We did that too. We figured that since we were paying for the baby lamb chops and the open bar, we were damn well going to enjoy them. :p It gave us a chance to chat with a lot of our guests without having to "work the room" instead of eating our dinner.

There is a custom at Nigerian weddings called "spraying". The guests shower the bride and groom with money-lots and lots of money.

I attended a wedding in Scotland where the bride "sold' kisses. She made quite a bundle too. I was like :eek: . I was told that this was a very old custom.

Guess all of this really just depends on your culture.

Don't even get me started on some of the wedding DJs I've heard. One played BREAD (this is in 1998). I went up to him and said "can you please play some Led Zeppelin or Pink Floyd before my boyfriend has a seizure."

If a 33 wedding ever comes to pass, I intend to be total music Nazi and go through the dj's collection and REMOVE the music I find objectionable...and write into the contract if he plays something I told him not to, no money.

Yeah my cousins' weddings in NY have done this too but I think the adults were having more fun with them than the kids.

LOL! Alas, my sister is paying for the D.J. but I am planning on calling him & giving him a list of absolute DON'TS! I detest the chicken dance, the electric slide, & the macarena. I refuse to have that damn music played at my wedding. There is also some other music that I can't stand that I won't have at my wedding.

I thought people had bands at weddings, not DJs.

i've never been to a wedding with a band...all of them have been DJ's...including the one I'm going to this weekend

It all depends on personal preference. For my ceremony, I'm having two gentlemen play on guitars while I walk down the aisle. A pianist will be playing during the dinner & the DJ takes over for the dancing.

People can flame me for this if they get offended, but I'll go ahead and say it -- in my experience, the weddings I've attended that I would consider classy and tasteful have had bands. The others have had DJs. Please note that this is only my personal experience based on my life history of attending weddings in one specific geographic area.

I've never enjoyed what DJs play at weddings, but then I have very particular taste in music. I had the most fun at a wedding where they had a funk band called Uptighty -- they were awesome. I also dig Latin jazz and the like.

I'll just come right out and admit that I am a total wedding snob. I think most of the crap that goes on at wedding receptions is tacky and horrible -- so go ahead and discount my opinion if you like. I mean seriously, the chicken dance?! AW HELL NO.

I'm going to have an emo band play at my wedding, valkyrie. Would that be tacky or acceptable according to your rules? ;)

I think band vs. DJ depends what region of the country you are in. Two of my friends had a jazz band - however, they were the exception, and it was people they knew personally.

Bands are also much much more expensive. And a lot of the wedding bands around here just play covers of the same stuff DJs would play, so why blow the money?

Because the music that they constantly play
IT SAYS NOTHING TO ME ABOUT MY LIFE
Hang the blessed DJ

It's never a bad time to quote the Smiths. :cool:


Truthfully, I think a band sounds better than a DJ. I prefer live music. There are so many talented musicians in NYC so that might also be a factor.

LOL.

Emo band = acceptable only if you're sugar and spice.

Cover band = acceptable never.

I'm up in the burbs, you know, but I'd say it's about 60/40 djs over bands from the posts on theknot.com.

We had a dj for a number of reasons:
1) Our wants in music styles were way too varied to find a band that could handle it. We had disco, 80s, hip hop, salsa, merengue, Motown, Sinatra, Reggaton, etc.
2) I love to dance to songs that have a "meaning" to me - so like 33 said, it would just be a cover band and so I might as well have the dj b/c
3) it's cheaper! :)

We had a DJ, which worked out better for us. We met with the company several times to get a playlist, set the conduct for the DJ and pretty much plan the whole night. By the time the night came, the DJ knew exactly what to do and what to play. He took requests and all that, but it still ran exactly as we wanted.

I know people who have had problems with both DJs and bands. The bands we looked at were way too cheesy, and we were sold on the DJ idea before we even started looking.

Again, it's all a taste thing; we loved the way our wedding turned out, and really that's all that matters.