Okay, correction. Pi Phi cut Red :( . So did her mom's sorority. :( She's going back to DG instead of Pi Phi, I believe--her mom didn't quite remember.

And her mom was outside when the girls got their invitations to 6-party day and she said it was worse than what I'd heard. She said that girls were throwing up and calling home in hysterics. She overheard one girl call home and say, "Mom, don't bother flying in from Texas." This tears me up.

Almost everyone who rushes at AU gets placed, but maybe not where they want.

This scares me for my sister, who will be rushing at AU next fall if that's where she ends up for school. It seems just as scary as UGA!!!

She should get an information packet over what UA's NPC recommends for each day. Pref at Baylor has cocktail dresses, but I don't know about Auburn. Everyone recommends wearing a memorable or vibrant color for the last day, though--that way, your daughter will stand out more! Good luck!

Carnation--sorry that the two dropped out. I hope they get to see that it's more than just dressing up in fancy clothes. I'm glad that everyone else seems to be getting invitations back, though--hopefully, the week will end well!

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And her mom was outside when the girls got their invitations to 6-party day and she said it was worse than what I'd heard. She said that girls were throwing up and calling home in hysterics. She overheard one girl call home and say, "Mom, don't bother flying in from Texas." This tears me up.
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Wow, "Mom, don't bother flying in from Texas?" That poor girl! I can't imagine my mom flying to see me during recruitment (even though I'm only 3 hours away and it wouldn't be necessary, but still). I can't believe rush is so cut throat! I talked to my mom every day during rush, but I'm pretty sure she never once offered to come to WVU to support me. I thought our rush was a little on the competitive side, I can't even IMAGINE what these girls go through!

Those poor, poor women! :(

Please tell me that Auburn is using release figures, Carnation! ADPi always does well at Auburn!

Yes, Auburn uses the release figures and that's why the big groups have to release so many after second parties. Tomorrow, the girls will go to half the amount of parties, 3 instead of 6, so I guess that tonight's cuts won't be minor.

Back in the day, we weren't even allowed phone contact but apparently lots of moms are there in Auburn now and 2 of the moms that we know took their daughters out to eat tonight.

I feel for girls who get cut and I can certainly understand being upset, but this is excessive... throwing up? Hysterics?

There's a lot worse things going on in the world (particularly right now), and a lot worse things that will happen to these women in the course of their life- loss of a loved one, dealing with a serious illness, losing their home, etc. I can understand tradition, family pressure, etc. etc. But come on! Not being in a sorority- or better yet- not being in a particular sorority (I bet a lot of these girls still had at least one invite, not THAT many girls get totally utterly cut from everyone)- is not going to make or break a woman's life.

I think it's their age too. At their age, nothing majorly bad has happened to a lot of them and they don't believe that anything bad will happen to them anyway. When you tell 18 year olds not to drive 90 mph or they'll have a wreck, most of them don't believe it.

I knew a girl who pledged Phi Mu at Auburn whose mom got them a hotel room for the week of rush so the girl had a place to relax after each round without thinking about rush (since that's what the dorm is buzzing with). It was really sweet of her mom, but I'm sure it was expensive!

My mom and I are already planning that if my sister pledges either of our houses next fall, the one of us who is her new sister will be there on bid day. I think a lot of moms/sisters do this if they live nearby, but I can't imagine flying in from Texas!

Good...you have a squirrel in the mix...

Here! Here!!

General commentary on this generation:
We have been protecting them a lot. My own kids included. Kids don't win or lose anything these days. Everybody gets a trophy or ribbon for participating and the philosophy of "everybody is a winner" prevails in kids organizations, sports, etc. People are worried about protecting their self esteem, but at some point in life, there are going to be winners and losers. They aren't always going to get what they want or be the best and they aren't learning to handle those disappointments at younger ages. I think we're doing them a disservice. Whether they don't get into their top choice college, their top choice sorority, their first choice job, etc.. at some point, they are going to "fail" at something and we aren't teaching them how to handle that.

Specifically about Auburn: These chapters are HUGE. This is a situation where I honestly feel that any woman can find a niche in any chapter. Our Auburn chapter has over 200 women in it. There is no way that all 200 share the exact same interests or have the same type of personality. In a group of 200 people, anybody will find a group with whom they will feel a close sisterhood. On a campus with small groups, I think the group personality as a whole could make it difficult to feel "at home" with every group, but at Auburn, I think that even if they aren't placed in their top choice, they will find a group of sisters with whom they click. Perhaps that needs to be emphasized to the PNMs as they go through this journey and there would be fewer hysterics.

I agree with you on all points!

And because of the size of the Auburn chapters, I think that terms like "good fit" are less relevant. Every chapter has its beauties, its athletes, its strong Christians, etc. and most women could feel at home in any of them. I made such a big deal about how perfect Pi Phi was for me and it was but honestly, I look at the chapters I went almost all the way with and I would have fit in there too.

As I write this, the girls are flooding the computer labs to get their pref invitations.:eek:

I totally agree! As an advisor, I try to be compassionate and sisterly, yet they are used to being coddled and I come across as a beyotch.

I am utterly fascinated by this thread. I am so grateful that rush was not this competitive where I went to college, or where I'm advising. (both in the Northeast)