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As a IU mom of a sophomore also participating in rush, my advice to the moms and daughters who are wavering - accept your bid, try it. Tonight's going to be a lot of fun when you meet your chapters. If it ends up not being a good fit - you don't have to initiate, simple as that, but you may end up being pleasantly surprised. You are bound for a year to that organization regardless if you accept or decline at this point By signing your card, you actually agreed to accept your bid. If you don't initiate you can still participate in formal recruitment next year, but don't expect any miraculous differences. It will actually look worse next year if you go through recruitment and they know you declined your bid this year and Greeks do talk to each other. Good luck with your choices.
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No matter what, don't expect the houses you get back to change much unless you become BFFs with MANY members. Not just 1-2, but many. Houses will remember you from last year, and unless your excuse for dropping out was that you decided to move to Africa to deliver clean water...it won't win you any favors. |
Seconding what tlynn said.
And to add on, the new member period and active life are vastly different than the created environment of recruitment. PNMs need to take the time to try out houses and see what day to day sorority life is actually like after the emotional rollercoaster of recruitment. |
Thank you IUHoosierGirl88. I think TLynn and her daughter have their heads on right about IU recruitment -- going for the sisterhood experience and fun.
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Sending out last minute good vibes to all involved parties tonight!
After how crazy last year's IU thread got, I am asking for everyone's patience tonight. Yes, there will be posts that are not very politically correct and maybe a few that are downright unkind. Try to remember that emotions are high tonight. I have my snacks and am ready for the results to roll in. May the odds be ever in your favor. (Quick reference to last year's thread) ;) |
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Sorry, this was started by me. I was just seeing the same pattern over and over again. It gets annoying after a while but, as the IU alumna has asked--I won't post anything else about it. I love the reference. That's exactly what I'm thinking. It's very Hunger Games. |
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Please tell me that this is NOT what is happening today.... |
If she signed a bid card, she is bound for a year if any of the sororities she put down gives her a bid so she might as well try it out.
What makes me :rolleyes: at the IU discussions here, there and everywhere on the intraweb is the parents who on one hand are saying how horrible the current system is and how rude and awful the school and the sorority members and Panhel are to not fix it NOW, and then in the next keystroke are completely buying into the concept of the currently unhoused chapters being "less than" and supporting their daughter's choice to just say forget it if that's the 3 chapters she has left. |
^^^^ this.
You cannot condemn the system and at the same time buy uncritically into all of its worst stereotypes. Housing does not make a sisterhood, even at unique snowflake universities, no matter what everyone says. And I went to a school where chapter houses were a BIG DEAL. But I found out recently that one of the up and coming Christian sororities (unhoused) on my campus has upwards of 130 members..... Gorgeous, active, would be welcomed into all of the "traditional" sororities on campus, but the girls were given a different hand of cards and are playing them. Like I said, housing doesn't make a sisterhood. |
Wow, glad my daughter dropped out before the Hunger Games began (with snacks). She was not after top tiers and has not mentioned recruitment for next year. Just not her thing. Thanks for those who sent best wishes to her! I am a Greek Woman and know that it can be a great thing and had a great experience...but can't believe that so may are supporting such a destructive system.
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I have two daughters at IU, one in a housed sorority. I really believe that the un-housed chapters are just as valuable as the others. My daughter would tell you that living in the house has disadvantages. It is crowded and girls don't always get along. However, I can tell you that the general perception around campus is that the un-housed are less desirable. Congratulations to the mature, thoughtful young women who can see past this silliness. A lot of women at this age aren't mature enough to see it. However, I understand why this perception is so prevalent, when the sorority community at IU is so focused on living in the house.
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I don't think you'll find a single person here who "supports" this system. We all want it to change. But guess what? We don't have the power to do it. But we can be supportive of the women who go thru it with an open mind. And we can be supportive of our chapters in this campus and our national organizations who are working hard to bring them in line with other campuses and NPC preference. It doesn't happen over night...but thank you for thinking we're that good! Wish we were...
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