerk about it.

I missed this one.
This was the same joker with the ju ju beez right?

Broke joker.:rolleyes:

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Originally Posted by RushLeader08 (Post 1673030)

i think i need a date so badly.

Girl, stop. This is probably why you don't have one--want it, but don't need it! And I thought about that movie yesterday--Not to be cynical, but I don't think he would've married her if he didn't know that she was dying. I can easily see him thinking "I'll be free to date again in less than 6 months, why not make her dream come true?"

Okay, I'd have to go through like 3 years of backstory to completely explain why I don't date men from church, so I'll just let the statement stand. Only PB knows the whole story and that took awhile to get out. :rolleyes:

As for work...IDK, I guess that's a good point that you never know until you try. But men keep getting fired for sexual harassment at my job. :eek: I think I'll stay away from them, too. However, I've decided to go to this year's ABPsi convention! Lots of young, talented black men, aspiring to be psychologists...I'm smiling just thinking about it! I know it might be like 70% female, though, so I have to step up my A-game. ;)

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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS (Post 1672959)

God has for you will be for you. :)

Well, that's all folks. This right here wraps up this whole thread. Good post.:)

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Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek (Post 1672880)

that sucks, you should find a guy that would watch planets with you