| sororitygirl2 |
05-04-2004 08:55 PM |
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Originally posted by cashmoney
OP-
This is a delicate matter. I'll try to explain it as simple as I can.
How long have her and her Bf been dating? If they've been dating for awhile you're gonna have your work cut out for you. Even so, you can win her over. What you need to do is to distract her. If her life is miserable then you need to be the one to bring new life and happiness to her. Since she has a BF you can't be too forward with her in the realm of your feelings. I suggest you ask her to go out with you one night inorder to get her mind off of all the crap thats going on in her life. Asker her if she wants to go do something, something in a freindship way. Most girls don't like to cheat on their BFs, therefore you need to become her friend first. You need to be someone she can talk to about anything. If you really like this girl I suggest you show her you care about her and her feelings. Show her you want her to be happy. Sooner or later, if shes smart, she'll realize what a great guy you are and things will take off from there. Relationships work best when the two of you are both best of friends and lovers. Be respectful to her and her current relationship, tell her you only want to see the best things happen for her. I suggest you do little things for her that shows you think of her. Maybe send her some flowers and a card that says you want to brighten her day/week up. You need to spend time on the phone with her and write her cute little emails. After a little time has passed, then you need to tell her that she deserves so much better and that as much as she may like her BF, she needs to think later on down the road and what would be best for him. Explain to her that she's not going to change him but rather he has to change himself and sometimes the best thing to do is to leave someone inorder for them to get their life together. She'll get the idea. As I said, its delicate when a girl has a BF. After you have that talk with her, give her some time to think about it, then you can start back up doing some things with her. After she dumps him, she'll start to miss the companionship that she had with them and see you as the person thats been there as far as a male goes. It'll take off from there, trust me. I've done it too many times to count.
Cash-
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Oh my God - this thread is hilarious! I can't believe I hadn't found it yet since I've been back. I have so much to say about it.
First of all, Cash, baby - most of your advice is great. I'll say it again - you know your s**t!
Regarding the post above, that is EXACTLY how one of my boyfriends won me over in college. He saw that the long-distance relationship I was in was becoming too much to handle, and swooped in for the kill as the "caring, sweet friend." (I've told you about him before, Cash - he was the Pike that acted just like you!)
Regarding how long you date before marriage, it's just a case-by-case thing... My parents dated three weeks before they got engaged and were married three months later (granted it was in "war" times) - they've been married 37 years.
Cheating genetic? No, but perhaps learned through the environment you grow up in - just like abuse.
And, finally, I asked for my advice through PM a few days ago because I am a secretive little girl... I haven't heard back and have basically just decided to move on from the boy. Some days are better than others, but I'm getting by. You better still reply though! :) |
