I think it's something they tried for a short time, and I think they only did it at a few campuses.

If you end up doing it, you are doing it solely for her not you. For whatever perceived status or "awwwww" feeling it gives her.

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dang im kinda late on these responses but hey...ive been busy..haha
haha oh man thats awesome, thrown in a lake...haha

haha, INDEED.....seems we've already been through this, but really...the "hazing" thing was taken way out of context..wrong choice of words i guess

ummm....those guys had a big happy lovefest, eh??? :eek: ...hmmm....well, :D sure glad I'm a Pike... ;)

haha, i never knew about that!!

word, filthy....always great to see support among bros...YES indeed, that is brotherhood at its finest...

Rho Pi chapter of TKE was colonized here when the University of Rio Grande was still Rio Grande Community College. They colonized I believed in '87 and Rio changed their name in '90. But hey, the boys are still going strong!

*once again sees nothing wrong with community colleges*

Would someone please find my boyfriend and maybe give him a hint regarding this topic? (not that I'm obsessive about it or anything) It all just sounds so sweet and sincere----I'm totally jealous!!!

My bf knows I want to get lavaliered (for them lavaliering is the equivilant of pinning since they don't pin) but he's not around campus this school year... so... drats!

Bad idea.

'Nuff said. :(

Bumping time...

that and it's a good time to do so since it updates my reply two posts above...

My boyfriend surprised me a few days after our one year and DID end up lavaliering me! Tricky boy... :)

His fraternity means a lot to him so it was really awesome when he did it... ^_^ And as for hazing, there is no hazing when he does it here :) Unless you count me getting to sit on his knee while they sang to me :P

Oh and is it unusual that our candle ceremony has pinning as one time around and lavaliering as two times around? None of the fraternities here pin AND lavalier, they just do one or the other and it's equivilant.

My brother and his girl are lavaliered. I don't know about pining. But we all really like this girl (she's an alpha xi) and my poor mother CRIED when she found out they got lavaliered because seh wanted to be there to see it. I just thought it was cool.

I wish my boy was greek, I'd like to be lavaliered. I've thought about asking if I can lavalier him...but I don't know what the etiquette is on this.

We didn't have a lot of people get pinned, but it was considered higher up (i.e. more times around) than lavaliering.

We didn't do pinnings at UCF. Instead we did lavalierings. The only thing I disliked about the tradition was that the fraternity would then razz the member who'd lavaliered his girlfriend and throw him in the lake naked or something. It was almost expected.

We also called lavaliering the "kiss of death" because once a couple was lavaliered, they rarely made it and broke up a few months later. The other lucky ones stayed happily in love, and some led to engagement, etc. :)

So, I think it just depends on the couple if pinning is a good idea. It think it can be a very sweet way for a fraternity man to show his love for his girlfriend.

... Of course, I'm convinced most girls are just in it for the sorority candle lighting they will get to celebrate the pinning. ;)

We don't pin here @ KSU. The guys just do lavaliering. Personally, here I think it's all just something for girls to gush about. A guy in the fraternity next door to us lavalieverd 3 girls in one year. It's almost never anything terribly serious. It's weird because it seems like as soon as my friends got lavaliered, they broke up maybe 2 months later. :rolleyes:

Since I didn't see anyone else mentioning it so far in this thread, I thought I would point out that often a fraternity jewelry maker has special "sweetheart" pins and jewelry specially made for this purpose so that you don't have to give up your own member pin. You might not see it advertised on their main website or ads, but if you inquire, you may find out about it.

www.BurrPatt.com is the maker of the jewelry for my husband's fraternity and the website doesn't have the sweetheart stuff listed, but my hubby called and asked them about it and they sent out a whole list of items that were available, including a sweetheart pin and special sweetheart lavaliere.

So men, investigate your options before you give away the pin you were initiated with!

We would dump our brother into Wescott Fountain. It sounds bad, but it helped to guarantee that guys weren't lavaliering every girl on the second date to get some.

At FSU, lavaliers were popular. They got a girl a two candle pass dandle light ceremony. Pinnings were much less common, and were worth a three candle pass. Engagements were worth a whopping four candle pass.

What is a one candle pass for then?

We do: 1) Pinning 2) Lavaliering 3) Engagement 4) Pregnancy