Exactly. I agree. I'm very conservative also and would only get serious with a conservative woman. Everyone on here has certain standards and certain people they would continue to spend time with.

Too much interest too soon is the number one sign of an abuser. If I only knew then what I know now. Forcing your number out of you and then calling the next day knowing things about you that are rather obscure is NOT a sign that it is meant to be/he is psychic/God sent him to help you/any other good thing.

How did this thread get from serious things like "I won't date him if he drinks and drives" or "I won't date her if she's massively in debt and keeps spending" to "OMG tattoos are super nasty!"

We have threads where we wallow in the shallow* and say what we do or don't like appearance wise, this isn't one of them. This (I thought) was a little more serious discussion about things that can be potentially dangerous or terrible when dating and I'm really disappointed that it had to turn into people being closed minded about appearance. What's next? "Redheads raise a red flag for me because of that Sidney chick from Melrose Place and they are all man stealing psychos!"

*those don't rhyme. Odd, huh?

The thread is "what would raise a red or yellow flay on a first date FOR YOU." Perhaps you didn't catch that. Some people are very conservative....and would like to date conservative people. Going on a date with a girl that was tatted up would probobly raise some concerns.

So if he'd gotten out of the joint a month and a day ago, you'd be cool with that? :p

priceless! i love those plates


edited to add - my own personal red flag would involve inviting me up to see the view from your condo having just met you while on vacation. yay TED!

What, you mean you don't want to drink the absinthe? Or go to breakfast the next morning? Or lunch? Or ditch your friends and go to dinner?

Received any texts lately?

Alas, no. :(

Whoa!!! :eek:

ZTAngel, the moderator, has called folks out about personal attacks.

Hey, if you choose to believe I settled, whatever, you don't pay my mortgage... Personally, I said I settled down... Compared to my fun times I had before I met my husband, i.e. tours on the red carpet in Hollywood premiers, someday, all my partying had to stop... Either I be with a philadering playboy or a goof-ball nerd... I chose the nerd because he was a good man and would love me. Besides, I love him, too... :D

The point is, what are we suppose to accomplish in this life? And life is about choices. Red, white, yellow, pink, and green flags before you date don't mean chit if you don't ante up straight with yourself...

Took me a long time to realize that... Just wanted you to not waste your life away like I did mine...

And I am not doing it because I want to be cool :cool: . I do it because I actually do care, with compassion and faith, for people...

If it's all on the interweb, it's easy for anyone to find out "obscure details."

BTW, how does one FORCE a number out of you? How about the word NO?

Well...thanks. I wasn't getting personal though.

The case I am referring to happened back in 1993. WAY before the internet was easily available. WAY before search engines could make things appear easily. That, and I was very young and naive- and the person knew most of my phone number already for some reason.

Yeppers, stalking.