But I bet Harvard alumni would be running to their association directory to see if you are listed. And who knows what they might do when they find out you are not.

This is exactly how I see it. To be honest, I think it makes her look a little sad to still wear the letters of an org that she doesn't want to be a part of anymore.

That was how we felt after my little was asked to leave the sorority. She claimed she didn't want to be there anymore either, yet still wore the t-shirts all the time. It didn't make her look good.

Did she consent to this, or did you just feel entitled to enter her dorm/apartment and remove items?

shut up

When someone was terminated it was explained to her that she was no longer a member and as such did not have a right to the insignia of the org. The girl's big usually went over with the prez or whoever, and the girls terminated didn't have a problem with it...they knew it was coming. If there was a real problem, she would be given $$$ for the expensive items like her jacket.

No one was entering the girl's place and removing items without her being there. :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

Well, yeah, we figured that much.

If someone were to formally disassociate herself from my sorority, she has relinquished all rights and responsibilities as a member. That includes but is certainly not limited to wearing 'nalia.

Can I give you a big hug and stuff?

Exactly. It really isn't a difficult concept to grasp. If someone formally disassociates herself, she is expected to give up her ritual, pin, and other items. It would not make sense to want to keep those things. Unless the person is trying to be disrespectful.

:p

Yes.

WTF....?

Wow, does your national organization have people sign a clause to a Greek Letter Search and Seizure agreement? Why did you have to go thorugh someone's apartment, can't you just be respectful enough to ask her not to wear it?

That is really sad, especially since some people choose to disaffiliate because of finances, illness, or other personal issues in their life.

If I ever disaffiliated from my sorority, it would be for very good reason, and I certainly wouldn't let people come ransack my place for their letters. Who is the psycho now?

Let me ask this:

When you type "disaffiliate" what do you mean?

When I type "disaffiliate" or "disassociate," I am talking about people who do not want to be a Delta anymore. That surpasses financial, health, and personal issues. I am not simply talking about someone who is inactive or nonfinancial for a period of time. Therefore, choosing to relinguish membership through national headquarters is something that should be well thought-out and should be irreversible.

Some people do not willingly return all of their sorority items. In that case, I see nothing wrong with the sorority going to retrieve the items. This does not require force or ramsacking because the person should have no problem with completely letting go of something she no longer wants to be a member of.

Hey Mensa (tm KSigRC),

I just stated in a post that the girl's big or someone else in the sorority went to her house WHILE SHE WAS THERE and picked up the items.

Crack kills, please note. (tm AlphaFrog)

LOL.

Although I'd have no desire to continue wearing letters after disaffiliating, I'd have a big problem with former sisters entering my dorm room or apartment and going through my things. It's about privacy and boundaries, rather than a refusal to let go.