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Prairie Bayou 10-20-2008 12:49 PM
You know, my son just rushed at Ole Miss, and being from out of state and knowing no one there, had no idea how it worked in Oxford. My fraternity has a chapter there and didn't invite him back for Saturday's pref party and I was disappointed....until I started reading here about how Rush works at Ole Miss. He got a bid on Sunday and accepted to a fraternity. I'm now totally thrilled for him because he is happy. In the end, that is all that matters.

Benzgirl 10-20-2008 12:56 PM
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Originally Posted by Prairie Bayou (Post 1733347)
You know, my son just rushed at Ole Miss, and being from out of state and knowing no one there, had no idea how it worked in Oxford. My fraternity has a chapter there and didn't invite him back for Saturday's pref party and I was disappointed....until I started reading here about how Rush works at Ole Miss. He got a bid on Sunday and accepted to a fraternity. I'm now totally thrilled for him because he is happy. In the end, that is all that matters.
Congrats to you and your son. I'm sure his college days will be very fulfilling and he will be an asset to the chapter.

ree-Xi 10-20-2008 02:38 PM
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Originally Posted by Elephant Walk (Post 1733179)
But if you stay in state, you could climb socially.

I understand where she's coming from. She feels like she raised an upstanding woman...if her daughter didn't make it into a top-tiered sorority, she feels like she failed raising her properly. It comes back on the mom. It's like raising a serial killer, you feel like you failed as parents. Sorority rush is the litmus test of proper raising. I sympathize with the situation.
:eek:

knight_shadow 10-20-2008 02:40 PM
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Originally Posted by ree-Xi (Post 1733400)
:eek:
Top-tier is serious business.




Like, murder serious.

MysticCat 10-20-2008 02:54 PM
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Originally Posted by knight_shadow (Post 1733401)
Top-tier is serious business.




Like, murder serious.
Like cheerleading serious.

knight_shadow 10-20-2008 02:57 PM
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Originally Posted by MysticCat (Post 1733410)
Like cheerleading serious.
I think it's about to get brought-en.

squirrely girl 10-20-2008 03:00 PM
oh its already been brought...



hehe. on a more serious note, if a parent is likening their child's "failure" at sorority recruitment to "failing a parent", then yes, I have to agree with them. If they are THAT concerned with recruitment results and would rather see their child unhappy, then yes, they have failed as a parent.

awkward1 10-20-2008 03:14 PM
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Originally Posted by Elephant Walk (Post 1733179)
Furthermore, if you do go out of state then your social standing doesn't really matter...you know? You're sort of that lost child. But if you stay in state, you could climb socially.

I understand where she's coming from. She feels like she raised an upstanding woman...if her daughter didn't make it into a top-tiered sorority, she feels like she failed raising her properly. It comes back on the mom. It's like raising a serial killer, you feel like you failed as parents. Sorority rush is the litmus test of proper raising. I sympathize with the situation.
What the Hell?? I live in the south and have two children in SEC schools who are Greek and I have never encountered this type of social pressure!!!! Going Greek is not the end all be all here in the south that some people are making it out to be. Plenty of kids from prominent families don't even go Greek and it isn't an issue at all. Sorority rush is not a 'litmus test for proper raising' and being in a top sorority does not mean you were raised to be an upstanding young woman and most Southerners are well aware of this. I wouldn't be surprised if the OP was a sock puppet and the master was EW.

Elephant Walk 10-20-2008 03:20 PM
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Originally Posted by awkward1 (Post 1733425)
What the Hell?? I live in the south and have two children in SEC schools who are Greek and I have never encountered this type of social pressure!!!! Going Greek is not the end all be all here in the south that some people are making it out to be. Plenty of kids from prominent families don't even go Greek and it isn't an issue at all. Sorority rush is not a 'litmus test for proper raising' and being in a top sorority does not mean you were raised to be an upstanding young woman and most Southerners are well aware of this. I wouldn't be surprised if the OP was a sock puppet and the master was EW.
You probably live in Atlanta.

