| HQWest |
09-02-2014 01:18 PM |
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Originally Posted by 33girl
(Post 2289398)
It doesn't happen often, but it does happen. Sometimes the girl has accepted the bid for the wrong reasons and again, that's something a chapter that uses COB often needs to learn how to gauge. I think we all knew women who got along beautifully with our sisters as friends, but who were just not constituted to live in a sorority environment. This is something the pnm and the group need to be honest with themselves about.
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Here's the thing - a lot of schools have these huge parties for Bid Day (big reveal and run to the house, etc). Maybe a Party at the lake for new member retreat. Then after that they might have mixers to meet all the members and find a big sis, activities to get to know members and the pledge class, or swaps to meet fraternity members. Still women are disappointed when they realize chapters have rules and requirements, that it costs money.
Chapters do not always do a good job of that with COB girls. COB members need to feel just as special as new members. Some CPCs are not doing a good job where shade is cast on chapters that need to COB. If on top of that when the girls join the chapter they are being told they shouldn't run for office they're a COB, they can't help with recruitment - they're just a COB. That's worse than just the no more unicorns and rainbows. Plus, these girls were your friends before they joined - what's different now? Won't you still be their friend if they deactivate?
COB girls need a Bid Day, new member period etc. They need to learn the meaning of sisterhood. Maybe its not the same length of pledge period - but you can do whatever you want for COB. Send a team with balloons and a fancy engraved bid to go pick them up and bring them to the house for a pizza party or an ice cream social. (You can also use it for practice for a bigger pledge class....) |
