Again, I'm sorry. I usually look for spelling errors. As one gets older one tends to mess up with spelling. And when I am going to the "special" doctor the next day, I am in a tizzy.

ellebud, I would like to have your original post saved, because the message is so powerful. The thread got off track, but I think it would be useful to point PNMs to your post as recruitment draws closer and closer.

Spellcheck is useless, it turned Sincerely into Sensuously in a letter that my stepson wrote & bless his heart, he didn't know enough to know the implications. And don't even get me started on text prediction. It just turned Dubya into Ruby's in a text I sent, rendering the text completely nonsensical.

Oh, so true!

Words fail me. How much therapy is that poor boy going to need?

First of all, I am honored. If we can help even a single girl (or boy) going through recruitment, I am delighted. And sensously speaking: I am hysterical!!!!

There once was a man named Oedipus Rex, you may have heard about his odd complex. His name appears in Freud's index.

HE LOVED HIS MOTHER!

I <3 Tom Lehrer.

Ellebud, spellcheck or not, I always look forward to what you have to say.

And I hope that your visit with the "special" doctor goes well tomorrow.

I am now decompressing: I'm good for the next four months! And thank you so much for your kind words.

This one is for you Tiny Dancer!
 

Thank you! I may have authoritah, but I don't know how to do pictures.

It's cool, the authoritah is all your's!

I have one word WOW! I found this whole thread like a train wreck. I had to keep reading to see what she would say next. In my humble opinion, this is what is so wrong with young women going through recruitment today. (I'm speaking about a generation not necessarily this young women). Some of these girls feel entitled and don't think they have to work for a bid. There are 100's of women going through recruitment that have impressive GPA's (we don't care about your SAT score or your ACT score), beautiful, accomplished women with tons of activities and community service. When all things are created equal you start to look at other things. I'm sure that there are beautiful accomplished women who are dropped from houses during every recruitment and sometimes we drop them by mistake because we are human and tired and drop number 152 instead of 153. The point is you may think your the best thing since sliced bread, but the sororities may not OR they could think your the best and their "rush crush". They will make decisions based on first impressions and quick conversations. Sometimes we make the wrong decision and sometimes we don't. Recruitment is a mutual selection process and just because you think you fit some where doesn't mean the Sorority thinks you fit there. Research your specific school, ask a lot of questions and don't look to TV as a way to do research- a lot of people who are in the entertainment industry are not greek. Good luck to you. I hope you have the perfect recruitment. A word of caution though even the girls who are smart, popular and involved in high school have a less then perfect recruitments. Just ask my niece who was 4.0, Dance Team Captain for 4 years in HS, wealthy, blond and beautiful and would be the person I would pick for a life time friend. She was dropped from all the "top tier" or "popular" houses going into pref. Pledged a mid tier house after tons of tears and phone calls to me. Her beautiful sister followed 2 years later with the perfect recruitment pledged the same chapter and guess what?, the house is now a top tier house on campus.

I don't see how you can say this, when this seems to be the exact opposite of the advice we give when someone receives her lower choice chapter. It is quite rare that with the right effort, most PNMs can fit into and be happy/flourish with the bid that they are given.

There's a difference though. If you're not being yourself throughout recruitment to 'fake it' into the group of your dreams, then you're more likely to be unhappy than if you are yourself and get into a group that wants you for you. If you're not being yourself, even a positive, perky, social version of yourself, you'll probably find that you don't actually fit in.