Actually, if they have sisters that are that insensitive and/or clueless and/or indiscreet, it sounds like you dodged a bullet, big time.

Quit worrying about it and concentrate on becoming a happy and productive member of the chapter that DID welcome you into its sisterhood.

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Playing the "what if" or "the one that got away" isn't doing you a damn bit of good

When I went through the process, bids were given out on a Saturday. All PNMs were told to expect a bid between the hours of X and Y. (Historically speaking, they used to slip the bid card under your door. Now they have all the PNMs meet in a central building on campus and give out bids at the same time, in the same place.) However, all PNMs are told to be "accessible" all day via phone.

PNMs who were not bid matched were called in advance of the appointed hour and then personally visited by a Rho Chi and member of Panhel. The Panhel rep explained the situation, counseled the PNM, and then laid out any additional options available. In many cases, these unmatched PNMs were then offered a snap bid and blended right into the NMC. It was our policy to always keep snap bids private, as many PNMs wanted to keep that on the down low.

I was released after day two. The morning of day three, my Rho Gammas called me and said that they were very sorry but I had been released from the rest of the chapters and that they were willing to meet face-to-face if I wanted to and asked me if I had any questions.

This might interest some people who have been asking about it.

James Madison Formal Recruitment has the Rho Gammas call their PNMs the morning of Bid Day (Tuesday) to let them know if they have received a bid or if they should not to come to the RG reveal/Bid Cel that evening.
You always get a call each morning from them, so calls don't get quite the stigma here, but you always hope for good news/a full schedule. Your RG also doesn't leave a message; they'll let you know they called, but they will never leave the schedule or bad news on voicemail as a policy.