Originally Posted by starang21 (Post 1323245)

just to reiterate.


you're looking WAY too much into it.

Originally Posted by Marie (Post 1323306)

Seriously

KAY10 - No one has a problem with a guy who is 'nice' according to your definition. These guys tend to have success in dating. Unless, as I stated before, the guys are seeking out women who are superficial and have their own esteem issues to deal with. What women do have a problem with are guys who do fit the profile of soft or doormat. These are the guys who often run to every female friend that they have and ask why girls are leaving them for being 'too nice'. This further solidifies their 'soft-ness' b/c this lack of self-confidence and need for affirmation is even more unattractive.

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet (Post 1323580)

KAY10

I married a nice guy and I used to date a whole bunch a thugs.

The reasons why: because at least I'd expect the thug to do me wrong. Maybe 'cuz of poor self-esteem on my part, maybe because I thought I was less deserving. Whatever the reasons. The fact that I wasted my time and psyche with fools who cared less about me.

But then, there's this thing about "God's time". Well, I wasn't on His time and I had to wait. I tried to force it, but it never worked or it worked for the worst.

Then, I had a "paradigm shift", short of a "revelation" from God. And that's when I met my now husband...

So, I think you've got to give some time to growing up and experiencing life before you "settle down" with someone you make your spouse. Slow down, homey...

Also, the flip side of your question:

Why is it that bruhs only like fake heifered strippers with no clothes on and 10 inch hells. That have 5 kids from 7 different baby's daddies. Living in the bottom with no direction in life but ho'ing?

And don't say she lookeded real good up in the club after a few drinks...

Originally Posted by OtterXO (Post 1323602)

No. You are completely wrong. If you got that from the posts above then you should really go back and re-read them. It seems to me like you've decided that you have all women pegged....so there's really nothing any of us can say to change your mind. Good luck to you.

Originally Posted by macallan25 (Post 1323420)

I think you should calm down.

Originally Posted by KAY10 (Post 1323908)

I don't think anyone is wrong. Everyone has their own opinion. I didn't say all women, I said most women are like this. You're right I have my own opinion, and I'm not trying to change yours. In fact from reading the post I don't think anyone really disageed with me, I just think a lot of women have the wrong definition of a nice man. I don't think a nice man is a doormat.

Originally Posted by OtterXO (Post 1324037)

Actually you did say all women. You said And based on that statement I said

Seriously, take a look at the thread that kddani posted the link to.....because it's basically the same type of circular conversation that we're having here. Maybe it's a result of my legal training, but a circular conversation isn't really equal to a debate in my mind.

Originally Posted by KAY10 (Post 1325445)

That's cool. You and kddani are entitled to your opinions. In my mind I think it's a good topic.

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog (Post 1325496)

If you are a guy who complains about women who don't like "nice guys" you have a 90% chance of being a doormat, not a "nice guy".

Originally Posted by KAY10 (Post 1310039)

Can someone please tell me why women like bad boys???:confused: You know, the thugs, losers, guys that mistreat women.:confused: Hey fellas have you ever heard this: "Oh he's cute and all, he's just too nice." What the hell.:confused:

Originally Posted by Langox510x (Post 1327685)

Hey, I thought KAPPA's were the ladies men, the pretty boys on every campus, and all the Kappa's I know are a little dogish to the females, lol!

No disrespect though, my dad's a Kappa, and I can't see him having ever disrespected a lady.

Anyways, my friend Elizabeth who has been my friend for about a year now is in a pretty bad situation. She is extremely pretty might I add, and is with this dude who is older and isn't even in college and told her the other week if she didn't do what he said he would just go out and cheat on her. He's called her fat, ugly, a child (shes 19) and has broken up with her thousands of times. I'll admit I haven't always been the good guy when it comes to the ladies but this guy is a joke.

I'm not ever overly nice to her, but I tried to stand up for her ad she ended up getting mad at me. One thing that gets me is how her roommate and this other girl told me Elizabeth should be with me and how I was far hotter then her boyfriend too. I guess I'm just the good guy and the good guy never gets the girl.

Originally Posted by starang21 (Post 1327742)

your friend's problem is that she's an idiot for staying.