I didn't have a big wedding, so there wasn't really anything to incorporate for me. :)

However, at many of my sorority sisters' weddings, we did a candlelighting. Most of us married non-fraternity men, so I can't tell you too much about what the guys did. However, IIRC, seems the one or two who did marry fraternity guys had some sort of fraternity related song as part of the wedding reception.

I'm going to have a dilemma for my wedding. 1 Corinthians 13 makes me barf everytime I hear it now. I'm not that keen on our colours for the wedding either. Maybe I'll compromise by using lavender and peach. IDk...I'll figure something out.

I wasn't a member at the time but...

My wedding colors were Navy and Silver...my mom missed the memo

Her dress was bordeaux with silver accents :D
But she worked it and looked great

My sister (A Sig Kap) wore her badge under her dress and carried violets in her bouquet. I distinctly remember at her reception her sisters singing to her and her bursting into tears. :D (My sis is prone to crying at the drop of a hat)

She had two Sig Kaps as bridemaids and they had the sorority colors incorporated into their bouquets, along with pearl necklaces. They also managed to find my sister's paddle and pictures (complete with 80's big hair. My poor sis looked mortified. :D) It is also my understanding that her pledge sisters, her big, and her little kidnapped her a few days before the wedding and did, among consuming several bottles of wine and taking incriminating pictures, a candlelighting ceremony. Said candle is among my sister's wedding momentoes.

one of our bros married a member of a Latina sorority, but i guess neither wanted any of us doing our calls or strolling because several of his family members were members of another sorority...not to say that didn't stop the girls from doing their calls....every half hour.

Not that I am getting married anytime soon, but when I do I planned to wear my late grandmother's pearls as both my "something old" and my little nod to sigma. I will prolly buy some plain pearl studs as my "something new" too.

A few years ago I was at a sisters wedding... she did purple accents with blue and cream colors. (As much as I love sigma, sometimes a little purple goes a long way!) The centerpeices were gold candle holders, covered with cream flowers and with purple candles in them. Her dress was cream and she carried cream flowers wrapped in purple ribbons. Her badge was on her garter under her dress.

When my brother got married his wife didn't really want any of his Lambda Chi stuff there, but his best man was a brother too so they had small green ribbons under their buttoneers (I know bad spelling!) and I think the other brothers wore the same small green ribbons under their badges. I wish I could remember more, but sometimes that day was a blur!

I got married about 1 1/2 years ago and had 2 sisters in my wedding party (only had 4 friends on my side of the wedding party total--it was a small destination wedding.) I incorporated our giving flower, a white rose, into my bouquet and had all of my bridesmaids' bouquets made completely out of white roses. My official sorority flower is the magnolia, but it's hard to go into the florist and say, "I need to order 1 dozen magnolia blooms for rush next week." So instead we substitute the white rose when we present flowers to members for official occasions, such as delivering bids, congratulating new members, etc.

My sorority's mascot is the dolphin and I thought briefly about ordering wedding invitations with dolphins on them (got married by the beach), but my husband thought it was a little over the top. But if it wasn't for a sorority sister introducing us, there wouldn't have even been a wedding.....:p

I didn't use Pi Phi symbols at my wedding (clash between Pi Phi colors and the Christmas theme), but my AOII daughter carried a bouquet of red roses with red hypericum berries at her wedding. Some girls she was a camp counselor with for years formed a circle around her and sang "Rose", an old Girl Scout song, and I guess some people thought it was some of the AOIIs there singing a sorority song!

Oh, but some of my Pi Phi sisters did come into the bathroom after our reception and sang "The Legacy Song" while I was dressing to leave. LOL! I think they were too embarrassed to sing in front of the guests.

My biological sister had a cape cod themed wedding. If you wanted sailboats, perhaps you could incorporate them into a beachy wedding?

I'm getting married June 30th this year. When I started planning my wedding last year I wasn't a member yet. Although Pink is one of my favorite colors but I decided to go with Tiffany Blue and Chocolate Brown.
Sounds weird but looks great together.
I will be wearing my pearls though. It's also tradition that any member of AKA present at the reception circle around the AKA bride and serenade her by singing our National Hymn. And oh you better believe there will be some Struttin going on... My favorite guy friends from college are all Alphas and they will be in full effect!! My fiance isn't greek so he could care less :D

When I toured Chi Omega Headquarters, they had a beautiful lace handkerchief embroidered with X O - I was told it used to be (maybe it still is?) a tradition for a big sis to give her little sis the handkerchief at initiation, to be carried at her wedding. They also had a collection of gorgeous hand-painted china vases which one chapter gave to its brides.
As for me, I used pink carnations in my flowers, and had Matt.vii read at the service - all the Gamma Phis perked right up at that familar scripture! My sisters circled me and sang "Remember Gamma Phi Beta". My now-ex husband is a Sigma Chi, but his buddies were too drunk to serenade me. Not that I'm bitter . . .

I was initiated into AOII earlier this year. On pref day, we all participated in a moving ceremony with roses and rose petal signifying our wishes, and on bid day, the same roses were waiting on the tables for us in little vases.
Our pledge mom gathered them all up, dried them, and told us all to take some of the petals. We're supposed to save them in a special jar our Bigs gave us on initiation and keep them until our wedding. This way, our chapter will be there even if not there physically. I was told it's tradition, not sure if it's for our chapter or all of AOII, but a cute idea :)

aww that is such a cute idea! it must be only your or a few chapters b/c ive never heard of that before.

my boyfriend and I aren't engaged yet, but we have talked about it. I have my heart set on pink bridesmaids dresses, but I'd love to incorporate Kappa as well. I know I'll be wearing my badge..and possibly use the "fleur de lis" idea for invites? has anyone been to a wedding with a TKE? My man was a refounder of his chapter, and I know he'll want his fraternity included, but cherry red and battleship grey are not options, lol. I'd love for them to sing the sweetheart song to me..maybe I can hint at it.

any other ideas?