Because of the way I know my extended family is, I wouldn't want to go seeking to wind up in a serious relationship with someone of a race that would offend them. Why would I want to put someone I loved into that kind of situation, having to deal with that? If it just happened that I fell in love with someone who was another race, then of course I would stand up to my family about it, but I'm not going to lie - I am glad that it's not an issue. To have to drag someone through that kind of intense ordeal seems cruel to me.

Does that make sense?

shhhh......

*blushes*

My boyfriend who is a TKE is white hispanic (Colombian) and I am half jamaican half black American.

It's only offensive if you disagree. He didn't say that nonwhites are subhumans or anything like that.

It all boils down to how seriously you take this stuff and whether you're searching for something to be offended by. You chose to click on this thread knowing that "interracial relationships" would prompt differing opinions to be expressed.

I completely see where you're coming from and agree. EVERYONE has a vision of how they want their life to be. That typically includes even the most minute details of their ideal mate and MOST people in this society envision (and take actions that are reflective of their vision) being in a racially homogenous marriage. ;)

Message to any naysayer: If what I just typed doesn't apply to you or your sister's cousin's uncle, don't attach it to yourself and don't be offended.

You're absolutely right, and I think if I loved her it may be different, but because of my shame, I doubt I would let my feelings get that strong for her. I know that's jacked up and your right, it's just that I've never dated a white babe before. I did go to the movie with one recently. She asked me if I wanted to go to the show with her, and since we are friends that was o.k., but I wouldn't get any closer than that.:o

It's the same attitude I grew up around...the scary corner of the universe where people do things like use the Bible to discredit interracial marriages by saying something to the effect of "God told the Jews not to breed horses and donkeys to get mules, so he disapproves of interracial unions." I too am coming from inside that bubble so I know exactly where he's coming from.

I hope you're just playing devil's advocate because I know you're not that naïve.

We both clicked on the thread knowing it could get controversial. That's ok with me.


ETA: Here's how it works.

FOR MEN: White men can "date" anyone they choose as long as they don't bring the girls home. And, they can marry anyone but a Black woman without much trouble. A non-Caucasian woman will raise eyebrows but the *indiscretion* will be overlooked in time. Of course, the non-Caucasian woman will always be referred to as "that cute little [fill in "race"] (as in, "Where is Evan and the cute little Indian girl he married?")

FOR WOMEN: White women can "date" anyone they choose as long as they don't bring the boys home. And, they can marry only Caucasian men...period. If not, there will be trouble. And, if they marry a Black man, they'll likely be disowned.

Sorry, I am not from some corner of the universe that uses the bible to discredit interracial marriage. How you came to that conclusion is beyond me.

PS - That last part is rather moronic and completely idiotic. You are being an idiot.......and you are taking this whole discussion to a completely ridiculous level.

So you have a chip on your shoulder above and beyond what he posted.

Stop attaching your baggage to what he was saying.

I'm big on social meaning and finding what's embedded in words and actions. However, in this instance, you have no basis for your rants other than to say you disagree with him and it (from face value) reminded you of something you grew up around.

But you HAVE to be. :eek: How else will some people make sense of what you posted?

LOL. Yes and no. :)

Like I wouldn't go patrolling the streets trying to find someone to date who my grandparents and certain aunts and uncles would never accept, but if I wound up in a relationship with someone who they wouldn't accept, that wouldn't stop me from being with them. It seems really wrong to me to deliberately put someone in that kind of situation. I would be really mad if I started randomly dating an Asian guy (for example) that I met at a bar and it turned out his whole family hated me for being white - it would be like, why would you hit on me in the first place?!? Now, if we started off being friends and it just evolved from there, that's different. I could deal with that, and in that case wouldn't be mad at the Asian guy with the mean family.

It could be that he's rebellious.

At bottom what most of these posts don't speak of is the larger worldview that generates these responses. They aren't benign or simply the way things are. They are the result, on many different levels, of conscious brain washing in the ways of white supremist thinking. It's a ball of lies.It's affects us all in different ways. If your heart is cleansed by the Holy Spirit of God--yes, I am a Christian--then you'll begin to see ALL people for who they are, as created in God's image.Yes,one may have all kinds of preferences but most of what I see reflected here are more superficial things, in the broader schemem of life and eternity.