Re: G8Ralphaxi
 

That's awesome! All's well that ends well.

Bump for 2013! People need to read this as both a cautionary tale and the story of a woman who found her home.

PNMs, please note how easy it is to get someone mad.

It's interesting to go back and read this (twelve year old!) thread knowing how much has changed at UF since then. In 2001, there were some significant chapter size disparities between the largest and smallest chapters which fueled negative 'tent talk' about certain chapters. After the introduction of RFM around 2005 (maybe 2006?), the gaps shrank, and as of Spring 2012 the chapters all ranged from membership in the 140s-180s with no outlying chapters in either direction. I'm sure the 'tent talk' will continue, the way gossip always does when you put a few thousand 18 year olds together, but there are no longer any 'weaker' or 'stronger' chapters based on size.

Hey, that's great! I would say the same has happened at several other SEC schools!

Yep, this is the story that popped into my head when I was telling the mom in the other thread that letting her daughter go to random parties was probably worse for the boy factor than for the booze factor.

And I will also say for the millionth trillionth time, public "runs" to sororities where the feelings of PNMs as well as sorority members are thrown out in the open for the whole campus to pick apart are emotional abuse, in my book.

I forgot to add - they don't do that anymore either. It really is a kinder, gentler recruitment at Florida these days. (Which still requires recommendations.)

Wow, it seems weird to read the old rush threads where the actual sorority names are mentioned!

I didn't read the thread originally, but since the OP doesn't seem to be around anymore, I'll say this:

We only read her side of the story.

We have no idea what actually went on at Chi Omega. We have no idea what actually happened with the Hooters thing and how others perceived it. She may have thought it was harmless, but apparently others did not.

We only read her side.

Just a thought.

I actually find it refreshing.

My feeling is, if you are posting your recruitment story non-live you should be able to use the names. Yes you should have some tact, but I think 99% of us here on GC understand that we are reading the POV of an 18-20 year old.

I personally find the language she uses to talk about the other woman more offensive than posing in a Hooters t-shirt.

It was interesting to read that the chapters at UF now have similar sizes. Things certainly change over time. I was shocked to find out, several years ago, that a certain sorority at the University of Miami is struggling with a negative reputation. Back in the day (I did not pledge due to being quite poor, lol) when I attended UMiami that particular sorority was the place to be and now it's the total opposite. Things do change.

I was not so surprised by Molly's choice of words when referring to the Ice Queen. A post above made a good point that we are reading things through the eyes of young people.

I wonder if Molly stayed active with Kappa for her entire time at UF.

Didn't she pledge the same year that curlygirly did? Some people here know how to reach her.

I just read the thread. I liked the story. OP was very open and honest. She was pretty brave, in my opinion, to be so frank about her feelings and the events. Recruitment and the aftermath is not always storybook perfect. Her personal account felt very honest.

I thought I'd bump this for 2014. Although blunt (and who knows what happened behind the scenes?), she still comes around and accepts her new chapter.

This is especially good to read if you're a PNM who might be thinking that everything will go 100% your way in recruitment.