Geez, I go away from the computer for a day and I miss the only Kappa rush story so far this year!

Congratulations to your sister!

The result made this one worth the wait! MSKKG and I were discussing Friday and wondering about this one and here it turns out to be Kappa - Yea!!!

NO!!!
I mean, who could remember?
Especially at the big recruitments...you're lucky to get a seat at all, much less "preferred" seating.
Years ago we had a chapter who wound up with a 2-room chapter room. Yes, rumors abounded as to which was the "preferred" room. It was a lie. There was no preference.
That's just the sort of thing that convolutes into "tent talk."

And congrats to dgdramadawg's little sis and KKG!!

Congrats to your sister! Hooray for a new Kappa!

I do know of one chapter of my school where a girl has flat out told me that there are different "rooms" that they will bring rushees into...that is, all the VIP/legacies/scholars/bombshells, etc that they really really really want will all be led into the same room while everybody else is in different rooms. Not that the girls in other rooms won't have a shot, I guess it's just more of a psychological way of having girls look around and seeing everybody in their room be either the best from their rush group or the best, most accomplished and best rushers (cynically, the most attractive) of the chapter. That kind of made sense to me.

This is VERY similar to what my chapter did during rush as well...top rushees were kept in the house as long as possible, sat up front during skit day, and were usually taken upstairs during serious night...those that "lacked luster" were usually the first out and sat in the back.

My chapter does the same thing...with the exception of Serious Night as that's now considering Hotboxing and therefore illegal. When you have that many girls coming through, you have to come up with an efficient system that enables you to rush the girls you know you really want while providing an opportunity to meet potential rush crushes.

Would it be possible to take all this talk about "signaling" and the like to another Alabama-related thread? Or even quit it altogether?

It's beginning to get detailed and that's bordering MS discussion. I'd hate for a future PNM at Bama to read this thread and base her decisions on where she was told to sit at the chapter house.

A big, fat thank you.

That is ridiculous and don't think that the rushees don't know what you are up to. I bet you lose a ton of top girls this way. Frankly it sounds disgusting.

I think it only serves to make the rushees uncomfortable, whether it's true or not... for example, in this thread I talk about Sis being unable to fully enjoy herself at a house she previously really liked just because she heard a rumor about sitting in a certain location and was too busy counting rows from herself to that spot to let loose and have a good time. I'm sure the houses who do it have their reasons, but I wish they would keep it quiet so it didn't get passed around as tent talk that could upset PNMs.

On a happy note, Sis is really hoping to have the girl who rushed her day one for a Big! :) She is loving KKG!

Funny, when I went through rush it was common knowledge. I think it would be ridiculous for the rushees not to have some idea...

I'm sorry for undermining what OTW said, but I'm really curious HOW you do it? Do girls get matched by name to a rusher who knew in advance who she was getting at the start of a party and knows, then, how to treat her?

I'm used to a system where until pref, you just kind of pick up a girl from the PNM pool. Unless you made the whole chapter actually memorize 1200+ girls, how would a member know when her guest should exit during the first round or second round?

Similarly, unless you match up rusher and pnm in advance, how could you prearrange skit seating really, without it just being weird that some girls were seated in back rows while other front row seats were held for 'top' girls?

Is this kind of stuff MS? Does the national organization know that your chapter has made up a local system of treating pnms according to a prearranged pattern of status in the public aspects of rush?

I understand that chapters have to work to get their top girls, but dumping some guest out of the party early just seems jerky, especially considering that you've designated a rusher to her already. A VIP room, as long as other PNMS are also given a fair consideration, is no problem to me, but other aspects seem counterproductive to having a good reputation for hospitality and friendliness on campus.

Nevermind, I decided to PM instead. Congratulations to your sister for pledging Kappa! They're great girls.

The houses have lists of what girls are coming to what party. At my house, before each party the Rush Chair would read us the list of girls coming through and you would raise your hand as to who was going to pick her up. Now, this only worked with the girls we already knew (top rushees or hometown girls) so the other girls were just picked up by whoever. All of the girls we didn't know prior to rush were definitely given a fair chance. Sometimes we found Rush Finds by looking through our hometown recs and choosing girls we wanted to meet. Hopefully that doesn't give too much away and doesn't seem mean...