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A post whore is someone who posts many times in a row in an effort to "up" their posts. Say, four times.

More accurately, someone who's just trying to catch up with the convo.

Senusret I, are these percentages still holding true for NPHC organizations?

You could have asked him that without resurrecting this tired thread.

I actually don't know. You might want to contact Dr. Gregory Parks at http://bgloscholar.blogspot.com/

In response, I think you hit on it when you talked about NPHC members being able to become graduate initiates... that is really unheard of in most NPC/NIC organizations. It's either pledging while undergrad or missin' the boat. That fact alone means that you are going to get members that are dead serious about lifetime commitments. I like that. Alot.

I have a question now... when I transferred into my university, from a school with no Greeks whatsoever, I chose to go through Rush to see what was out there and meet some other students. One of the reasons that I chose Sigma Nu was because of the things I found out about them, the men I met, the entire experience I heard about, and the genuine brotherhood I felt was there. I was interested in the BGLOs as well, as a Black man, but getting information was SO FREAKIN' HARD not knowing anyone at the institution. I didn't even know how to go about finding out info about intake because of the secrecy surrounding everything. Kind of turned me off. My biological little brother is now in a similar situation. First year at a new school, knows only a few people... Any advice on how he can get the info he desires? Smalltown boys don't have plethora of active Greeks to draw information from...

ealymc,

If I were your brother, I would first decide on what kind of experience I was looking for.

When I was considering Greek life, belonging to a "black" fraternity was very important to me, BUT I still looked at all kinds of organizations. (For a very brief period I even considered LUL (La Unidad Latina, Lambda Upsilon Lambda)

But at the end of the day, I was in love with the notion of being part of an African American brotherhood.

Your brother might not be into that. I think Firehouse said in another thread that guys should just seek to be around the type of men they would enjoy being around. For me, those were Alphas.

I know that doesn't entirely answer your question.... put it to you like this. He should know in his heart whether he's looking for a cultural experience. If he is, THEN he should research the five NPHC fraternities' national websites. He might be able to narrow down his preferences that way.

When he approaches the members, he should approach them as potential friends, not potential brothers -- if his first conversation is about membership, that will be a turn off. (Or put him into a position of compromised liability for himself and the members)

If he engages them in average, friendly conversation, he might be able to decide if those are the kinds of guys he wants to be around fraternally. THEN, when he's made up his mind on his own, THEN he discloses his interest.

That's what I would do if I was HIM. If I was YOU, I'd just tell him that Sigma Nu was the only way. And if I was ME, and he was MY brother, I'd tell him he'd be disowned if he didn't pledge Alpha, lol

when it comes to the NPHC, we like for ppl to find the info out on their own, do their own research, thats what the internet is for. truth be told, its really not that hard to get at pplz. We dont really give out intake info, except for GPA requirements, and credit requirements. i went to an HBCU so i cant really say how it goes on on other campuses, but we didnt have rushes, just informationals. As far ya brother goes...tell him to do his research into the orgs, whether it be NPHC or non-NPHC. go with the org that best fits his personality and ideals, and when he makes up his mind, express his interest to the bruhs of that org on the yard. If there's no active chapter on campus, he can try and contact a chapter @ a nearby school, and they should be able to put him in contact with someone who can help bring back the org to the campus.

That would work if his school HAD Sigma Nu! LOL I really do feel like it's totally a personal decision and you find what feels right for you - after careful investigation. Thanks for the notes. I'll pass them on.

Just two remarks to your statements. First, if you wanted to find out info about the NPHC frats, you could have; THOUSANDS of people apply to and cross in NPHC orgs every year. Secondly, the NPHC orgs did not offer the instant gratification that you were seeking because transfers students normally have to have a minimum number of credits AT THAT institution before applying; no fault, just reality.

As far as advice to your brother, I can't give any better that has already been given except that you share with him my remarks above.

He can start by just getting involved. We do stuff in other organizations as well. Check the national website of the org. Somewhere, somehow he can get in touch with someone who is a member. Each organization does hold informationals that are open for everyone to attend.

I agree with Nikki. He definitely needs to be visible on campus. Chances are, he'll meet some members of the frat by being involved in different groups ... and then his relationship with them can be a natural progression, rather than the forced "I reallllly wanna join your organization."

BTW: I'm glad this thread was resurrected. I'd never seen it before.

I had never seen it either until someone resurrected it before me. I think it was close to 3 years old! LOL

He's already dorm president (as a freshman - ambitious like his big bro :)) and is definitely on the right path to being involved and making the most of his experience. I'm sure he'll make all the right decisions when the time comes.

But, see, what we are saying is your little brother needs to be involved in activities "relevant to the Black community". He is doing the fun and good things in college as he should, but who are is "role models" besides you and your family who happened to be greek and active?

If he wants to be a part of the NPHC, go where the Black folks go. And not all of us are ghetto, hood rats and thugs. You would not say that about historical African Americans in the past would you? The reality is, if you or your brother are not attending HBCU's, then you won't see us a PWI because our numbers are not vast at a 50K student population.

Moreover, if folks roll with the punches because others are doing it kind of thing, then the NPHC is not for you. It is about doing the "road less traveled"--especially at PWI's. That is why it is a foreign concept to many...

Also, the greek life coordinator should have all the contact information on active chapters. Most universities request this information to do activities on the campus.

Just trying to help.