I don't have the time, nor do I care enough about GC to make a sockpuppet. Plus mine would be substantially funnier and far more offensive if I were to ever make one.

knight_shadow 10-20-2008 03:21 PM
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Originally Posted by Elephant Walk (Post 1733427)
You probably live in Atlanta.

I don't have the time, nor do I care enough about GC to make a sockpuppet. Plus mine would be substantially funnier and far more offensive if I were to ever make one.
True.

CrackerBarrel 10-20-2008 03:22 PM
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Originally Posted by awkward1 (Post 1733425)
What the Hell?? I live in the south and have two children in SEC schools who are Greek and I have never encountered this type of social pressure!!!! Going Greek is not the end all be all here in the south that some people are making it out to be. Plenty of kids from prominent families don't even go Greek and it isn't an issue at all. Sorority rush is not a 'litmus test for proper raising' and being in a top sorority does not mean you were raised to be an upstanding young woman and most Southerners are well aware of this. I wouldn't be surprised if the OP was a sock puppet and the master was EW.
Where are we considering the south? Because I'm also in the south and agree much more with EW than I do with you. Every single kid I grew up with who was from a "prominent family" who went to school in the south went greek. The kids from pretty good families who didn't tended to be the same kids that seemed odd and other people whispered about how such and such raised a kid like that the whole time they were growing up. And yes, you can pinpoint someone's social status with a pretty fair degree of accuracy by looking at whether they were in one of about 4 fraternities or sororities at the state school. There are a few exceptions to judging people based on tiers, but people do think it's kind of funny when even with a (multiple usually) legacy you can't get into one of the good chapters at your school.

KSUViolet06 10-20-2008 03:23 PM
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Originally Posted by awkward1 (Post 1733425)
What the Hell?? I live in the south and have two children in SEC schools who are Greek and I have never encountered this type of social pressure!!!! Going Greek is not the end all be all here in the south that some people are making it out to be. Plenty of kids from prominent families don't even go Greek and it isn't an issue at all. Sorority rush is not a 'litmus test for proper raising' and being in a top sorority does not mean you were raised to be an upstanding young woman and most Southerners are well aware of this. I wouldn't be surprised if the OP was a sock puppet and the master was EW.

Agreed. I just have a hard time believing that people in the South are just THAT stuck on rush results that having a daughter in a "lower tier" sorority is akin to raising Jeffrey Dahmer. Yes I know that there are moms who are very concerned with having their daughters join certain sororities, but this seems like a bit of a stretch.

Benzgirl 10-20-2008 03:26 PM
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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06 (Post 1733430)
Agreed. I just have a hard time believing that people in the South are just THAT stuck on rush results that having a daughter in a "lower tier" sorority is akin to raising Jeffrey Dahmer. Yes I know that there are moms who are very concerned with having their daughters join certain sororities, but this seems like a bit of a stretch.
Glad to be in the Midwest and out of the nastiness and nosiness.

LaneSig 10-20-2008 03:38 PM
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Originally Posted by CrackerBarrel (Post 1733429)
Where are we considering the south? Because I'm also in the south and agree much more with EW than I do with you. Every single kid I grew up with who was from a "prominent family" who went to school in the south went greek. The kids from pretty good families who didn't tended to be the same kids that seemed odd and other people whispered about how such and such raised a kid like that the whole time they were growing up. And yes, you can pinpoint someone's social status with a pretty fair degree of accuracy by looking at whether they were in one of about 4 fraternities or sororities at the state school. There are a few exceptions to judging people based on tiers, but people do think it's kind of funny when even with a (multiple usually) legacy you can't get into one of the good chapters at your school.
But, how do the parents feel if their son transfers to a campus where his fraternity brothers are a bunch of "Shanes"?

Still BLUTANG 10-20-2008 03:40 PM
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Originally Posted by Elephant Walk (Post 1733427)
You probably live in Atlanta.
this made my day. :p


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